parents, at what age?

Question

i hav 2 questions:
1. how do u feel about teens and dating?... i know u r all tired uv us kids, teens, wutevr u call us being here but im looking 4 parents and their opinions....my parents won't let me date...not even when i get to highschool ( im12)

2. also.. how old do u think is good enough to let a child hme alone......im mature( most adults tell me that), but my parents wont let me......whats the age requirement 4 a child to stay home alone in the state uv NJ?

im a red belt in tae kwon do

i know all da rules like..no answering doors, and my town has no crime wutsoever

im hav a A average (4.0)

in my house...i cant even call a boy hot witout getting the look from my ma

Answer 1

oh sweetie, don't rush thru life, you'll miss the good parts. lol
#1 you may be ready to date around 15yrs. sorry 12 is a good age to begin babysitting and going to the mall with friends alone, but not out alone with boys. it's not you your parents don't trust, its boys! they only think about one thing. yep, its true and some won't take no for an answer. so believe me when i tell you, your parents are doing you a REALLY big favor.

#2 you should be old enough to stay home alone. I would still provide some guidelines. but there is a big bad world outside your door and sometime they get in. so i can understand if your parents aren't quite ready in that area. you might want to discuss starting out with a couple of hours alone and work that time up to all day, but remember, you have to follow all the guidelines and don't let your friends talk you into doing anything you know you shouldn't. this should help you build a good relationship with your folks and give them the confidence that you can handle things. wish you all the luck big hugs

Answer 2

I started dating my husband when we were 16, so obviously I am cool with teens and dating, as long as they are responsible. 12 is a little young to "date", but I remember having a "boyfriend" and holding hands at that age, I think I even had my first peck of a kiss when I was 12!
Personally, as far as staying home alone 12 may be old enough, but it depends on the kid, and the situation. I mean, are you in an area that has high crime? If that's the case then no I wouldn't leave you alone either. Maybe your parents are just having a hard time seeing that you are getting older. Not sure what the age requirement is in NJ, I am in California and I think it's 13 here.

Answer 3

Well,i am not a teen or parent of a teen but i was a teen once and i remember the responses of each of those situations.Ill start with the first one.
Dating,well,i feel that if you are mature that you should be allowed to date.The reason many parents do not allow their teens to date,is the fact that there are so many teen moms today(I am not speaking personally,just generally).They know that most teens will do it,male or female to fit in.Peer pressure plays a role,remember they were young once so they know that there is that pressure to do things such as have sex or babies.You need to prove to them that you are responsible.Being responsible plays a huge part of this.Make decisions that involve things at home.Bigger issues besides just whether to get on the computer or whether to not.Do extra chores,just because.Do them to help out rather than because your mother said that you had to or you were grounded.Be one step ahead of them because they will reward that and realise you are starting to be mature about things.Just be responsible and show them they can trust you when they are not there to supervise.
As far as staying home alone.To me,12 sounds like a reasonable age,i am however unaware of what the age requirement is.Again,it all goes with you being responsible and showing them you are maturing.Some reason or another they feel that you shouldnt stay home by yourself.Dont look at that as if it is bad,they care and there are many parents in this world who do not care about their children and will leave them home alone at any age.Myself i stayed home alone at 11,I didnt do anything crazy and was mature for my age.Just prove them how responsible and mature you are.Good luck and dont forget to embrace being 12,and all the teen years after because they dont come back and once they were gone you dont want to look back and wonder why you didnt embrace them.You only get that chance once.Enjoy it!

Answer 4

I can't answer the home alone thing as I'm in Canada. Even though where I am, the laws state that a child can be home alone at age 11. I have an 11 year old daughter but she has not shown that she can be trusted with important things like 'not answering the door to strangers', 'what to say and not to say when answering the phone', or even staying out of the food cupboard and eating us out of house and home.

As for dating....you're 12! You're young! Give it time. Your parents are worried as there are a lot of sick people out there and they don't want you getting hurt. Dating is not a game you want to be playing at such a young age. I do have a 13 year old step-daughter who lives with her mom and she's totally boy crazy...sneaking out of her house all the time...she'll probably end up pregnant before grade 10...is that what you want for yourself? If not....trust your parents....they know best.

Answer 5

I have a 3 year old son and a baby on the way.

1. I will not allow any of my children date until they are over the age of 16 and have good grades ( B's or better). I will not allow group dating until they are 16. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16 I will not allow my kids to date until they are 16.

2. I will not allow my kids to be alone anyplace or anywhere until they are 16. If the want to go to the mall, movies, etc. they must be with an adult at all times.

Answer 6

Ok first of all you are way to young to be worried about dating. First of all children now a days are worried about growing up too soon. It is sad to say but when you finally have to grow up you will wish you were a kid again. Dating is a complicated thing. You dont just date someone..you have to be able to handle it emotionally and at 12 you are not ready to do that.

And staying at home alone you have to 13. Even then you shouldn't. Don't you see how many kids get taking from there homes. They get kidnapped.

Your parents are only trying to protect you. They want to make sure you are safe and it may not be they don't think you aren't responsible. They just might be thinking that they don't want to risk leaving you alone and something happening. I mean things happen.

I won't let my daughter date until she is 16. She needs to worry about being a kid. Playing and going to school. She doesn't need to be worrying about boys.

Answer 7

I think you would do far better concentrating on your English at the moment.

12 is FAR too young to date. Honestly, you are still children. Boys and girls are so different at that age that you have virtually nothing in common.

My son has stayed at home on his own during the day for the first time this summer. He is almost 14.

I don't know what the law is where you live, I'm afraid.

Answer 8

Teen dating at age 12 is a little too young because first you don't know anything about a realtionship just that you both like each other and your parents have the right to concerned

Answer 9

I am going to let my kids date when I feel that they are mature enough to handle it, so there's no specific age that I'm going to set...however, I know that it will not be before they are 16.

And, with leaving my kids home alone...my son is 14 and my daughter is going to be 11. I do leave my son home alone, but not my daughter.

Answer 10

i really think that 12 IS a little young to seriously 'date', but I also believe that it shouldn't COMPLETELY be the parents decision. I mean, I've been hanging out with guys since pre-school, I made some guy friends in pre-k and we've all been best friends ever since. I think it would have been incredibly stupid of my parents to tell me i couldn't hang out with my best friends anymore just because they were a certain age. So, I think you should be able to 'hang-out' with guys as friends, but don't get too caught up in it, you have more important things in your life then having to worry about if he will call you this weekend, or chill with you after school, or worry about if he'll kiss you. I say that kids just like to be ABLE to do things instead of actually wanting to do them, they just don't like restrictions.