I'm 15 years old. I don't normally talk to guys or have guy friends unless they are gay or dating one of my other friends..I've never really hung out with guys..all of my friends are girls. I guess i can be a little shy around guys, but how would i know if none of them really try to talk to me? I want a boyfriend really bad, but not just anybody, of course. I want someone to like me, and someone to cuddle with and talk to. How come no boys ever come up to me and try to talk to me? Am I really THAT ugly? I see all these ugly girls getting guys. I am a little shy but not THAT shy where if they came up to me i wouldn't talk to them. Maybe a few years ago but i've gotten a lot less shy. I get so jealous of how my friend is hugging on guys and talking to guys on the phone and whatnot..and i want to be able to do that too. Is it normal to not have a boyfriend by age 15? It's embarassing when my friends ask or if they're talking about ex boyfriends and i can't say anything about that subject.
2006-09-09 15:43:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
haha its ok!!!! theres nothing wrong with you! I am in that same situation....and i am a lil older than you are. It seems unfair right now, but just think, you have more time to focus on school and stuff that really matters. you have ur entire life to have a boyfriend/relationships. the way i see it, the earlier you start dating, the more complicated things get and the more problems you start having. be focused right now on what you want to get done!
DONT value urself or ur self worth based on if guys like you or not! be confident in yourself and guys will come to YOU, not the other way around!
i know how you feel! Ive been blown off by my supposed "friends" so they can hang out with their boyfriend/guy they like, and it really sucks.
just hang on, when the time comes, ull get a boyfriend.
2006-09-09 15:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
15 is too young for having a boyfriend. Maybe when you are like 17 or 18 that is more normal... 15 yr old boy know absolutely nothing about love - and they only use girls to get sexual experience. I've talked to lots of guys and they all say that. None of them love their girlfriends at that age. It is only about sex and experimenting. In that case - that is why a girl almost always gets hurt cuz she will fall for the boy - but she is just a good time for him.
And looks really has little to do with it. So, don't think your ugly - just think your really lucky you aren't getting your heart trampled all over by these boys.
2006-09-09 22:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until this last summer, I felt the same way you did. No guys seemed to like me, and I couldn't understand why. Then suddenly, I started talking to this one guy a lot when I was at Knott's Berry Farm with a group of friends, and then he asked me out. Since then another guy has also asked me out. But I'm not doing anything different. My advice is to just continue being yourself - eventually the guys will catch on to the fact the your single. And it's totally normal not to have a boyfriend by age 15, so don't sweat it. And don't be embarrassed, as its really nothing to be ashamed of. If you are happy with who you are, you'll exude self confidence, and that alone will attract guys. When guys see that you're fine on your own, they'll want to be with you.
2006-09-09 22:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by potassiumbroth4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are stressing to much about the "boyfriend" thing. Just be young and have fun. I know it feels like a super big deal right now, but when you look back on this time you won't think about "boyfriends". You will remember the people who where there for you. The people that made you laugh and the people you could count on. I have met most of my boyfriends when I wasn't looking... When I was out with my girls having a good time. I am confident and I am independent and I wouldn't trade it for anything. I've actually had several guys tell me that my confidence (self respect) and Independence was what attracted them to me. So relish this time when you can really be selfish and focus on yourself. Trust me... this time in your life will be gone before you know it. Enjoy it!
2006-09-09 22:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by lnfinitelylnteresting 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry the right guy will come along in not time. But all your friends that have boyfriends, you're only 15 its not like your gonna marry the guy, you'll just be hurt in the end anyways, beacuse you'll have to break up. (unless you plan on getting married at 18) I was the same way too, i was shy around guys, don't worry you'll find the right one. It's not abnormal to not have a boyfriend yet either...don't worry about it!!!
2006-09-09 23:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 20 years old and am still that way. It's not that I'm unattractive (honestly!), it's in part that I'm shy, and probably give off some 'vibes' that i'm unapproachable. Also, I'm not desperate for a guy. Yeah, it'd be great to have a boyfriend, but I don't want someone just so I can join in a conversation. Just like I want to be accepted by men as who I am, not by what I'm capable of giving them because of my gender, I want a man for who he is, not the possilbility of entitling him 'my boyfriend.' You're 15, you've got plenty of time to deal with boys. Right now, enjoy yourself and your friends, and just see who comes along. (Maybe you'll start talking to them?)
2006-09-09 22:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by sweetwickedgrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is normal. wanting a bf is also normal. Not having one is too. But it's not the end of the world; you just began to even notice the things in the last yer or so,so why rush it. All those girls talking about their bf's will be with different boys this time next year.
Be nice, be yourself, be open to guys you see, and maybe invite someone you think you may like to a party.
Don't get desperate, though and do something foolish!
( like sex!)
2006-09-09 23:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 18. I'm a good looking guy if I say do so myself, but I had trouble talking to girls. guys can be shy too. I like when a girl initiates the conversation with me. so I would say just have confidence and go to talk to someone. who says women can't propose?
2006-09-09 22:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by blair 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think anything is wrong with it if boys dont talk to it doesnt mean your ugly. you might not come off as the type of girl their intersted in and if your not hey think of it as their loss not yours. but dont worry about not having a boyfriend cause when you get one youll probably wish you didnt have one because its better to hang out with your friends and not worry about all the stuff that goes along with dudes. then again you said your shy so why not try and talk to boys instead of waiting on them and dont settle for just any guy get one thats worth your time
2006-09-09 22:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by K-Dubb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand what you're saying I'm 15 and I've only had 2 bf.i haven't had one for about 2years,but i do have alot of guy Friends but that's just it they're guy FRIENDS.i really don't know what so tell u cuz guys don't come up to me and talk.i also really envy my friends for having bf or having boy toys.well good luck in getting together with a guy.just do me a favor and don't just get w/a guy cuz he talks sweet get to know him if he's worth having u he'll treat u like a queen. u must have principle when u enter and exit out of a relationship.
2006-09-09 22:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by clair 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋