My sister is 16 and her bf is 19.. they have been together for little over a year.. the problem is.. He doesn't let her do anyhting by herself. he has to be up her *** all the time.. she can't even go to the store with me or our dad without him there. Everytime her and I talk about something he always butts in. He comes here and eats our food and when our father even buys him dinner he doesn't say thanks. She wants to go to prom this year and he doesnt' want to go.. so she asked him if it would be ok if she went with a friend of there's thats a guy and he said no. Everytime she goes into the kitchen,, he has to follow her,, he stays home once a day every 2 weeks.. other then that he is here all the time. she can't ever go out with her friends or he throws a fit.. I want to talk to her about it. but i don't want her gettin mad at me.. she has told me herself that it gets annoying that he is like this to her all the time..
2006-09-09 14:51:04 · 21 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My dad told him that she is thinking about going away for college when she graduates high school and he told my dad that he will just follow her wherever she goes..
2006-09-09 14:59:06 · update #1
He's a control freak, and he wants to control your sister. Tell her to ditch that freak, he's nothing but trouble. He will eventually succeed in alienating her from everyone in her life, then he will begin to wear her down mentally and emotionally until you won't even recognize your sister. Tell her to run for the hills! And, senior year goes so fast she can't be wasting a single minute of it with a loser like him. Tell her to find a new boyfriend that will like her for who she is, and love her for who she is....keep in her business! He is a sick person mentally, and he wants to take your sister down with him.
2006-09-09 14:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by occasionallyrowdy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sister's boyfriend sounds immature and insecure. It's likely he's a control freak and as time goes on he will try to isolate her from you and your entire family. Speak up gently, but speak up. Tell her she's lucky to have someone to love and you envy her but you hope the man you date someday will be ok with you going out with your friends and family. Tell her he's cute but you'd go nuts having someone follow you around every where you go all the time. See what I mean by telling her gently? Give her a positive point about her boyfriend, but remind her of the negative. Hopefully it will slowly sink in. She's going to have a tough time breaking up with a guy like this though... control freaks are scary. Either way... your her sister and sisters are allowed to speak up when they see something's not right. Tell your parents to wake up too. She's too young to be dating a 19 year old!!
2006-09-09 14:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have any boundaries. Your sister reinforces his behavior when the only consequence to his tantrum is that he gets his way. He'll continue doing what works for him until some boundaries are set. Perhaps your father can make house rules to address the issues with him at your home. Sounds like she really loves this guy.
2006-09-09 15:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your sister is dating a control freak, and the level of control sounds frightening. The best thing to do would be to have your parents intervene, I'm surprised that they have let things get this far...I wouldn't allow anyone to treat my child this way, my UNDERAGE child. They shouldn't be dating, he's too old for her.
Once again get your parents involved this relationship doesn't seem healthy.
2006-09-09 14:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Godisgood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to control her every move. She should dump him quick so she can have some fun in high school. What kind of guy refuses to go to the prom with his girlfriend? She would be well rid of him.
2006-09-09 14:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a control freak.....Your sister needs to tell him to back off a little and if he doesn't go to the prom with her then she should go with someone else......Prom is one of the high school memories that she will always remember and if she doesn't go then she will never forgive herself..
2006-09-09 14:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing you can do about it yourself. Your sister is the one in the relationship, therefore the only one with control. He sounds like a control freak, and I am sure she will tire of it soon enough. Back off and let her take care of it.
2006-09-09 15:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a 1. control freak. 2. insecure that he'll lose her. or, 3. he's an jackass. Kick him in the balls ( I would never suggest that cuz it hurst like having a baby) and tell him to beat it (the road).
2006-09-09 14:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by Zephyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to kick him to the mother ****** curb. She needs to know that she is her own boss, and that she can do whatever the hell she wants to. I had a bf like that but not for long, he tried to control me like that and i told him to get the **** out.
2006-09-09 15:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple answer. he's doing this, because he's being allowed to! you guys are allowing him to do these things. you guys don't stop taking him out. (when you take him out the first time, and he doesn't say thank you, why would you take him out, any other times.) To stop him from being up her "@$$" tell him, that he can't come to your house, or that she can't come out, maybe tell him that she grounded, or sick, or something, plan a trip out of town, so your sister has time to herself, this coud lead to something it shouldn't lead to. EXAMPLE: stalker behavior, if they ever broke up! Get Her Some Space!
2006-09-09 14:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by david_e22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋