My boyfriend and I live in two different states. I have a disablity and money is tight. So it's really hard for us to be together right now. We promised that we wouldn't give up on each other. I know that this is his life too and it's hard. But we made promises and plans. He said he needed time to think but I haven't heard from him in almost a week. It hurts everytime the phone rings and it's not him. I don't know what to do but cry and feel betrayed.
2006-09-09 12:59:33 · 8 answers · asked by sixnow25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh, that's so hard. I'm sorry. Unfortunately, if he's saying he needs time to think and hasn't gotten back to you, chances are, the relationship is already over. But, you deserve closure, so you're perfectly in your rights to call him or, if it's less confrontational and less uncomfortable for you, emailing him for an answer. If he says he's still confused and hasn't made up his mind yet, ask him if there's anything you can do to help. If he says there's nothing you can do but give him space for awhile, ask him how much space and time he thinks he'll need before at least letting you know what his thoughts are if not a decision. That's more fair to you that just being left hanging to wonder, worry and feel bad. Make sure when you contact him that you're only doing so because you love him and are worried about him, not because you're just trying to pester or pressure him.
2006-09-09 18:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you picking up the phone and just calling to say "hi" , "I miss you" if the money is tight and you can't afford the call--- write a short note or a longer letter expressing your feelings. People make promises all the time and then realize they can't keep them. And, unfortunately sometimes even the best , most well intentioned plans have a way of sometimes falling apart. Whatever you do, don't isolate yourself. Disability or not we all need friends and support from time to time. If you spend time with freinds, or make new freinds, perhaps looking at possibilties of how you would want your life to develope with or without him then at least you'll have invested your time and energy into something that will DEFINETLY reap rewards for yourself. If the two of you were as close as you thought at some point you'll reconnect and discuss where you're at as a couple or as friends who go their seperate ways. If he completely disconnects from you and doesn't look back then he is not who you thought he was..is he? The biggest disability any girl or woman can have is to wait for some guy to make her life complete. Trust that everything will work out the way that it is suppose to--whether or not it is the ending you palnned on. Sometimes we just have to trust that the future will unfold bigger & brighter than we could have ever imagined it would! In the meantime, in the in between time it's ok to miss him..be honest with your feelings just don't put your life on hold waiting for something to happen that is out of your control . Best wishes -
2006-09-09 20:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs some space and time to sort out his feelings. He is definitely rethinking his position with the relationship. Hope for the best and give him time to sort everything out. I would not freak out over a week. Give it a few more days then call him and ask what he is feeling and what is happening. Don't push or you won't get the answer you want, in time he may come around. Good luck!
2006-09-09 20:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is a two way street.
But you did state that things have been difficult for him too.
Be patient for a reasonable amount of time(follow your heart on that one) and then go from the outcome.
Best wishes!
2006-09-09 20:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey this is how guys are they never seem like making time for us but we have to for them, first find out if he has someone else, im nto saying he does but u need to ask him, tell him to be honest thats all u want, i wish u luck girl
2006-09-09 20:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's tough to have a guy wait for you, especially one that said he needed time to think, sounds to me like this was his chanch go get going....I wouldn't hold my breath. good luck
2006-09-09 20:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by misselliet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hope he hasnt left you and didnt want to say he might of didnt want to tell you so just left and hopefully he hasnt and the next ring could be him
2006-09-09 20:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to ask how els r u going to no
2006-09-09 20:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋