I lied to my husband about how many sexual partners iv had, mainly becuase he got jelous over me just saying anything about having sex with anyone before him-like he knew I wasnt a virgin as I had a daughter when we met lol.
Is that wrong, should I tell him the real number lol, or does he probly already know-but just doesnt want to relaize it?
He says hes only been with 3 people, seems like a lie as hes 27.
2006-09-09 12:05:02 · 19 answers · asked by chicata25 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well he never gave me the chance to tell him, hes always been really jelous over the thought. We have been married for 4 years, and we just dont discuss anything of the past.
2006-09-09 12:18:54 · update #1
Are you kidding? I couldn't tell my husband even if I wanted to.
If he says he's been with 3 people, then say that you've been with 3 people too.
He doesn't have to know. Why should he? Is he writing your life story. A little mystery never hurt anyone.
2006-09-09 13:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by vitamin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Numbers shouldn't matter, but to some people they do. It's just a number and it shouldn't make any difference as long as he is the only one you're with now. Don't upset his world over something so small from the past. It's not a big deal.
And you'd be surprised how many guys really are particular about how many people they've had sex with. Maybe he "fooled around" with more than three, but thought you'd be offended by the number. If you really have to know, make it an honest conversation and let him know the real number of guys (and why you lied in the first place), but I'd just let this one slide between you two.
2006-09-09 12:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was wrong of you not to tell him the real number in the first place. You shouldn't tell him now, just let it go and move on.
Why would you think he is lying? Just because he is older doesn't mean he has had multiple partners. I am 30 and have only had sex with one person. We met when I was 13 and have been together ever since.
Give him the benefit of the doubt. Just because you lied to him about your sexual past does not mean he did as well.
2006-09-09 12:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why even go there??? What difference does it make how many or how few, it's in the past. You're married now and he should be the one and only what happened before you married has not bearing on the future. Don't bring it up you're just asking for difficulty in your marriage, you already know he's jealous. Leave it be, you will find many other challenges in marriage without looking for things in the past to argue about. If he brings it up tell him your done talking about the past and want to concentrate on your future with him because you love him.
2006-09-09 12:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not tell him the truth. How can you say he is lying. I am 48 years old and have only been with 5 woman of which I was married to 2. So he could be telling the truth.
2006-09-09 12:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had "the talk" before we got married, but we didn't really to get into details and specifics. We know "about" how many, but do I REALLY want to know ALL the details about his past encounters? Umm, No. And neither does he. I know that he's slept with an avg. amount of women, and me an avg. amt. of men. Nothing outrageous.
But why is it something to get upset about? Agree that you both had a life before you met each other, and now it's all about you. The past is the past. Move on.
2006-09-09 12:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was wrong of you to lie to him, but on the other hand, it is the past and you only are with him now, so your past shouldn't matter.
Personally, I tell my husband everything, but he asked how many I had. Otherwise I wouldn't have told him. But keeping secrets from your husband is not good. It could lead to serious problems!
2006-09-09 12:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy has been with twice as many women as I have men. It upsets me once in a while that he is so experienced, but he doesn't mind that I have been around a bit, too. I guess that is what makes us a good couple. He has the experience that I don't and knows how to use it.
2006-09-09 12:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would drop the topic, what's in the past should stay that way. You should have told him the truth in the first place.
Yes I'm always honest but that's because I'm comfortable about the number and not embarressed.
2006-09-09 12:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by nashiranickel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
we cleared this kind of questions a long time before we got married... it's a bit childish really, or should i call it immature. i would suggest to drop this topic and keep up the peace in your marriage
2006-09-09 12:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by julesloveslife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋