She was 110 and now she is 240 pounds. She repulses me. I cant even get an erection looking at her fat azz anymore. We dont have any kids so I think now is a good time to bail. I pride myself in keeping in shape but she got obese just like her fat mother.
2006-09-09 14:27:15 · 40 answers · asked by Read the Bible 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's called a bait and switch dude,women do it all the time.They are just women,so don't take any of their comments personally.It means to sell you one thing,then give you another.Take for example;False eyelash's,Wonder bras,Water bras,shape molding underwear,Tinted contacts,Fake fingernails,Concealer make-up.That's just to name a few of their deceits.Hell,by the time you get them home and they get everything peeled,scraped,pried and washed off,you don't even recognize them anymore.If you can get them to switch it up every now and then, like with different hair color and contacts.It's like sleeping with a new woman every couple of weeks,try it.
2006-09-09 14:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by yablomee 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Did you marry her for her looks or because you love her? If it's love then you are not showing any now. She may have medical condition that may cause some of her problem - has she been to the Dr? had her thyroid checked, have PCO, be diabetic any of these can cause uncontrolled weight gain and the weight is not easily lost. Some of these are also caused by genetics ( you says her mother is obese, she may have one of these conditions and not know it and passed it on to her daughter)
If you truly love your wife talk to her and let her know how you feel. Get her to go to a Dr - not a weight loss place- a real Dr to help with the problem. You will have to be supportive as well and help her.
If no one has ever told you, Marriage is give and take. You always have to give 110% - not 50% - not 90% - even when you feel that your partner is giving 0%
If you truly don't love her then get divorced!
2006-09-09 15:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by AMY D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really sound like a devoted "christian" husband! Me thinks you watch too much tv. Or have your head into too much internet porn. I bet your wife has self-esteem issues because you have made her feel that whatever she does, it will never be good enough. Some women are genetically programmed to be heavier also. Even if they weren't when they were young. She could also have an underactive thyroid gland, which is very important in the metabolism of your body not to mention many other factors like hormones.
If you really care for her inside, then you should have a serious talk with her about seeing a doctor. Her weight can cause serious health risks neither of you have faced. How long have you been married? You failed to mention this.
2006-09-09 14:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by dizzyd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Whoa! Whoa!
She is your wife, not something disgusting that you call names. Maybe she's eaten so much due to the way you adress her, "Fat Pig", "Fat Azz".
Instead of being a heartless husband, why don't you show your wife some love and effection by working on a diet plan with her and offering to go to the gym with her. If the two of you get on a healthy diet and exercise together she can lose weight.
Don't just tell her to go to the gym or tell her to diet, she needs someone to help back her up and go along on it with her.
You're her husband and you should be supporting her. You married her and right now she may be at her worst by the vows say "FOR BETTER OR WORSE" so stick by them and try to help! Be concerned for your wife and stop with the verbal abuse. She isn't a fat pig.
2006-09-09 14:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG you give Christians a bad name 'read the bible'. Just cuz you read it your question shows that maybe you should read the part that says 'husbands love your wife' or the part where the pastor said for better or worse.
Maybe the amount of stress and pressure you put the poor woman through means that her only comfort is food.
Try talking to her and looking past her weight. Was 110 pounds the only reason why married her? I'm sure she has more qualities.
2006-09-09 14:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by ellegrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You call yourself "READ THE BIBLE?" Well why don't you do just that.? Because when you took your marriage vows I believe it states "IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH< FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE, and so on. Did you just repeat those words just to repeat them? Or did you mean them? Cause when you married her you took a vow. Instead of cutting her down why don't you try to help her lose the weight? You know people gain weight for different reasons. She may have a thyroid problem and not even know it. Shame on you for this question. I would be ashamed to call you my husband if I were in her shoes. Man look what a mess she's gotten herself into I feel sorry for her. You are quite an A**Hole
2006-09-09 15:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question really pisses me off because marriag is serious and obviosly you dont realize that you should have never even got married unless you own a time machine and where planning on stopping time women and men change over the years how about if she never gained weight and it was 15 years down the road and she started getting wrinkles whould you then say she has wrinkles so lets get divorced do the world a favor get divorced and live in a cave all by your lonesome you insensative nasty pig
2006-09-09 14:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by lisaisfunn1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most likely she put on the pounds because of you .Maybe she is not even happy with you considering the way you talk about her ,I can imagine how you treat her when alone. When a woman is happily married ,she will do anything to keep her man happy .think about that .The only repulsing thing here is ...your attitude
2006-09-09 15:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Alijoy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are ignorant---and you didn't take your vowes too serious. Let the girl go, she deserves better than you. Also, by saying that about her Mom is very dis respectable.You know, I can almost bet you aren't a prize either. You have no class, no feelings, and definitely no brains. You know, the hurt and pain you put someone through always comes back to you. Oh and one more thing, I hope she takes you for everything you have---except that nasty attitude of yours.
2006-09-09 14:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know how she stayed with your selfish disrespectable behind she should leave you, you are probably the reason she has gained weight by your actions toward her,making her eat and eat cause she cant talk to you! remember what goes around comes around and your today is not your tomorrow besides you never did love her you just wanted to parade her around like some doll to build up your ego which no exercise could do ! I have a fine brother who loves bigger women send her to him where she can be loved for who she is and what she give, not based on a scale!
2006-09-09 14:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by sexysummer34 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to. She shouldn't might want to bypass on questioning that you want her for herself once you for sure selfishly surely love her for the way she HAD regarded. If i replaced into your spouse, and that i said this, i might want to be completely MAD at you, dissatisfied at you that you even dare call me a "piece of sh*it" Oh, and once you divorced her, do not EVER GET MARRIED EVER back. Cos the way I see it, you do not look to make certain that each body might want to change. try putting your self in HER shoes first ok. imagine if SHE is the only telling us the following that you've been wonderful and handsome once you adult men were courting, and now that you're married, you're starting to be gruesome and a "piece of sh"it" and he or she needs to divorce you, yet she remains that eye-catching fantastically youthful searching female. How might want to you experience? shame on you!
2016-11-25 22:49:50 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋