If this were you, what would you do?

Question

Arrrrgh! I've changed schools a couple of years ago, (tution got high) and now I go to a public school, where I have lots of great friends, and, if given the choice, I'd choose this school over my old one ANY day.
* The problem is, my best friend cannot understand why I'm happier in a public school than a private one. She says trashes my school, saying things like: we're the school most known for it's drug dealers, that all my new friends are freaks, and that I'm becoming "one of them" It's like wtf?!?! My question, what should I do when she starts ragging on me next time? She's REALLY making me p*ssed off!

Yeah, I know it's not in the right section, couldn't find one to correctly put it in.

Answer 1

Well yu can tell her to stop, shes probably just dissing your skool cos she misses you and she didnt want you to leave, shes ,maybe even jealous that you have so many new friends, she might feel like you dont hang out with her anymore and is scared of losing you. Tell her you dont like it when she says stuff like that, and ask her if she would like it if she was in your shoes and you did it to her. And if she never stops and it keeps going on, i suggest you end this friendship..

Answer 2

She wants to make sure that she's not losing her friend in this. She's afraid that you'll move on without her. Try to introduce her to your new friends, so she doesn't feel left out. But, make suer she gets that you will not tolerate her being snobby. Tell her to lay off the comments, and that if she was really your friend she wouldn't say those kinds of things to you. If she thinks she's better than those public school people, and thinks that you're lowering yourself by being in the mainstream, she's mistaken. Just remind her that there are a heck of a lot more of us than there are of her kind. And that this wasn't necessarily your choice, but you're trying to make the best of the hand you've been dealt. You need her support now more than ever.

Answer 3

Seems like your friend is jealous, because now she doesnt get as much attention as she use to when yall were closer im guessing. you should let her know how you feel if her frienship is really that important to you, if she is a good friend shell understand and she will quit saying things about your school and your new friends she will understand or at least try to understand and if she dont she never was your friend, if yall have been friends for a long time i think that yall should work out yalls differences and be friends, but if not possible then always stay in touch that yall shared so many moments together, just let her know how you feel about her saying things about your friends if she dont want to hear you or she dont understand then she aint a good friend.

Answer 4

she is probaly just alittle upset that your making new friends and is afraid that you will move on and forget all about her..she just misses you and wishes you were back at your old school. thats my guess for why she is acting this way,,,,its called alittle bit of jealousy and she is afraid she is going to lose you as a friend . have her come along with you when you and your friends meet some where let her know that you are still her friend no matter what school you go to..good luck!!

Answer 5

Does your friend go to your new school too? If not, maybe she says these things because she's jealous- you get to get all these new experiences and she's left behind. She probably misses you, and says these mean things to make herself feel better.
If she does go to your new school too, maybe she misses the way things used to be, and feels left out and abandoned because you don't feel the same way. Don't get mad at her, try to understand how she feels, and look at it through her point of view. She's not trying to be mean, she's jsut hurting deep down and doesn't want to show it. Confront her kindly, and explain how she's making you feel to her without getting mad. Most importantly, be understanding so she doesn't shut you out. Good luck on repairing your friendship.

Answer 6

Understand first off that she is probibly afraid of losing your friendship BUT she should know that if your friendship is strong it is ok to have other friends(both of you) I would just tell her that it bothers you the way she talks but she is very important to you and you'd like her to meet your new friends,to be involved(that is if this is what you want) A relationship is built on trust and honesty.

Answer 7

Sounds like your friend isn't so happy with her own school that she has to find reasons for you to be unhappy with yours. If she were really your friend she'd back off and let you be. If she can't do that she sounds a bit too petty and snotty to be wasting your time with.. Like you said. youhave lots of new friends where you are at, you probalby won't miss her negativity that much.

Answer 8

i went to both just let you get over easier ,
when i was in 8th grade then transfered to public i liked the freedom,but they were behind academically. Thats sad but it true
Private means better . Public is for everyone. But that doesn't mean you can;t excel just as well
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Answer 9

the next time she does something like tell her if you were really my friend that you would not say such mean and hurtful things about me or my new school it doesn't matter what school you go it's what you make it if you want to go to school and work hard to acheive something go for a true friend would not say things like what she said to you.

Answer 10

Tell her that you respect her opinion but that you like it there and you are staying. If she keeps it up, maybe you shouldn't talk to her anymore. A friend doesn't act that way....