when i m doing sex with my wife,not getting any type attachment in that paticular movement. even though i love her so much. i have past may be i should write it for getting better answer. i had gf in college life we broke up because we realised that it was just infectuation. after some day i really fall in love with some one else but after one year she got married & it's hurt me soo much. after six month i got married & my wife is really lovely, sweet & understanding. i told her everything about my past. & she can understand the hole situation. now problem is that even after 2 year leater i m not getting that connections with her which should have between husband & wife. & i cannot tell her these things b'cause i don't want hurt her. in these situation what should i do?
2006-09-09 12:53:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just continue ur married life without telling her your problem and start loving her, otherwise you will be nowhere. she will also go out of your life and both of your life will get spoiled.
2006-09-09 19:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by cool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some marriage counseling before this gets out of hand and you end up in divorce. You obviosly care for your wife or you wouldn't think she is lovely, sweet, and understanding but you need to talk to her. You are more likely to hurt her by not talking than you are by expressing your feelings. Go on a vacation where you can romance her and just let everything go. Stop saying you aren't connected to your wife because you are making yourself feel like that. Tell yourself all the great things about her, tell others, and show her how great she is. All her wonderfullness is right before your eyes and you are not seeling it. Good luck. Let me know if you need anything else
2006-09-09 20:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by rascal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Anjo, Sounds like you are still in love with the second girlfriend.But she got marry,and you found your wife and marry her.I think your wife was a rebound for you.You love the girlfriend that got marry, and thats why your not feeling the connection to your wife.If you don't really love your wife,You need to tell her this,So you both can move on with your life.I just hope you don't have any children with your wife.If you do, This will hurt them more than for wife.
Clowmy
2006-09-09 20:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation of some mental disturbance and it will be better you see a Doctor. However, Yoga may be tried with devotion. It is indeed an unfortunate situation for your understanding wife. Discuss the problem with her.
2006-09-10 00:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by Rama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said that college girl gave you an infectuation. Seems like you don't know how to love the one you're with. Work on your marriage dude. Period. End of story.
2006-09-09 21:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because she understood the "hole situation"
2006-09-09 20:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be because your old friend is still in your mind. this happens mostly with men who view porno movies. don't b excited. still have option to consult a psychologist.
2006-09-09 22:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by shyamala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you actually graduate from college? You need to retake English.
2006-09-09 20:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by Unknown 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just think about all she meens to you.
2006-09-09 19:57:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋