I dont like being touched....why!?

Question

I dont really understand why...I've never let anybody Ive dated or even had feelings for hug me or kiss me or touch me at all. I absolutely hate hugs and dont let my family give me hugs either. I hesitate to even give high fives....Sometimes, this makes me look like a cold person, but im just really uncomfortable, its straining my relationships, even ending some. I never let my bf fool around with me because i feel guilty, im not sure if its because im christian or what? Does anybody have any ideas how I can loosen up a little bit and be more comfortable around people? NICE answers only please. Thanks.

Answer 1

I'm Christian too, but that doesn't mean that you should shun away other people. Christianity is about loving everyone.
Some people just don't like that touchy-feely stuff, that's okay. But if it gives you anxiety, maybe you should start out giving hugs are stuff to people you're comfortable with (like family and close friends). If you keep on stretching your comfort level, your shyness about touching will probably go away.
Good luck =)

Answer 2

becauses the liberal demorats sold out gay people for vote agian the repeal of dadt is nothing you can still be dihonourably discharge fro conduct un becoming . they took away dadt but left all th epenalties .. what this will be used for is to deny retirement benefits and such . which will end also any military medical benefits also . most gays got sold out and are so giddy about the liberal demorast they fail to follow the dollar . do you really think you getting anything at all you got sold out fool. you also got given the right to go die fighting in a foreign country for wahtever reason it is oil or some other demorat wish list . what you lost was a ability to chose to go or not rmemeber the demoarats have been trying for decades now to reinstet the draft . gay people you have been made a fool of , i dont know what is sadder the fact of what just happened or the feact that you dont even realize what happened . not to mention it was aset up as dems try to pass what ever garbage they can through a lameduck congress . this is one of those things easily overturned next year then the will blame it on the republicans and you will be ticked off when the republicans had your best interests in mind . if you dont think im right just give it a few short years and see if what i say isnt your worst nightmare

Answer 3

There's a whole spectrum of human behavior that's normal. Some people are huggy. Some aren't. Maybe you're simply one of the ones who isn't. There's nothing wrong with being somewhat reserved, particularly around casual acquaintances.

However, if this is bleeding over into your private relationships and is translating into an inability to give and accept affection at all, it's probably something to discuss with a counselor. From your description, I'm somewhat concerned that there's an underlying issue that needs to be understood. It might even be something as profound as a trauma you can't remember. One question to consider: does the prohibition on touching extend to all animals (cats, dogs) or merely humans?

Working through this may take some time and may not be as simple as admonishing yourself to "loosen up a little". There may be some very good reasons why you are the way you are. But I do feel confident that it's an issue that can be worked through. If you need help finding a counselor, talk to your regular doctor and ask for a referral. If necessary, try out several counselors until you find one you're comfortable with, but don't give up.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

i sort of used to be like that but it was just a phase for me and it passed because i realised i was being over obsessed so i just forgot about it and moved on. but i no it probably wont be that easy and you should tell either some1 professional like a doctor or psychiatrist or else your best friend or some1 you can trust.

once you talk about it im sure you will feel better. that way some1 will know what your going through and if your upset you will have some1 to talk to.

you should try to get over it the way i did if its just been happening a while or maybe see some1 if you have felt like it a long time. i hope this helps and whatever you do dont feel presured into doing anything you dont feel comfortable doing with anyone. and dont worry about looking like a cold person if you tell some1 close then they will understand and if you wanted they could tell other people and they would understand aswell.

good luck

=)

Answer 5

If you weren't raised in an affectionate environment that could be the simple reason.

If the rest of your family members show affection easily then perhaps it's just a character trait of your own.

However - I know a few autistic kids who can't stand to be touched either. There are many degrees and types of autism and one could be high functioning and not even realize they were autistic.

Or it could be just as simple as you need to relearn some basic social skills.
Either way I would talk to your doctor or find a therapist and see what their opinion is.

Answer 6

you may really benefit from going to see a sex therapist to discuss your issues and learn how better to physically relate to the world around you. Don't be ashamed, but you must feel miserable feeling like that all the time, I hope you can learn to let the wall come down because a hug is the best remedy for most of the world's ills.

Answer 7

I am an atheist, and don't particularity like being touched by people I don't trust/ know/ or like, so I doubt it has anything to do with your religious beliefs. You most likely have an anxiety disorder or some other disorder that would make you fear getting physically close to someone. There may be meds available, but generally, get used to it, there is no fix all for personality disorders.

Answer 8

Well u should talk to somebody about this cuz obvioualy u have trust issues. Has anyone done anything to u that made u feel uncomfortable? Well Id suggest seeing a therapist cuz they can give u all the help and answers u need. Hope that helps.

Answer 9

I hope that you were not abused as a child. We are a touchy feely family. So I guess just start off slow and hopefully some day you can over come it! Try talking to a counselor about it.

Answer 10

I don't know but I doubt that you are the only person to experience this problem..
You clearly recognize that you have a problem and that is a great start...
I can only suggest professional psychological help...