What would you do if you walked your company out to their car and you came back in and found your g/f talking to her ex/husband?
By the way I am lesbian and she left him for me,we've been together for almost 4 years now-she says her daughter called him,but when i came in she was talking to him,said about how their daughter has been acting.
Anyway how would u deal with it?
2006-09-09 14:54:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I wouldn't date a woman with kids in the first place
2006-09-10 07:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Scully 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You lack of trust in your mate probably stems from the fact that she left him for you. They have a child in common and if you have ever been a mother then you know that the kids come first. If she needs help in handling discipline problems then her husband is the appropriate venue, especially if he has visitation rights and sees the kid sometimes.
If you value the relationship you will have to learn to deal with these facts and trust your partner. I suspect there may be other issues that you have failed to mention.. but you need to be communicating with your gf and accepting that at one time she cared enough about him to marry him and have his child. She chose you, so don't give her reasons to change her mind by being small and jealous. What if your long term ex came back and wanted to be friends? (we are assuming the current is not your first here) Suppose you felt good about the times you shared with your ex and wanted to be friends? How would it make you feel if your current went off about it and acted like you could not be trusted?
Talk to her.. talk about expectations. Talk about how you feel and how she feels.. and above all..LISTEN and really hear her.
2006-09-09 15:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Silvatungfox 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a matter of trust in all relationships. I don't think that was a big deal for her to be "just talking" to her ex-husband, after all they do share a daughter together. He should be involved in her life, and needs to be informed by her (the ex-wife) about her actions. Don't worry too much, relax and enjoy life.
2006-09-09 14:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that she will need to have contact with this man, probably at least until their daughter is over the age of 18. They are her parents, and as such, connected. That doesn't mean that there should be inappropriate actions between them, but they do need to discuss what happens to/with/for their daughter.
That will be hard to deal with, but necessary. I would have to say you will need to work on these feelings of intrustion and jealousy. Be sure to tell your girlfriend that you are uncomfortable when she talks to him...if you don't tell her, and then blow up one day, that will be a huge mess to deal with. Tell her that you know she will have to talk to him, but that you would appreciate it if it were kept to a minimum.
Other than that, all you can do you is let her talk to him. I seriously doubt that she would go back to him....but if she did, it wouldn't be because you forbade her to talk to the father of her child.
2006-09-09 16:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If all they were doing was talking whats the big deal? I mean they have a child together, like it or not they will always have that bond. It sounds to me like you are jealous, like you are trying to make something out of nothing, and that's not good for you or your relationship. Try a little thing called trust, without it, relationships wont work.
2006-09-09 15:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by creeklops 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unless she gave me a reason to think otherwise I would believe her. As long as there is a child in the picture there are going to be connections and ties. Unavoidable. If you question every conversation you will cause a rift between the two of you. Jealousy destroys a lot of relationships. Why are you so insecure?
2006-09-09 17:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Justme 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they were just talking, don't worry about it. Just because they broke up doesn't mean they're not allowed to talk to each other again. As long as they didn't go beyond friends then don't worry about it. My parents divorced about 12 years ago and my dad still talks to my mother's family. Just because a romantic relationship ends doesn't mean that people have to stop being friends.
2006-09-10 02:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would she have any reason to lie to you? I would not let it get to me, after all they still have a child in common, and in all my years I have never seen a lesbian go back to an ex husband! this will only become a problem if you make it a problem!
2006-09-09 15:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its none of your business.They have a child together.You do not own her. She can talk to anyone she wants and if you keep acting so jealous without reason your going to ruin your relationship.So what If she talks to her ex when your outside.
2006-09-09 17:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust her until I had hard core proof that she was not trust worthy. One phone call, especially if they have a child together, is not something that I would get upset over.
2006-09-09 14:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋