My ex-boyfriend isn't really satisfied in the relationship that he is in right now, but yet he can't very well leave her because he has two little boys by her. One is 3 yrs. and the other one is 1yr. She won't have sex with him except for maybe once every 3 to 6 months if she feels like it so therefore he comes to me. He says that if could possibly come back to me if there wasn't his girlfriend and his 2 boys then he would, but he doesn't want to take the chance of losing his boys and so therefore he just plays games with my head all the time and it really hurts. How does a chic forget when she still has the fellings in her heart for that guy? PLEASE HELP I NEED ADVICE!!!!!!!! I'm trying to remain friends with my ex-boyfriend though.
2006-09-09 13:10:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
why? He's using you for sex...dump him and have him stand up to his responsibilities as a daddy......don't worry, he'll find another sex toy when you aren't there...get on with your life.
2006-09-09 13:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by misselliet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i hope that you don't think that i am being mean because I'm not but i think that a reality check is in order. I am 28yrs of age and my parents used the same excuse about staying together for the children even though there was no love left between them and us as children suffered even more in the Long run. I feel that it is an excuse as now he is getting the best of both worlds and he has also got you to feel sorry for him in the long run. Please for your own sake tell him to buck up or back off because you are going to get hurt with this guy if he loved you he would be there the law says he still has rights to see his children even if he is no longer with the mother to his boys. Good luck sorry i had to be so honest x
2006-09-09 13:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by the strange one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going through something similar...Not exactly like you, but similar. I still love a man that left me two years ago, only to come back over and over again for a year. He is now involved with someone else, but we have remained "friends". He will talk sexually towards me on the phone when I have not said anything to start it.
I have decided to complete cut this man out of my life. It is the only way to get over him.
2006-09-09 13:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THE POINT IS THAT IT'S A LITTLE TOO LATE FOR WOULDA, COULDA, SHOULDAS! THE REALITY OF THE MATTER IS THAT HE DOES HAVE TWO KIDS BY THIS CHIC AND HE IS OBVIOUSLY NOT LEAVING HER BECAUSE HE FEELS AN OBLIGATION TO HER BECAUSE OF THE KIDS. HOWEVER, I DO FEEL THAT YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF SHORT AND THAT YOU ARE ALSO STUCK ON STUPID, JUST WAITING TO GET DUMBER.
BE HIS FRIEND, STOP SLEEPING WITH HIM, AND BE WITH SOMEONE WHO WILL HAVE YOU AS THEIR ONE AND ONLY CHIC. IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT THAT HIS CHIC HAS CLOSED SHOP ON HIM...OH WELL!
2006-09-09 13:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by CHASE_ME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could still leave his girlfriend. even if they have children. or if he was trying to make a go of it with her, he shouldn't come to you. he is playing you for sex and maybe affection. he is telling you that he wouldn't chose you over them.
2006-09-09 13:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by sleepyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are heading for heartbreak later. You will be older one day, and realize he took your youth, and used you up, and had his cake and ate it too. He will have his boys, and you will have wasted your young years waiting on him to come to you. WAKE UP!!!!!!!!
2006-09-09 13:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Garnet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't let any guy come to u any time he want
u must know when to say
"stop, what about me and my heart"
2006-09-09 13:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by sanfor_y 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because girls also like...
first of all, YOU have to decide what you want.
do not wait for him to decide. it's your life....
2006-09-09 13:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by Tathi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we allow them to ......
2006-09-09 14:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by thecrazywoman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋