my "best friend" is an only child (i'm not saying this is true for all only childs) so she is used to getting all the attention, wich can sometimes make a person self sentered. i mean i can handel the the whole self senterd thing, but now she has begone to get coockey too, because she "supposedley" lost weigh, she isn't just a little coockey, she is really coockey, everyday she's like "i'm so pretty" or "don't i look great" or "i look a lot better then you would in this" or something like that, i mean not only is it annoying and rude, but she doesn't know that what she says may make her feel better but can really heart others. she is also going out with a guy (her 8 bf) who is 17 and she is only 13!! not only that but the guy does some pretty illegul things.she treates me like crap but then expects me to be there for her one something happens. i mean she has more than enough flaws but when she wants to be nice she can really sweet, but thats very rare. so should we stop being friends?
2006-09-09 11:50:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No she is not a good friend if she treats you horribly but then wants you to be there when SHE needs you. That is very selfish and shows that she is not taking your feelings into consideration. Have you every spoken to her about her behavior? Unfortunately, many people do not realize their actionsuntil it is pointed out to them. Speak to her and if she continues her behavior, I advise you to find a better friend. No one should be putting up with that no matter how long you have been friends.
2006-09-09 11:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by TLC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's 13 and already on boyfriend number 8, there's something wrong. I'm 25 and on boyfriend number 5. She's too young to be dating AND dieting! I would tell her parents what she's doing. She's a bad spoiled child and if she's easily influenced, than this boy is bad news for her. Friends come and go and you will meet better people in your life. Anyone who treats you with this kind of disrespect, doesn't deserve to know you. Break off the friendship and see how she REALLY gets along with out you!
2006-09-09 12:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by liquid_candy_too 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is the key to any relationship.
if you don't let her know how you feel, she may never actually realize that she is being hurtful.
as she is someone you already consider a friend it should be worth it to work out your problems, but if she continues to be self-centered and egotistical, well there are over 5 billion people on the planet, I'm pretty sure one of them can be there for you and would appreciate you being there for them.
i know this really doesn't answer your question, but it should give you something to think about so that you can answer it for yourself.
You are the only person who can make that choice.
that is what life and growing up are all about.
I hope this helps and i hope you have a good life.
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2006-09-09 11:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by gorillablunts123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could only defend her and advise you to be patient... or ask for her help next time you are in need, and you shall see if she is a friend or not.
I would defend all only childs cause this self-centered thing is only a stereotype, and it is not true about all of them. I am also an only child, and I know for sure that selfishness was never my thing, neither self-centeredness, but I got labelled as selfish several times... cause when people want to hurt you, they have to find something, don't they!
It is up to you what you do. But in this context... I would also ask myself if I am a good friend, who knows her flaws but I never draw her attention to them! If you are a friend, tell her what is bothering you - you might help a 1,000 times more than by quitting. And, in the same time, be aware that if you leave her, she won't have a clue why you left..... I know that from myself, happened several times. She will never understand why you did that, and you might hurt her for life, with this.
Same, regarding her guy: tell her what you think about him, that you think he is doing illegal things and warn your friend to take care of herself!!! You can also warn her that if she gets into trouble because of him, you cannot always hold your back for her.
Good luck. I know it is hard, but if you ask me, only childs are the best people in this world, with the purest souls you ever heard of!
2006-09-09 12:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard place to be i think that you might want to try to nicley tell her that how and what she is saying is really making you upset and also you might want to genlty hint at the fact that her bf is doing illeagle stuff. you should warn her that she could get into a lot of trouble not only with her parents ( if they dont know how old he is which most likley if she's only 13 n her bf is 17 her parents dont know they are dating or his true age) but she could also get her self and him in trouble with the law/government. i understand that she probably wont like to hear this i would tell her before you tell her about what she's doing to you . if she truley likes him she may break up with her bf. i would suggest you to try to talk to her about how she 's not being a good friend than if you can try and give her a nother chance to be a good friend. hope this helps. have a good weekend.
2006-09-09 12:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by lexie_09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop being friends, just pull away from her. They way her life is going... she'll either have a self-changing moment or she'll be that way forever. Most likely the second one, and as time goes by she'll just keep that up. Try to still be her friend, just not her slave. If you can, help her relize that there's more to life then going out with older guys and being the prettyist and coolest person around...
I'd just hope that you have some other people who care about you enough to be really good friends.
2006-09-09 11:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a lop sides friendship. No friend is ever going to be perfect. Everyone seems to be a little "coockey" when you get to know them well enough. However, the fact that she has a much older boyfriend who's doing illegal things is pretty alarming. No, it isn't up to you to be there to pick up the pieces if she wants to screw her life up that badly. It's better if you just stay away from her, and concentrate your time and energy on making new friends instead. Good luck.
2006-09-09 11:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah, I can't satand to be around people like them, it gets on my nerves and the only time they want help from you their like the nicest person on earth, you can do alot better than her, and about her boyfriend before you befriend her you should tell her that 8 boyfriends is enough, its not all that bad for an older peron but for a 13 year old it is, and its even worse to have a seventeen yr old boyfriend, he gonna want something out of the realationship, not just hanging out with each other, tell her not to be so conceded and then dump her and walk away.
2006-09-09 11:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should leave her. She's obviously not a good friend. My best friend is an only child too, but she never acts like that. It seems that she's only using you. I think it's time that you find someone else to spend your time with. Someone who will appreciate your company and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
2006-09-09 11:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was an only child a nd spoiled rotten and i treated my best friend like crap. we would put on make up and if hers was messed up i wouldnt tell her so i would look better, i always was mean to her and put her down,and make myself in-charge always.in my experience you need to tell her and then quit talking to her if she doesnt respect your wishes, shes not going to think shes that bad until years later.trust me, i know what im talking about, she put up with me for 10 and i used her name when i got arrested and the cops put her in jail for it, i mean i was bad!so shes not going to learn until u take control and show her friendship is a TWO way street! if u want more insight of me at that age just IM me,
2006-09-09 11:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by shannonlee05@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋