he lfet me..long story short i still love him and he turns up to my house. he said to me that he wants to know when i mmet someone else amd he wants to know when i sleep with him so he knows its 100% over. why would he say this. he said he cant be with me right now and he wont tell me it is over forever
why would he keep turning up and why woud he want to know what im doing.
2006-09-09 13:32:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i found out he has been following me and i told him this has to stop and he said that he will do it so i cant see him...
2006-09-09 13:41:57 · update #1
he said he doenst want to be with me now
and hes not sure about the future...
maybe he is posessive of me..he was my first bf of 5 years and hes lebanese...if that makes a difference
2006-09-09 13:53:22 · update #2
He has mixed feelings. He thinks if you are sleeping with someone else, then he can resolve these feelings. It would give him permission to let go of you emotionally, like he has physically.
I know how that feels. I divorced my last husband because he was emotionally abusive and angry. He hasn't become involved with anyone else because he thinks he can win me back .I've told him over and over for the last two years that it's not gonna happen, but he won't give up. YET, when I think about him being with another woman, it hurts. No, I'll never take him back. But it still hurts. On the other hand, if he does get a girlfriend, it would be so liberating for me, bring closure, a true end to our relationship.
Maybe that's what he's trying to do. It may be too late for your relationship with him, but perhaps he's trying to bring closure to unresolved feelings.
2006-09-09 13:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he shows up tell him that the girl that he knows that use to live here son't live here anymore
you don't need to give him any explaination
you not a rag that he can pick up when ever he needs it dust the furniture and you certainly not a floor mat
so TELL TO TAKE A HIKE
a little advise for you gET TO KNOW YOURSELF so the next jerk that come alone will know that this woman is not a rag nor a floormat
Take care
2006-09-09 20:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's wack. Tell him to never call or come over again.
In the future, pick a nice guy, dont let them pick you.
If you dont know what I mean, learn how to buy a new car. It's the same priciple as looking for the right guy.
2006-09-09 20:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by rkalch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe for him to have final closure he needs to know you are involved with another man. I would just tell him you will be involved as soon as you can cause you need some hot guy to take care of your needs and it shouldn't take too long to find someone who will.
That'll get him to stop his little games.
Or get him to come around and see your worth.
Good luck.
2006-09-09 20:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by dizzyd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that since he left you, it's really none of his business when you meet someone or what you do with them. He probably keeps showing up because he isn't 100% certain that he really wanted to leave. But then again, why should you have to wait around for him to decide if he wants you or not? But for sure it is none of his business about who you meet.
2006-09-09 20:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jennylee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but from what you say it sounds like he is testing you to see if you'll find someone else. But he did break up with you. Did he say he just wanted a little time apart and wanted to be with you after awhile?
2006-09-09 20:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by billy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is wanting to move on...but still cares for you...and it could be that he wants to know you are ok..and have moved on...
BUT...........on the other hand....if he left you..that pretty much sealed his fate on having the RIGHT to know what goes on in your life. He might just want to make sure no one else pisses on his territory..who knows..but YOU have to be happy...and find a way to not hurt......DO NOT LET HIM MANIPULATE YOU JUST TO KEEP YOU HANGING ON UNTIL HE DECIDES HE IS DONE WITH OTHER WOMEN.
2006-09-09 20:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by christal104 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a good thing he left you .
He sounds like a sicko to me .
You deserve more repect than he is giving you .To him you are just something to toy with . He doesn`t appreciate you .
Go find happiness and remember you don`t have to report to him.
The next time he comes over -slap him with a restraining order and tell him to get bent!!!!!!
2006-09-09 20:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ms, sounds like he is looking for SEX. Plus, he is messing with your head. Tell him to stay away or you will call the cops. Good Luck.
2006-09-09 20:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lmao, theres this guy who walks into a hosspital and asks for a shot the dr gives it to him and he says ty then says can u help me out? she says certainly which way did you come in?
but seriously then get over it!
2006-09-09 20:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by dark^wishy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋