they argue so much....most of the time i try to get out of the house but when i come back its like my mom takes it out on me. I Hate it! its not my fault!! :(...
2006-09-09 12:14:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
maybe try talking to your mom, she may just need someone to talk to, and that's why she takes it out on you, she doesn't know how to show her feelings, she's hurting, try talking to her and be there to listen.
My parents use to yell, and it took me a long time to figure out that my mom just needed some to talk to, a shoulder to cry on. She was hurting and didn't have anybody to talk with.
2006-09-09 12:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by melashell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart.....I don't know what to tell you cause I never have been in that situation but the first answer sounds like the right thing to do. And don't sit out in the family room and listen to them fight go in your room and turn on some music or take a walk down the street or go over to a friends house and hang out there for a little bit. But I agree with the two that said talk with your mom like a day or so after the argument has occured and see if she needs to talk about ne thing. Tell her how you feel and listen to her feelings to. I hope all goes well for you and your parents. Hugs and good luck
2006-09-09 13:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chaysee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are doing the right thing, get out, get away. when you come back, understand that your mom has gone through what you needed to get away from. she needs love, she is passing on the anger she feels, she needs to receive some love. parents are learning too, you don't deserve what you are getting. try to understand, we do what we know. until we learn something different. because parents are, doesn't mean they know how to deal with what life confronts them with. you are seeking what they do not know how to ask for. the best answer I know, love unconditionally, very tough to learn, when you don't have the example. when you come home, I love you mom, I'm sorry you had to endure that. will open a new channel of communication.
good luck and may love be with you!
2006-09-09 21:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom when she's not upset...meaning don't try to bring this up right after your parents have had a fight. Tell you how their arguing makes you feel. Tell her how you feel that she takes it out on you. Sometimes, us parents get so involved in our own lives that we don't take the time to see what we are doing to our kids. We need to be reminded that your feelings count too.
2006-09-09 12:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem...im 16 and my parents got seperated but its worse now they like argue through me or worse now...theyve been seperated for like 4 years. Um wat i did was start a punk band and took all the anger out into that...i also go 2 shows and mosh and ****...and smoke a lot of pot and drink...but thats not the best things to do. Maybe you could be like what the **** mom, dad its not my fault this all your ****...you shouldnt take it out on me and tell them to go to counseling and be like deal with your **** or ill move in with a friend...it always works theyll chill for a little while at least.
2006-09-09 15:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by cthor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not ur fault.
2006-09-09 13:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sta.b her in the ******** throat sounds like she deserves it
2006-09-09 12:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋