My family and i hav moved around ALOT but we moved home and thought we were gonna stay. Now they're wanting to move again. I dont wanna go ! ! What do i do?
Iv begged pleaded and prayed. . . i dont know what else to do .
2006-09-09 14:54:57 · 6 answers · asked by Ashley N 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Other - Entertainment
run away lol
2006-09-09 14:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by cody n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Begging won't change your parents' minds about an event as important as moving. If you want to convince them to stay, find out WHY they want to move again ("It's what's best" is not a valid answer - WHY it's best may be.) and convince them that a) whatever will be gained by moving is already where you live now, or b) you don't need or want what can be gained at the new location.
If they are trying to avoid crime or dangerous influences to protect you, simply accept the move and thank them when you get older.
2006-09-09 22:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by The Walking Dead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is really nothing you can do. I mean, yeah, u could run away but that wouldn't really be a good idea now would it? if your parents don't listen to you that's all there is...
i also see that you've 'begged' and 'pleaded', seems an immature way to deal with things, try having a normal conversation where u list the reasons why not only you want to stay, but why it would be best for everyone to stay as well.
2006-09-09 22:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Hermes711 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming your parents are open to you splitting from the family if they bolt, there's a bunch of options, or at least things to try. Friends are often the best place to start. Some might offer a couch, a spare room or otherwise, until you can get your feet back on the ground. There's the extended family option, if they're local... grandparents are generally a good place to start. Other local family might be sympathetic to the situation offering again a couch or a spareroom. Plan on helping out with chores, and babysitting little ones if needed... room and board isn't free.
Not sure on your age, work experience... if you're still in school, talking with the guidance department might yield alternatives, or a family willing to take in or act as a custodian for students in your situation. Running away, is never an option... that just leads to worry and hard feelings. A life on the streets is just not all it's cracked upto be. Though learning to waterproof a cardboard box may come in handy.
Employment offices, welfare offices [assuming you're at least 16] may be able to offer temporary reprieve. If this is causing mental distress, you may wish to contant social services, local church groups, the salvation army, shelters or otherwise that could assist with counselling. If this is causing such mental and potential emotional anguish, there may at least be assistance offered through University campus programs for persons in crisis. Not sure how detrimenal this situation is.
Keep in mind, what also seems to be a hinderance at this point in time is on the backburner teaching you to be adapatable, cope with change, and stress management. This is not anything easy to deal with, but there are other classes such as the army brat that may end up hopping from place to place every 3 or 4 months while one or more of their parents in posted to a different assignment.
On the downside, this can drastically affect self-esteem, self-worth, and confidence levels as you feel as though your not being taken into consideration. I do not know the circumstances that are unfolding all the moves, but sometimes is a necessary evil. What doesn't kill you, often makes you stronger. Keep an optomistic approach to something that seems afflicting. Since prayer is mentioned, I'd presuppose you are affirmed in some form of spiritual practice. Solice can be found...
Inner turmoil from situations such as these arises. Seems like God might be far off, or some things just rain all day. Sunshine unfortunately for some just can't come soon enough. Encouragement in discord, might be just as well found from support circles, youth centers, the YMCA might have some suggestions. Don't give up. Just keep stressing to your parents that is causing you extreme distress, and find out what they may or may not be willing to allow you to do.
Friends of the family, if your parents are in the military, you may be eligible for assistance from base programs. Certain employment requires constant movement, and depending on the firm, family assistance may be offered that way for counselling. If this is other not so good issues prompting the move, then it might worth making initial contact with some sort of social services to figure out how to get yourself out of a bad position. Don't be surprised if you get the cold shoulder. Most areas have support lines for teens, adults, and children, search them out, as they can also be a valuable resource.
2006-09-09 22:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by Vandel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably nothing you can do to change your parents mind because they are trying to do what's best for you even if it doesn't seem like it. JUst try to make the best of the situation even if it's really hard.
2006-09-09 21:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Beccawho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wwhy not u hhave to go with them unless they r serial killers then call the popooo
2006-09-09 21:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Praiser in the storm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋