Could this be abuse???

Question

My brother is constantly calling me names that no person should call their sister.I know this is retarted...but what does this mean?He is 15 and he is always serious about things.He says things like Im trash and I should die because Im worthless...and things I wont even say..He just says these things when i dont even talk to him.Sometimes, when he wants something that im using such as the computer, he'll hit me till i get off, and I mean bruises.And my parents don't even care.They say I should quit being mean and it's my fault.Am I the one with the problem or is he?

Answer 1

No one deserves to be treated like this. You need to protect yourself and your brother needs help. Do you have family you can visit to get yourself some space - aunt, grandparents, etc?

You need to do something about this or you will have long term issues and your brother will grow up believing this is acceptable behaviour. Reach out to someone for help asap - school counsellor, local doctor - but don't give in!

Good luck honey - be brave and know you don't deserve this.

Answer 2

You are the one with the problem and he is the problem! Sounds as though he has a low self esteem and he is taking it out on you because it makes him feel better about himself. Your parents should not be allowing him to hit you or verbally abuse you. They are probably thinking that this is just a situation of a brother and a sister not getting along with each other.

Stay away from him. Ignore his taunting (because you know that you aren't trash and that you aren't worthless). Use the computer when he is not at home or use the computer at school or in the library. Ignore his taunting as best you can and do not allow him to hit you -- do not hit back. If he leaves bruises show the nurse at school and the nurse will make your parents pay attention to the problems he is causing.

Answer 3

No honey, you don't have a problem. First off, your parents have the problem. They should not be condoning such behavior out of your brother. It is wrong to allow boys to hit girls (siblings or not) and it is also wrong to allow belittling. it lowers ones self esteem. Second, your brother has self esteem issues himself, as well as an anger problem.. I would suggest that you confront your parents again and suggest maybe family counselling as well as anger managment program for your brother. This is a terrible thing to have to go through dear. Is your brother maybe jealous of you in anyway? I hope everything works out for you and your famiy. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Has he been abusing you constantly with serous injury?
He has been getting all the attention most of the time and he has been hurt when you came into this picture so probably he is just venting all his anger at you now that you are grown-up. Perhaps you have been mean at times where you do not realise it but now that he has been picking on you most of the time you are seeing it and realising it now so the best way is talk to him and ask him when he is in a calm and good mood talk it out openly in a brother and sister (siblings) way....

Answer 5

This brings back bad memories of my teens. Yes, it's abuse and I don't know what's wrong with your parents. Whether you are mean or not, he's a guy and guy's should never, ever hit a girl. My brother called me names too and he's the one that was trashy. My mother favored him so he got away with it. He didn't turn out too good when he grew up. Maybe you should show this to your parents. I am a grownup and raising good children. Your parents should know better. Good luck.

Answer 6

ok - yes - it does appear that your brother is being abusive. it is never ok for anyone to hit anyone else. do your parents get inyo physical altercations? if so then you are seeing the cycle of abuse. that might be why they ignore it and say you are the cause. if i were you, i would find a trusted adult to talk to. your brother needs to stop - and your parents are neglecting you and not taking into account your well being. i can almost see what it must be like in your house. please find help...but remember...your brother has no right to hit you...NONE! and the name calling will in the long run hurt you more! it all has got to stop!

Answer 7

No, you aren't the one with the problem if all you said is the complete truth. It sounds like your brother wants you to give him some attention. He doesn't care if the attention is negative or positive just as long as you pay attention to him. Maybe you should try to spend a little time with him doing something he likes to do and I bet his attitude toward you will greatly improve.

Answer 8

honey, abuse is abuse whether it is done by family or anyone else for that matter. if you feel that it is bothering you then you should tell your parents your feelings in front of him and let it be known that you will not take it and will report him to the authorities if necessary. maybe he needs help it sounds like he has self esteem issues and he may need to see a counselor. don't worry it is not your fault. your brother feels a lack of power to control things around him and this is his way of controling his surrondings. make the change and take the steps ....speak to a counselor in your school or your teacher...see what they tell you.

Answer 9

Call the police. Tell them that your brother hits you until you have bruises. Because if you don't mention the bruises, they might think he hits you just to play around. Ask them if its abuse. A thing about police: ALL POLICEMEN KNOW ABOUT THE LAW. They learn it in Police School. Its true. They know if its abuse or not and they'll protect you.

Answer 10

I think if you get in a few shots to the groin he will start beleiving you should be left alone. Just walk up to him for no apparent reason and give a good shot. Then while he is laying in a fetal position, whisper in his hear that if he ever touches you in anger you will give him two shots just like the last one.