Did you achieved what you want in life?

Answer 1

Nobody ever achieves what they want in life.
The reason being that as you age you have new goals.

When you are 10, your main ambition is never to get married and live your entire life with your footballing friends and spend every Sunday down the park.

When you are 16 your main ambition is to find a really pretty girl that will go to bed with you.

When you are 20 you are looking for a good job.

It goes on and on. Each age brings new ambitions, dreams and hopes.
I am now 64 but that doesn't mean that I don't have any more ambitions.

Anyone who says that they have achieved what they wanted in life is giving up on that life.

Answer 2

No. Not by a long shot. And it looks like no one else has either.

I can think of three primary reasons for this:

1. Media/Television gives superlative and ultimately fictitious examples of a "good life" that a real person simply cannot attain.
So our standards are inflated.

2. Life is inherently hard. Very complex. So even a very powerful nervous system like ours isn't necessarily able to deal with that. Hard to predict, hard to manipulate. Many factors involved.

3. Misalignment of evolutionary drives and societal pressures (e.g. reward center in the brain was never designed to deal with drugs or the Internet).

This can make people feel extremely inadequate and unhappy.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Well i think maybe i should have asked for more guidance from others or something, i have many skills to offer, and tryed to be the best at what ever it was, but i have found that's only half of what it takes, you must know how to put your skills to work for your self, and some times that is no so easy, possibility's are every where ,if most of us only knew where or who to talk to and at age 45 im not sure i still have time to make it happen.

Answer 4

No, and, in fact each, year I seem to screw things up more and more. It seems that once I get something going good, I always mess it up. This is actually a low point in my life, but it is my strongest point with my faith in God, so that helps a lot. For me, when bad things come, I try to accept what I cannot change but work very hard to make better what I can change. Also, in my past I have had failures that many years later seemed to lead to something good. Right now, my life is just temporarily bad, but one day things will improve. Wow, that sounded incredibly healthy!

Answer 5

Not yet.
I'll achieve it after I get a rock on my finger, walk down the aisle, get a career, and have kids.

Answer 6

At just 28 years old, I am definitely getting there.

Answer 7

No. I'm starting a business. When I quit my job and go full time in business, I'll be almost there.

Answer 8

I want to be the best I can be.

I'm a work in progress.

Answer 9

I have achieved some success in different endeavors throughout my life, but I haven't yet achieved my penultimate dream. That doesn't mean I've stopped trying. I know it will take time and I'm willing to wait while I work at it--the pace may not always be as fast as I would like, but time and other considerations don't always make for optimum conditions.

In the most personal sense, I failed in several relationships for various reasons that I accept some responsibility for. But, in thinking about that statement, I'd have to say that if they didn't work out, then they couldn't have been what I really wanted or I would have worked harder to achieve a lasting bond.

The one thing I did achieve is that my son turned out the way I'd hoped he would. From the time he was an infant I said I wanted him to be a good student, but he didn't have to be number 1 in his class. I wanted him to enjoy learning and be interested in the world around him that he would want to explore more through books, dialogue with others, further education, whatever. The main thing was for him to be a "good" person. I wanted him to like himself, be comfortable with himself, and be proud of his accomplishments. I wanted him to be the sort of person that others turned to for help, advice, leadership and love. I wanted him to have an awareness of his feelings (but not necessarily wear them on his sleeves) and be conscious of how his actions or those of others could affect even just one person in his life. I didn't want him to be a bully or a gang member or a loner who had no time for others. But neither did I want him to have so many widespread interests that he did nothing well. I wanted him to develop his talents. If he tried an instrument or a sport and gave it honest effort and found he either wasn't good at it, or didn't like it, it was OK to stop. The shame was in not trying anything. Basically I wanted him to become a sort of Renaissance Man.

I must have done something right because in 6th grade his best friend was failing. My husband and I thought our son had been getting his usual good grades until one day when his teacher wanted to talk to us. It seemed our son's grades had slipped drastically and there was no apparent reason. When she called him up to her desk for an oral quiz he did fine. He wouldn't say what was the problem. After we finished talking, we called our son back into the classroom to talk to the three of us. He finally admitted that he'd thought that if he'd gotten the lowest grades for awhile, his friend wouldn't be at the bottom and would maybe try harder. We were pleased--in a way--but encouraged him to help his friend with the homework rather than sabotaging his own grades.

He's a teacher now and studying for his Master's to become a principal. He's well-liked by students--current and past--other teachers, administration and parents. He has an easy-going, relaxed way with the kids that encourages them to show him their best efforts. On the first day of school he tells his class that he won't expect any more of them than he expects of himself. He's there for them to talk to about whatever is bothering them and gives his home phone number and e-mail address so they can contact him if they need to. Sometimes they have--not necessarily for homework problems, but because of things going on in their lives. He doesn't ooze sympathy like some adults who act like they want to be a kid's best friend, but he empathizes with them. He surprises them by maybe bringing in a musical instrument he plays and demonstrating it for them or just using it as part of the class "show and tell" time. He says that time is for all of them.

He is a writer. In fact, when he was first engaged he started writing a chapter for each holiday (Valentine's, Christmas, etc.) as part of a present for his fiancee. Now that he's married he continues to write a chapter for her and is slowly creating a book that will be theirs. He doesn't want to publish it--he just wants her to know he cares. It's his way of doing something out of the ordinary for her to show his love. When his kids have art class he sits down with them and listens to the art teacher and does the lessons with the kids because he would like to be an artist. He's a father figure for those kids whose parents are in prison. He's a social director at school. He makes suggestions in such a way that the "popular" kids end up bringing the "outcasts" into the games so that everyone learns there really isn't much difference between them.

I know I sound like a doting Mom, but trust me, I'll never get Mom of the Year Award. In fact, my son and I don't really get along and as we both age we seem to see more differences between us than similarities. We both know, however, that we're proud of each other's accomplishments and that we wouldn't have individual successes without the moral support of others.

Answer 10

yes, but noone has everything- have achieved so much