2006-09-09 12:17:56 · 31 answers · asked by zuffin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i learned not to rush into things.engaged at 3 months married after 8,we fell in love so fast,but it can go just as fast! really make sure that you are compatable,and even if the sex is great,u cant spend yr life in the bedroom!im now with someone i left my husband for,and weve been together 8 years,and there have been many ups and downs,and ive taken more cr*p than i did with my husband, but something makes me stay!tbh i dont know how people can stay with 1 person thier whole life,but i wil do my best.one of the main things ive learntis any relationship is bloody hard work!
2006-09-09 15:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mistress j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned over the years that I had settled for someone that I thought was right, but I did not love him in the "soul mate" kind of way. I did not even know that I had the ability to love that deeply.
I learned that holding a marriage and family together takes work on the part of both people. No matter how much one person wants to make the marriage work, the marriage will wither and die unless the other person also works to keep it alive.
I regret the pain and heartache that I have endured due to misjudging the depth of my feelings for my first husband. However, I do not regret the marriage. I have two wonderful children from that marriage, and I learned enough to be prepared when I finally met the man who is truly my soul mate. I know that we will both have to work at keeping the communication and love alive to keep the relationship going.
2006-09-09 19:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My marriage hasn't failed... but I have learned a lot. Dont try to change the other person. Don't raise your voice or call names. Always treat the other with the respect you want to be shown. Be patient. Try to see from the other's perspective. Keep communication open. "Date" one another. Relax and don't put too much pressure on yourself or each other. Be friends with the other person. Accept that people change and things wont always be like they used to be, but you can grow WITH the other and allow your relationship to grow and change as well. Habits are formed easily; dont get in bad habits like being disrespectful or taking your partner for granted. Express your love often.
2006-09-09 19:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by cartmansmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That I was way to young to be trying to get Married at 18 I wouldnt have married my first Husband just because he was in the military and well able to take care of myself and our child also I wouldnt have gotten pregnant at age 17 and married in the first place with a baby by age 18.I learned that pregnancy isnt a good reason to get married there has to be some love, commitment and trust involved.
2006-09-09 19:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I learned was that when you loose trust, you loose everything that a marriage is built on. I also learned that you can love someone deeply, but love isn't enough without trust.
I wouldn't change the fact that I married him - he gave me two beautiful boys that I wouldn't have had without him.
2006-09-09 20:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned that no man will ever hit me again or cheat on me.I learned that I am stronger for all that my first husband put me through.and I wouldn't change any of it because it did make me a stronger and better person for it. I know now that i can trust my judgment.
2006-09-09 19:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one, you learn from mistakes and in some cases you might not have wanted to change anything to have saved that first marriage.
2006-09-09 19:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Rizzo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That woman he left me for, I learnt that no matter what you do you have to accept what happened and enjoy the children and grandchildren if you were lucky enough to keep him in the picture it never ends and you never stop learning.
2006-09-09 19:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by paulawis589 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would and am taking time to find the right person who is honest and more compatible to me.
Problem is,they are impatient and leave after thinking i am not at all bothered,because i am not chasing them all the time and allow them their own life as well as be around me.
2006-09-09 19:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by asmoothrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned to speak up, speak my mind, and never ever cheat on my spouse no matter how little he listens to me. there are better ways of fixing a variety of problems.
2006-09-09 20:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by pinebarrons1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋