As a girl,I was so friendly and sweet.
Now,at 41,I feel myself growing more bitter and cold with each year that passes.
2006-09-09 15:35:51 · 15 answers · asked by MaryBeth 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I think we are more pure and innocent, unscarred by the cuts and bruises of life.
2006-09-09 15:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by Setanta 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With each life lesson we learn things good and bad. I am a few years older than you and have experienced a lot. One person put it as " junk in the trunk". This is true.
After a couple divorces, the death of some love ones, money problems, job problems, etc., it is so easy to get bitter.
We all carry a certain amount of baggage. What we choose to continue to carry is up to us. I figured this out only a few years ago.
I was looking for the answer in my environment and found it inside myself. I now know that I can't control what is happening around me. I can only work on what is inside of me.
For me, I spent the first decade of my life letting someone else worry. That is why it is easy to be sweet. The second decade you have to listen to authority figures like teachers and parents. Still okay, but I had to start being responible which wasn't as much fun as being six years old. The third decade was dedicated to raising small children. I loved it and wish I could go back and do it again with the knowledge I have now. But, boy was that a lot of responiblity! Raising two little guys on my own kept me busy.The fourth decade I was working hard and helping my great kids get ready for their third decade.
Now, here comes the good times. You are in the same place I was... The fifth decade! Yes, there is a lot of crap going on in the world that you and I can't fix. But, we do have four decades of wisdom to help us cope. I have been through some ready hard times. What doesn't kill you, will make you stronger.
Surround yourself with the things you love. Smile even if you have to start by faking it. Take deep breaths. Being "forty something" is a beautiful thing. Just watch and see.
2006-09-09 23:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by conniekins 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I liked being a kid. I was thinking the other day of all the things I'd change if I could go back and be a highschool freshman again (Not a good time). But to know then that I'd be happy today would have been the greatest thing to offer.
The child is still within me, especially when I get to enjoy my kids. Don't let the b@stards weigh you down, you're soul is still young regardless of what the body does.
Be happy. When people ask how you are doing, tell them that you are happy. Either they will smile, or they will stop asking stupid questions and stop looking you in the eye. Eitherway, it'll make you happy :)
Take care,
-Rob
2006-09-10 00:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters, as children we are not burdened with the responsibilities that adult life thrusts upon us-like work, fending for ourselves, paying bills, etc. And we are so much healthier and fresh and resilient-as our bodies age we become more fragile. As we age, we are faced with resentments, regrets, loss, etc. etc. It all takes its toll. But we are also free to be the children that we never could be because of parental restrictions. So, the trick is to leap outside that box of bitter and cold and dive bravely into the unfettered territory of the child that is screaming inside of you and wants out, but society, culture, old emotional baggage is holding you down. The choice is yours-people around you will do everything to frighten you away from your true self because they are threatened and envious, but that friendly sweetness is waiting for you to redeem it!
2006-09-09 22:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by ontheroadagainwithoutyou 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe we are.
Children are, for the most part, unshaped by the world - they have yet to experience heartbreak and distrust and fear. So, without those influences, they are free to experience the world with new eyes and open minds.
It's later in life that the wounds of the world collect, and we all become scarred by it. Our defenses go up, we close ourselves off, and forget that child we were.
2006-09-10 06:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we are innocent selves as children which allows us more capacity for kindness, sweetness, fun... Age brings wisdom which causes us to put up defenses to opening some parts of us. I think wisdom can be inhibiting. Have you ever met a really upset, suicidal, depressed mentally challenged person?
2006-09-09 22:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Time makes you bolder Children get older. I'm getting older too" - Fleetwood Mac/ Stevie Nicks. When you get hurt over and over you toughen up untill things don't get to you anymore.
2006-09-09 22:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Years are supposed to add experience and wisdom to help protect that inner child. We should be that same individual, only older and wiser.
2006-09-09 22:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by The Invisible Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we are more innocent and pure to the ways of the world.
As we get older, we have more junk in our trunk!
2006-09-09 22:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. We do not have any hidden agendas or plague by moeny problems
2006-09-10 00:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by Baby_Apocalypse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or that we are our "truer" self when the world is not so harsh on us, perhaps...
2006-09-09 22:51:36 · answer #11 · answered by : ) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋