Trying to conceive...?

Question

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for a few years now. Unfortunately, we have had several miscarriages throughout these years. I even went into a stage of depression. I have been to several doctors and they cannot figure out what the problem is. As I watch our brothers and sisters have children (planned and unplanned), I can't help but wonder what is wrong with me/us. My husband has gotten to the point where he is saying "I really don't care if we have them or not, I have you". I think this is really sweet, but I really want to give him a child. What should I do?

Answer 1

To get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Miscarriages can be due to many reasons. You must remember that the child formation in a body is not like something that is happening in a machine. There is nothing being held together by bolts and nuts. There are no screws to be tightened. The whole thing is held together by your own muscles and other results of hormones and enzyme reactions.

Your physical activities contribute to this a lot. If you strain yourself. If you wear tight body wear. If you wear high heeled shoes - all have an affect on it.

Your mental condition also matters a lot. If you are depressed. If you get angry often etc affects the enzymes in your body.

I know of a lady who spent the last 6 months in bed with knees up most of the day to avoid her 3rd miscarriage - and she succeeded.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

If doctors do not find anything wrong with the two of you then just pray about it and KEEP TRYING. courtney cox had several miscarriages and now has a beautiful healthy baby, a woman who also comes to my job has had 6 miscarriages and now pregnant again fixing to give birth. sometimes these things happen but u should never give up if u want this bad enough. I know it is hard as I to have had a twin miscarriage and it is devastating but one day u will be able to conceive a healthy child of your own.
Good Luck!
p.s take your pre conceive vitamins everyday!

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for you, it is painful and frustrating. I honestly do know where you are coming from. Sometimes since men aren't so good at showing their feelings they will just try to blow it off. And no matter what people will tell you , in your heart it is the only thing that will make you whole. Have you tried fertility specialists? It could be that your system is out of sync, like a clock. You could try applying to adopt if that is an option, no you don't get to experience the pregnancy aspect of it but you get the joy of the end result. I won't try to tell you fairy tales about "look in to it and you'll get pregnant- just wait and see!" We hoped for this and it never happened. But our kids make me happy just the same.

Answer 4

Your question is confusing; are you asking how to prevent miscarriage?
You say you have been pregnant, so that, apparently isn't the issue, but carrying a fetus to term, is .

Now that's a medical thing, and you need GOOD OB advice. I don't think you'll get the answer to that, here.

So, enjoy your relationship with your husband, help it grow, an just maybe, a miracle might happen!

Answer 5

I've experienced that desperate feeling to have a child. In fact, when I was struggling with infertility, it seemed to become an obsession. I was constantly questioning why that scum-bag woman on the street was pregnant and I wasn't. I just couldn't understand why there were so many teenagers sportin' big bellies and not me, a woman who was mature and financially stable. It just made no sense. It still doesn't, but at one point I gave up. I was so sick of being disappointed month after month. After two years of trying, I finally said "Forget it!" I quit thinking about it, I quit questioning, I quit being angry. It was like a big weight was lifted off of me. I felt relief and I felt free. So many people kept telling me before I gave up, "You need to relax, you need to relax, blah, blah, blah" How could I? I was faced with a heart-wrenching problem. I wanted to be a mother and I couldn't! Let me tell you, those people were right. The month I gave up, was the month I became pregnant with my son, who is now almost two years old. It was the month that I quit charting, quit taking Clomid, etc. All by myself! The cure to my infertility was indeed relaxing and letting go of my desperation and that emptiness that you mentioned here.

You will need to let go to rid yourself of the emptiness that you're experiencing. In time, you will be a mother, but you must find it in yourself to become a whole person without being dependent on becoming pregnant. That's sort of a codependency situation that you shouldn't be in. :) I know it's the hardest thing in the world to say "I give up" and really mean it when trying to conceive, but I know so many women that it's worked for. When you decide to let go, it will come to you, but you really need to let go before it will work. I know this sounds stupid, but give up for now. Just forget it. Start doing something as a hobby, focus on anything, but not ttc.

I understand your pain. I really do. I also know that things will work out for you if you let them and in time.

I understand.

I understand.

I understand.

You're not alone and you will be a parent someday. Promise.

Answer 6

A friend of mine + hubby tried to conceive for TWO yrs 'til they finally gave up and started having sex for fun. Not long after, the wife was pregnant! Makes ya think, huh?

Answer 7

If nothing medically is wrong, then it's probably stress that's preventing you... If he said your enough he probably meant it. Men aren't like us in that way... Maybe you can get a kitten, to preoccupy your time.. Give you something else to dote on, and continue to try, but not think about it so much... It will happen...

Answer 8

Try going to other doctors for second opinions, it may be something your doctor hasn't thought of, and if all else fails adopt, or even do foster care with the hopes of adopting. good luck to you and your husband I'll be praying for you.

Answer 9

tHIS IS THE strange irony. Couples who don't want children beget them, and couples dying to have kids, fail. Yet, pray for a miracle. God will answer your prayers. If you want to put in your human efforts, there are supposed to be doctors who are very good in this area. Check them out. also, de-stress. Sometimes, it's the stress factor that's damping your procreation abilities. Enjoy yourselves!

Answer 10

Try the sperm surgery.... its a 20% chance to get pregnant and it does cost a lot of money, but u can still try that...... my cousin tried it 4times, and thank God she was able to get preg after 7yrs of marriage..... nyway good luck!! just try try and try, nd pray!!