advice for a friend of mind?

Question

I have a friend that is in love with a guy that loves her in return and been friends over 4 years. The problem is that she thinks that he's sleeping with his child's mother and the mother doesn't like her. He works and care for the child and the mother is living there with. He said that he's not messing with her b/c she cheating on with another guy also he broke with his child's mother. He telling my friend that he is trying to move out so he can established a relationship with my friend who he loves alot. What should i tell her?

Answer 1

You should probably stay out of it unless she asks you first. But, if I were her, I definately wouldn't get too serious until he did move out. I was an over the road truck driver with my husband, even after we got divorsed and up until I was seven months pregnant with my boyfriend's baby. It was ok with us because we actually made better friends than lovers and got along better when we were divorced and there was no expectation of being required to have sex (we weren't having sex before we got divorced, let alone after. That's a big part of the reason we got divorced). He knew about my boyfriend and my boyfriend knew about him. I tried to be polite and not talk to my ex about my boyfriend, even though my ex was the one who rejected me and not vice versa, so in our situation, it just worked. Since the sex had been one of our problems in the marriage, neither of us were even remotely tempted to have sex once it ended, or had any sexual tension, even though driving team we often had to share the same bed if we were laid over somewhere. But that's an unusual situation, and most people can't even imagine being able to have a good, comfortable friendship without any sex issues after being married/together for the six years we had been. Heck, when I got pregnant, my ex was thrilled it wasn't his and wasn't uncomfortable with it all. But like I said, that's not a normal situation. Unless she's sure she can trust her boyfriend to that extent, she needs some sort of gesture from him that his relationship with his ex is that beneign before proceeding with a relationship of her own.

Answer 2

I believe that your friend is in denial. I'm sorry but if they have been living together in the same apartment and have a child together, they have slept together. The child is a bond between them and all of them living together makes them feel like a family, and the father and mother of the child will feel inclined to share in the item that made the first child in the first place.

Unfortunately there is not a lot that you can do for her, except point out the obvious and then leave the decision up to her. Eventually she will find out the truth, as things that are hidden never stay hidden for long.

Word of advice for you: Don't nag her about this issue constantly as she will come to dislike you for it. When humans are in love, the rose colored glasses are on and you don't see the flaws in the other person, including things like the above that are truly obvious for the rest of us. Be supportive of her, because she's going to need you when this situation blows up.

PS: If this guy truly loved her and wanted to establish a relationship with her and nothing was going on with his baby's mom he would've done it already.

Answer 3

ok at the beginning i'm no longer Christian, yet my mom and aunt are very religious (my mom grew to become religious after i grew to become into grown) and circumcision isn't a Christian practice. Jesus launched the Christians from the ought to circumcise as a demonstration of the covenant with God. I truthfully think of you ought to talk this with your priest/minister/and so on. My boys are no longer circumcised, my faith tells me that babies are born appropriate. To me, a Down's Syndrome infant is appropriate, so is the foreskin. I even have self assurance that infant circumcision is infant abuse, decrease than the present regulations females are risk-free and boys are no longer. that may no longer allowable decrease than the regulations of maximum Western international locations. ALL babies deserve protection from plastic surgical operation. There are not any medical advantages to circumcision till the male will become sexually lively (or maybe then its particularly questionable, and truthfully do no longer practice to those that marry as virgins -even penile maximum cancers is STD brought about so as that possibility does not practice). Circumcising an submit-pubescent penis is plenty safer. you do no longer ought to rip the foreskin off the glans (they're fused in babies) the section is extra suitable and much less stressful to decrease, and you understand precisely how plenty pores and skin to do away with. In an infant you ought to wager and removing too plenty and too little is user-friendly. youth and adult men even have many extra discomfort relievers available, and distinctive extra antibiotics. because of the fact the wound isn't in a diaper this is much less possibly to get contaminated, and since the teen/guy can talk infections may well be discovered on the 1st sign. taking good care of a circumcised infant is likewise extra durable. Even as quickly as the circumcision is healed any ultimate pores and skin must be retracted to steer away from adhesions, and likewise to bathe. the interior an uncircumcised foreskin is self-cleansing, like decrease than the attention lid and the interior the vagina (confident if poop gets compelled into the two the vagina or foreskin then it could opt to be wiped sparkling however the child foreskin is extra effective sealed than the vagina) i'm no longer able to respond to you religious questions for you, yet i will enable you understand that ethically i do no longer see advice on the thank you to justify circumcision. And the wellness advantages truthfully are not there.

Answer 4

stay out of it....it's all a ball of lies..get your own life, and try to make it better...and when you bring a child into the world, for goodness sakes make sure the family stays together.

Answer 5

Tell her don't wait until its too late and something goes wrong. And then she finds out you knew the whole time and did not tell her and then she will get mad at you.

Answer 6

IF HE WANTED TO MOVE OUT THEN HE WOULD! MEN DO WHAT THEY WANNA DO, AND THEY DON'T DO WHAT THEY DON'T WANNA DO. TELL YOUR FRIEND TO STOP BEING STUCK ON STUPID WAITING TO GET DUMBER!

BUT DO REALIZE THAT IF YOU TELL HER THE TRUTH, YOU RISK ENDING YOUR FRIENDSHIP BECAUSE WOMEN ALWAYS FLIP OUT ON YOU WHEN YOU'RE TRYING TO GIVE THEM ADVICE ABOUT THEIR SO-CALLED MAN...SO YOU MIGHT JUST WANT TO STAY OUT OF IT AND JUST BE THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE NEEDS A SHOULDER TO CRY ON...BECAUSE SHE WILL NEED ONE WHEN IT'S ALL SAID AND DONE!

Answer 7

I think you should tell her to tell him that there is no relationship until you move out of your baby mama's house :)

Answer 8

A big problem.I think your friend is being sexually exploited and should break up.

Answer 9

Mine. A friend of minE.