Hi my auntie had a baby, and my grandma is like all over it, and my cousins and I feel left out! So what I have done is stopped talking to my auntie and grandma and started talking bad about the baby, and now I have regret. What should I do!!
P.S: I have been hanging around my other aunts to make the other one feel jealous!!
2006-09-09 16:25:05 · 10 answers · asked by african-american 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It's hard to compete with a baby - they're so tiny and cute and everybody always ZONES in on a baby and ignores EVERYONE else standing around. :) I feel for you!!! Just remember your aunt and grandma don't love you ANY LESS just because there's a new baby around. But the newness and smallness just attracts people. Don't take it out on the baby by talking bad about him or her (I know it's hard) because it's not the baby's fault. :) Once the newness wears off, you'll get attention again. Also, it's a great opportunity to talk to your grandma and aunt about it - tell them both how you're feeling ignored and I'm SURE they'll let you know how much you're loved! Good luck!
2006-09-09 16:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 'other one' is likely too tired to feel anything. Don't you know what happens when a woman has a baby? It's hard. That baby is so new & she is trying to keep cheerful but I bet she really needs sleep!
Hugs to you. You'll be fine, It will make sense pretty soon.
Can't you tell your grannie that you feel bad & lonely & mean & left out & this doesn't feel right to you? Your aunties love you too & probably thought you were old enough to relate to someone new. Someone who has no real place in your family yet. Instead you feel you can't be generous because you'll lose something.
Hey, they all think you have something to share. Even a smile helps a baby learn that people are not so bad & mean well. : )
2006-09-09 23:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by WomanWhoReads 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get over it. A newborn needs more attention than you guys. This baby has just entered the world clueless; not knowing what will happen. Everyone's been there before. I bet your grandma gave you the same attention when you were born. It is very painful for your aunt to go through labor with this baby. You should be more supportive instead of being jealous.
2006-09-13 12:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you are doing is hurting yourself ! Ask your aunt if you can come over and spend some time with her and the baby. Ask if you can watch the baby while she takes a nap or takes a shower. Make yourself useful to the mother of the baby and she will let you become more involved in your new baby cousin's life
2006-09-09 23:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you, but with a new baby there will be people alllll over the baby, dont fret most times after a while it can die down, I would just express how you feel to your grandmother, but in a calm and collect way, just simply let her know that you feel hurt or left out, but dont accuse thats the worst, use I's the most try not and use You, and those words b/c some people can feel traped and dont respond good. One thing b/c you now feel bad you know you care, soo one other thing you can do that could help you feel better is try and help out your aunt, she might need it. If she get tired watch the baby or change dipers theres a list of things that will make her feel your love and not cold shoulder, and could patch your heart of feeling left out, sometimes in situations that we dislike or feel like we dont matter is the best times to jump in and help, b/c you might be needed and others might be afraid to ask or might not know how. I know that my mother felt left out when I had my Daughter she never told me but you can see it in a persons face, and she started to buy babythings and give me handme downs, in that sence she felt wanted and needed and I felt luck to have someone to help and care, b/c even though I had so many people in my face and my daughters, they just made things worse. (Sorry if my spelling is off)
2006-09-09 23:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by heathers_work_from_home 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it. Its a baby. If you think you have to bad talk an infant then i have no idea what you are going to say to me!! All I have to say is grow up!! Mabey what you should do is get involved in that cute baby's life.
this chick just sent me a mean e-mail. So go figure. Cant take the heat, get out of the kitchen!!
2006-09-09 23:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So how old are you & your cousins...-5, 6 -7 maybe??? You guys can grow up at any time you know... You all got YOUR share of attention when you were little- maybe it's time you learned to pass the bottle on to someone ELSE- and learn to GIVE love, instead of expecting it all the time. Your Grandmother & Aunts are acting their ages...- are you?
2006-09-09 23:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel left out babys need alot of attention at first that is why they are spending so much time with it tell them how they feel They will probably work harder to spend more time with you and your cousins
2006-09-09 23:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by brandi.smiles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
apologize! omg...a baby is pure joy which you should be over enjoying as well. don't begrudge an innocent baby. how selfish. say you are sorry that you were a boob and get back in auntie's good graces and go get your snuggle on with that lil baby
2006-09-09 23:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by mypurpleelephant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're the one that needs a pacifier and diaper change. Get over it.
P.S.
Go ahead and email me a mean letter. Like I really could give a sh!t about how pissed you are. Grow up you little brat.
2006-09-10 02:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by impala_girl_64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋