I have nowhere to live and my relationship with my girlfriend is suffering. In fact I think if it doesn't get sorted out, she'll leave me soon for another man or woman. We've lived together 4 years but I made 1 mistake, agreing to live with her sister. Things haven't worked out and we are now being evicted.
The guy I work with is looking for a place to live with his pregnant girlfriend. We found a 3 bed place and want to live together. We hope to be there only until the baby is born and bills and responsibilities for the house will be shared 50/50 between both couples but obviously I'll want to leave them to it when the baby arrives. I've known the guy one month and his girlfriend less time. It will be cheaper and more convenient for work, but is it worth it? I don't want to jeopardise my friendships or my relationship
Should I rent a tiny expensive bedsit with my girlfriend where we can be alone or should the 4 (plus unborn baby) of us live together in a cheap house???
2006-09-09 11:50:45 · 5 answers · asked by george m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you need to assess this one very carefully. On the one hand, you have the opportunity to save some money to put away for your own place. On the other, at the end of it, you might not have a girlfriend left to move in with.
What does your girlfriend want? What do you want? You need to discuss this together as a group and talk about what would be the worst possible scenario if you live together. If you don't think that you could solve it if it happens then don't live together. If you generally think you could get along together for 6 months then go for it. But make sure that you keep saving so that you can be out of there at the first possible opportunity. Good luck.
2006-09-12 05:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by roxpox99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with your colleague, that sounds okay, as long as you keep to your side of it all 50/50.. just do your own thing. and leave your friends to their business, and it should work out okay, while you are there, you can save to get you and girlfriend a decent little place, so by the time the baby is born, or soon after you can move out, and be by yourselfs. Good Luck.
2006-09-09 12:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT, IT WON'T WORK.
Get a reality check here, You and your girlfriend want to live in a house with people you hardly know, and the girl is pregnant - you obviously have no idea what hormones do to a woman when she is pregnant.... I have just had my best friend living with me for 10 wks and i have known her for over 10years and she had to go today.
Go and find a bedsit/flat with your girlfriend and be on your own, or try to get onto the property ladder
2006-09-09 19:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by jaynie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are working and have been for a while,then why not go for a mortgage on a home for both of you and your partner,it will be cheaper in the long run than paying out all that rent and getting nothing.
Bonus is,she will see you are making a long term commitment to your relationship too.
2006-09-09 11:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by asmoothrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't... my son split with his girlfriend whom he'd lived with for two years, and he moved in with an ex colleague and five year friend, so they could share expenses as house mates.
It hasn't worked out just six months down the line and now they are losing the friendship too. My son is moving back with me, until his life is sorted, his ex girl went back to her parents, and his current house mate, is probably going home to his parents.
They all have to start their lives again, and in the meantime, they have accumulated serious debts which are mostly in my son's name, because he was the only one who had background references, and they have got seriously out of hand for him, so I'm currently helping sort them out. Which is seriously stressful for me at 61.
You should set up home with your own girl and let them get on with their own lives and not get involved, it will erode your friendship, and certainly not be sensible for a pregnant lass, to have two males around her all the time as she gets heavier and needs more privacy.
Another female, stopping over all the time, may make her feel threatened in her own home as well, since pregnancy is a very emotional and tiring time, when women feel vulnerable enough and unattractive enough, already.
2006-09-09 12:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋