Spanking: Some consider it a necessary part of raising a child...others consider it abuse. Does it cause children to learn to use violence, as some have claimed, or can it be a healthy, positive form of discipline?
2006-09-09 17:20:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I think depending on the situation and how you go about it, it can be a positive thing. I know my kids have learned that they aren't going to do things anymore that will result in a spanking.
Using your hand is wise because then you can feel how hard you are doing it. That's the safest way if you are going to spank, but overall, i don't think there is anything wrong with it.
2006-09-09 17:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the parents, the child, the society, etc. Is it necessary? No, but the same can be said for grounding (imprisonment, as a counselor called it once).
Some violent people were spanked; others were never spanked.
At the end of the day, it is a parent's prerogative. I spank at times. I am not sure how healthy it is.
As I said in another post, sometimes, just sometimes, kids will not do something because they know they will get spanked.
2006-09-10 09:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that don`t have kids consider it abuse but when a child has been told more than 3 or 4 times to clean there room or pick up there shoes or behave when your in a restaurant and they look at you like screw you then there getting that butt busted. Time out is a joke and I would like to see how these people that don`t have kids handle my 4 kids. They couldn`t do it!! Not without busting that butt. They should bring back corporal punishment in schools and maybe the kids would not be the way they are today. These are the kids that will run this country someday and if you think this country is in bad shape now look out. I hate to think that some of these weak parents that don`t believe in doing something about there kids talking back to them and telling them off don`t deserve there a s s es busted. I`m not saying beat the heck out of them but discipline your kids and make them have some respect for there parents and there elders. I got my butt busted everytime I didn`t listen or really messed up. Theres nothing wrong with it and as long as you don`t leave marks on them it`s not abuse!!! It`s not against the law to spank your children it is if you leave marks on then then thats abuse and that can be serious!!
2006-09-10 00:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh don't ask me as i love spankings. yeah i know but hey it takes all kinds ok.
i do think though that spankings have a time and place and should never be hard slaps, it doesn't take a lot to make a child know they were wrong and that type of behavior won't be tolerated. done right it is sometimes the only thing that a parent can do to regain control. done wrong and yes it's abuse. it's all in how the parent goes about it and if they take the time to afterwards talk with the child, explain why they got the spanking and that if they acted and behaved like expected to they'd never have to worry about getting another spanking as it's not what the parent wants to happen either.
2006-09-10 00:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you use it properly, than it is a form of discipline. I only use it if my kids are in some form of danger or extreme naughtyness. Usually I just have to look them in the eye and talk sternly, but othertimes, well a little slap on the butt doesn't hurt. Watching inappropriate TV shows is what causes violence, not spanking.
2006-09-10 00:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was spanked as a child and I'm not violent or abusive. I think proper spanking can be a good form of discipline. As long as the parent doesn't spank while angry or go overboard.
2006-09-10 00:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by Nico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has an opinion on this, as they do most things, and a consensus will never be reached.. but I grew up being 'spanked'.. all I remember is that it was hitting.. I do not spank my child.. I believe it teaches that hitting is ok.. when it is not. There are other, very effective, ways of discipline.
2006-09-10 00:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be healthy if you're not angry as a part of it and if you understand principles of good discipline. If you get mad and spank - that can lead to the parent getting out of control. I found that 1,2,3 Magic by Dr. Phelan works much better than the spanking method.
2006-09-10 00:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with spanking. I think that spanking is a healthy punishment. Did it hurt us and our parents and grandparents to be spanked. No, and in fact older generations were the better ones. People moan and complain that children now of days have no respect and are out of control. Well DUH!! we don't punish them. We give them time outs, OUCH, that hurts. NOT. I would have killed to go to my room when I was younger, as punishment. Kids have fun stuff in their rooms, tv, cellphones, phones, games, toys, so on and so forth. What a punishment. Nothing wrong with spanking, as long as you don't take it to far. If you spank them it hurts their feelings before it hurts them physcially. and I can think of more than a handful of kids now of days that could have used a good ol' beating.
2006-09-10 00:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, I only give my 3 year old son a hiding when he has done something wrong, or throws an extreme tantrum, when he breaks something or takes something I smack his hand, but mostly I think smacking is a positive form of discipline as the child will then know that he has done something wrong and would probably not do it again as he will learn what is to come of his wrong doings. My cousin has never smacked her son(5yrs)and he has absolutely no manners and gets away with everything.(all she says is "moenie stout wees nie) so he does not know right from wrong.
2006-09-10 00:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Silke B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋