How do i start...Ok, So first of all, My worst enemy likes my girlfriend. He has asked her out many times, she always told him no. I have a looooong history with this guy, and i really hate him. He has disrespected me and my girlfriend many times. But this year, hes been following us around, and acting friendly. I dont trust him, but g/f says i should give him a chance and dont hurt him unless he acts up. I dont like the idea and im afriad hes gonna hurt her...what would you do?
2006-09-09
16:24:05
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i cant watch him constantly...most of his classes are with her and i only see them in one class and lunch
2006-09-09
16:30:41 ·
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Ignore him. Do not be friendly or unfriendly. If he asks a question, answer it if you desire. Never get into a fight over a girl, especially in high school. It is just not worth it. Why hate? It takes up so much time in your life. Let him go and do not think about him. He can only disrespect if you give him attention. He probably thrives on attention and the only kind he can get is negative. Do not play into it. Also, your girlfriend, does she have anything to do with him? She could follow the same advice. Just be neutral and he will find somebody else to bother. Unless she is his friend. Then it will always bother you. Good Luck.
P.s. Are you sure your girlfriend is not egging this on? Just a thought.
2006-09-09 16:30:26
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answered by yowhatsup2day 4
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First of all, make sure you tell her the whole story of your past history with this guy. She needs to know why you feel as strongly as you do. Bo objective, include how you respond to his treatment. If it comes out all bad on his side, she'll think that you are either hiding something, or being unfair. If you tell her you've acted badly too, she'll know you are being honest and sincere.
Then tell her that you would rather avoid him in the future. Remind her of anything he has done to her, or when she was around. Tell her that you don't trust the "new" him, you think he may be up to something.
While women in general are more forgiving and soft hearted, if she cares about you, she will respect your feelings. She won't necessarily snub him all the way, but she will make sure that you don't have to suffer his company more that you have to.
You have to find a way to get past this too. People change, and past mistakes can't be held against them forever. You don't have to buddy up to him, but you can hold your tongue and opinion until you see where he is going. He may be sincere, he may be looking to steal her, or he may just have changed and is trying to make amends. You have to wait and see without letting yourself judge too soon. Don't forgive or forget, but put it aside for now until later.
2006-09-09 23:33:15
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answered by welches_grape_jelly 6
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Don't drop your guard, but also don't be to possessive. If you are, and you and girl fight over this. Guess where she will go first crying too? The one you hate the most.
So you either do one of two thing. Be nice to the guy and hope for the best or just like I said before don't drop your guard. Keep and eye on him and make sure he doesn't make any moves. And remember one thing, a jerk is always a jerk... so this other guy is obviously wanting your girl. Good luck.
2006-09-09 23:30:54
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answered by deais74 3
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Hmm, talk to your girlfriend and keep a strogn relationship with her. You can't get offensive on this guy, but you can get defensive by spending more of your time with your girlfriend to show how much you love her, that way, she'll keep on sayign no to the guy.
2006-09-09 23:33:11
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answered by locomonohijo 4
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she's ur gf for a reason. u should trust her. but get a frend in the classes that they share together to keep an eye on him. (just don't let ur gf kno. she'll think ur spying on her or don't trust her. and keep your frend out of deep water, bcuz it's nevr good to be in a moral debt with a frend.)
2006-09-09 23:37:37
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answered by iheartme 2
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A person can change. But, don't bet the ranch on it. Your girlfriend has been made aware of your opinion, so she'll probably realize he's a jerk. Give him enough rope, and he'll hang himself.
2006-09-09 23:30:11
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answered by Anonymous
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Be friendly, but not overly so. keep enough distance to see his true intentions, and if he does want to hurt your g/f, then protect her. But don't start a fight, cuz you'll get in trouble w/athorities and your g/f. But also let her know that you care about her, and that if he DOES try anything, you won't stand for it.
Let him know that you won't stand for it, too, but don't be rude to him, cuz if he is trying to just become your friends, then you'll regret it later.
2006-09-09 23:30:31
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answered by Princess J9 1
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i think that u shouldnt trust him ...people don't just change like that... the best thing to do is get ur girlfriend to understand that...i mean i think she should stick by ur side and what u think is best, ....this guy isn't an important part of her life so it shoulnt be hard not talking to him....good luck!!!
2006-09-09 23:29:18
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answered by →Sasha← 3
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I think u should be nice to him too,but keep an eye on him.That way if he tries to hurt your girl or get at u you'll be the first one to whup his a**.
2006-09-10 01:01:51
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answered by Anonymous
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Try to stop thinking of him as your worst enemy, and think of him as just a guy you don't particularly want to hang out with.
You don't have to be everyone's friend, but the "enemy" businss is bound to show in your attitude.
2006-09-09 23:27:06
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answered by bugnscout 4
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