I just want to know what I can do that would make my husband want to spend more time doing things together. We have 3 kids that keep us busy so when they go to bed I feel that is our time to do whatever. His line of work intails that he works from his computer 24/7! I mean there are times we even sleep w/this thing in our bed! How can I get him to put the computer away and work on us?
2006-09-09 17:17:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This will be a tough one for you. The reason being that he should already know that he needs to spend more time with you. Here's a suggestion.
Get a baby sitter for the kids and invite him out to dinner. Make it a very romantic place.Your treat all the way. Buy him a flower bouqet and try and arrange for the waiter to bring it to your table just before desert...or whatever time you choose. Try to look as beautiful and as sexy as you possibly can. Keep a pretty smile on your face (If this does not fit your budget, make it a small picnick or evening in the park or at an amusement center).
I would say, midway between dinner start telling him how much you miss and desire for the two of you to spend more time to gether. Let him know that You know how hard he works, but you need him to work on you just a little more as well. Your desires for him is still there more than ever. You need this as much as you need food or water.
Do your best to stay calm and don't let the conversation get out of hand or lead to an argument. Tell him how much you are enjoying the evening and how good you feel right now. You are not asking for this every week, but once every two or three months would be great. What you really want though is just an hour or two daily...or even twice or three times a week, just for the two of you. Taking a break with you in this manner would do him good also...and it would do wonders for you. That is all your loving, devoted wife is asking. Will he please try and do this for you? If he fails to cooperate or participate in the conversation, or try to become argumentative, and not see the need you are trying to present, stop cold before any unpleasentness ruin the evening even furthur. Just let him see your dissappointment. Hopefully he cares enough to want the same or at least have the where-to-all to try...and to prove to you he is still in love with you and still care.
Good luck!
2006-09-09 18:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's busy on the computer in bed, get your sexy look on and get in bed from the foot of the bed and smoothly work your way up to his lap and I hope you can figure out the rest. You should have his full attention in about 1-2 minutes. Keep it up for at least a half hour, pun intended. I am willing to bet the rest of the night will be enjoyed.
2006-09-09 17:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by susan s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, the solution is completely up to you. and it seems like it would be very easy for you to turn him to you from the computer. just set some rules for him (obviously in a gentle manner). tell him no computer on the bed , no computer in the bed room (he has to use living room). and yes seriously have discussion with him and tell him work is not everything in this world . God gave you 3 kids and such a wonderful family so its better he give some daily time to his family and this would strengthen the relationship with the kids and with you. take it easy and try to motivate him the way he likes(as you said you are ready to do anything to make him happy so use your tricks)
2006-09-09 17:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Deepthoughts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... all you need to do is schedule an outing like say... a picnic on his day off! Then organize activities that you two used to do together but make sure you choose the ones he likes the most... I'm sure after that day he'll know and realize what he's been missing all this time!!! :-)
2006-09-09 17:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Rinko_Sano 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start dressing up really sexy every day.Act like you are not that interested in talking to him about anything.Like if he asks you a question give the simplest answer like yes or no if possible. Start doing things that get you out of the house more. He should start to come around.
2006-09-09 17:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 13:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check and make sure he is doing work and not emailing other women, which 24/7 could be a sign of. if it is work, then you're lucky, communicate with him. ask him what you both can do together that will interest him... talk talk talk, the key is to stay connected..
2006-09-09 17:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you try to talk to him?if yes and no resulst..i would start sleeping on a diffrent bed.. to get his attention..and ech respond would be ..i feel alone every nite so im sleeping alone..and you make love to you f.. cumputer.i get more afecttion from my vibritor "-)
2006-09-09 17:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by MJ1977 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wrap yourself in saran wrap and walk in to the room...Naked of coarse underneath LOL,,,,,
2006-09-09 17:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him- say, "honey, i appreciate how dedicated you are to your work, but, i would really love for us to set aside time once or twice a week to just be together, i love you"
2006-09-09 17:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋