Am I gothic?

Question

I always say I'm not, some of my friends are emo...gothic...punk... err, whatever they call themselves. Well anyway i'm not sure if i'm gothic or not... I'm draw to black hair, gothic clothing and vampires ect. but is this for real? I WANT to know if I am or not. And one other question. My parents and my gradma probably won't accept it if I am and if I choose to be... (P.S DON'T TELL ME ITS MY CHOICE CUZ I KNOW!!!!!)

Guys, very good points, but I try to avoid acting gothic for some strange reason that I even forgot and no one thinks i'm gothic because I don't try to be sometimes I feel like I want to but I just push it aside. It's like this: say your on a diet which you don't know when you can stop the diet and there is a delicious cake set in front of you. I am pushing the cake away but its tempting to pull it back and I tug is a small bit sometimes. Make sense?

Answer 1

no you are just a poser trying to fit in.....

Answer 2

You may be gothic or you may just be weird (being weird isn't a bad thing in my opinion). I like all of the things you mentioned (I've had black hair, I'm pale as a ghost, I dig gothic style clothing and I love vampires) but I don't really see myself as gothic. Don't be so concerned with labels. If you like gothic things, you like them. It doesn't mean you are them if ya know what I mean. And as for the parents, I can understand why they would be more than a little concerned. The media has portrayed goths as suidical, angsty maniacs who worship Satan and want nothing more than to kill themselves and maybe take you out with them. Since you still live at home, I'd suggest not going overboard with the gothic clothing and whatnot. Afterall, your parents do have the final say in what you do and wear. Wait until college and then rebel :) If your parents are normal, they'll accept you and love no matter what you wear.

Answer 3

If you have to ask, you aren't. If you say you are, you aren't... I've been to nightclubs (18+) on "goth night" and the people there had some things in common, but there's no hard definition. People have labeled me as a goth, but I joked about it. I called myself a "Christian Goth" for a while because I went to church (I don't anymore) wearing fishnets, velvet clothes, and a spike collar. I had people tell me that I was going to Hell... which was quite amusing, actually.

Why do you think that your parents won't accept you as you are? If you *try* to be (which you don't seem to be), that's one thing... it'd most likely be a phase. (There weren't emo kids when I was in highschool... I feel so old!)

I find the gothic subculture to be interesting, but I don't consider myself to be a goth today... even though I still wear black, now have some piercings (I waited until I was 20 before I even had my ears pierced *LOL*) and have moments of depression. Some would call me a perkygoff (perky goth), but I think it's yet another label. The people at the clubs tend to try too hard and most kids who call themselves goth nowadays have never heard of Bauhaus or *rattles off a list of old-school goth bands* ...oh, and when I was in highschool, "goth" was public enemy number one because of Columbine (blamed on Marilyn Manson). The Manson followers are what were called "Spooky Kids" a.k.a. posers.

Just for kicks, I'll give you links that talk about goth types. It's mostly a joke, but you'll find that "real goths" (people who don't try for the label) tend to have a similar sense of humor.

http://www.sfgoth.com/primer/types.html
http://www.odk.com/wilson/goth/150.html

Answer 4

I'm not hating or anything but really, why does it matter?

Look at it this way, you're 15? 16? I'm just guessing.

Anyway, you've got about 60 years, give or take, of life ahead of you. Do you really think that when you're 35, 45, 55, or 65, the label you had during high school is really going to matter? Trust me, it wont.
Do you know what will matter?

What you did, what you thought of yourself and what mattered to you. The rest of that BS is nothing after high school. You'll be someone else and it wont matter. You wont care about being goth, prep, emo, or whatever else the labels are. Naw, you'll care about different things.

Okay now here is my advice.


Think less about the NAME for who you are and more about WHO you are? Does it REALLY matter how you look, how you talk, or or who you hang out with? No. What matters is what you do, what you say, and the relationship with the people that you hang out with that will matter. Seriously, think about it.

Well, you may or may not care what I think, but just think about it, okay?


By the way there is no real way to define what label you are because labels aren't real, don't matter, and are simply a close minded way of classification.

Later,
Amanda

Answer 5

Its not like you have to wear a sticker that says "GOTH!" .. I mean labels aren't really that important. Dress how you want & like what you want. & it sounds like you're already as gothic as you can be & your parents haven't said anything yet. So whatever .. its a steriotype. Tell your family you aren't gothic & be what you want. No one knows if you are goth but you .. people can't tell by your interests what you are .. I like emo music & stuff but I'm preppy. Its better to be different & original .. then people can't label you. & you are cool.

Hugs && Kisses
♥ Abby ♥

Answer 6

It's very normal to be drawn to the style the people you hang with have. I mean, you're with them every day! You may like the way that looks and all, but that doesn't mean you have to become one or that you are one. Just be yourself, do what feels right to you. And think before doing stuff; are you going to regret it later on. Is this what you really want, or maybe it's just a phase you're going trough?

Answer 7

you are what you wish to or choose to be. i know that i had to make a choice with who my friends would be and i knew that some would ditch me in a second. the people i chose to be around were weird, outcasts but my friends. although my depression came before i became "goth" it didn't help me any. and i felt that since they stuck with me that i had to be more like them, but that's not true. They accepted me for who i was and was my friend because i accepted them for who they were. Just accept yourself and everything will be fine.

As for the parent issue, be glad they are their and care about you. I've seen many family issues from divorce to... well some things i would rather not discuss. Your family is just protective.

Answer 8

gothic is mostly a style and an attitude. Just because you are attracted to this style doesn't mean you are. If you dress that way and you act kinda cynical and people call you gothic...then you might be what is considered gothic.

Answer 9

you might be considered gothic by other people.. but you dont have to be like "hi im gothic".. you know? sounds kind of like you are, but you dont have to tell your family that.



ten points?

Answer 10

Hahah well first of all I don't think you should try and label yourself, they only cause problems. And if you believe that you are, then you are. If other people think that you are, well then let them think that, its their problem.

Sorry if i dont answer your question fully though, I wouldn't know.

Answer 11

There's nothing wrong with it unless you turn into one of those dorks that goes overboard with it.. Please don't try to be a female marilyn manson lol.

And what is the deal with goths and their vampire fetish?