2006-09-09 11:41:49 · 31 answers · asked by gw7663 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because she can.....grow a backbone.
2006-09-09 11:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the real question is, why do you keep allowing it? You may love her, but before you love anyone you must love yourself first and realize that you deserve better than that. It's normal that we may find others attractive but it's keeping oneself in one's place and think about the feelings of ones spouse that we should ultimately think about. And what could be the results of our actions. The problem doesn't lie in "looking at the menu outside, 'cause one can always look and admirer, the problem lies in making sure that we eat at home"
I think you should give her an ultimatum. If you are the bread winner and supporting her, give her the bare necessities, If she is working then she needs to help with the expenses around the house, if she's not already doing so.If she's not working then she has too much time on her hands and needs to find herself a job and help you. Make sure that whatever you decide you stick by your word. Be Firm. You deserve better than that and it's not fair. You have to play the role of the husband but she can play the role of a single person? That's not right. Not to mention the number of STD's that she can bring back home. If she doesn't put herself in her place, then you put yourself in your place and leave her lying, cheating A. It's not easy living with a person who you can't trust.
I've been through the same. I've told my husband that I am going to leave him and he has told me countless times that he loves me and not to leave him. Even though he still lies or tells half truths I can tell that he hasn't been cheating on me lately. But I never let my guard down though.
2006-09-09 13:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by hilda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest question here is not why she does this but why the hell do you take it. No man in his right mind, or left for that matter would ever put up with this for very long. If she keeps on insisting on cheating and lying on you with another guy,time has definitely come for her to be with that guy and let her become his problem. The only way one partner can use another is if you let it happen. You have married the wrong girl and are way too good for her so time has come when enough is enough, and for you to move on to better and happier grounds. Good luck
2006-09-09 11:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because you are allowing her to walk all over you and once you started letting her do that and you didnt stop it from the jump she figured if she can get away with it then why not sorry you are going through this but you do deserve better and guess what shes going to find a man who does the exact thing to her and shes going to remember how good you were to her but by then you will find a woman who appreciates a good man good luck Karma is such a BIG five letter word.
2006-09-09 12:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with the first answer,you and only you have control over this,it depends on what you want from your marriage,if you are willing to keep living like this then you will stay with her,if you want a true blue good woman,she is probably right around the corner,life is to short to waist it,trust me I have a husband just like your wife,but I am chosing to find better
2006-09-09 11:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is an insecure a**. She lacks morals and self worth, which you cannot provide for her no matter how much you love her and try to help her. Best thing for you to do is walk away, she is bringing you down and making you unhappy. Leave while you still care instead of waiting until you hate her. Love hurts, but being miserable and unhappy hurts worst and the damage is irreparable.
2006-09-09 12:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when people lie that are afraid of something and if she is cheating then she probably is searching for something. Sounds like you need to set up some boundaries too. I believe you can work beyond this if you truly love her and if she truly wants to change and make things better in her life too.
2006-09-09 11:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sheila W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let her. It's that simple. Why would you live with a person who shows you such disrespect?
You can't be a doormat if you refuse to lie down.
Be a man, toss her out! Don't let her crying beg you back, and find you a real woman.
2006-09-09 11:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife keeps on cheating on u because u are always excepting her behaviour she know that she could cheat and get away with it because u wont leave her u need to dump her
she lies to u because she can
she is using u because she can
if u know all this why do u allow it to happen u need to have self respect and stop this leave her find someone else
2006-09-09 12:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just like that. They don't have the respect for others and their relationships with them that they should have. In fact, she probably doesn't respect herself either, whether she'll admit it or not. If the behavior is repetitive, as you've suggested, she's not going to change, and you shouldn't wait for her. It's better for your self esteem to find someone who respects you enough to be honest with you and love you alone.
2006-09-09 12:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow her to. We do control our own destinies 99% of the time.
If you leave, she will not be able to lie or cheat on you ever again.
2006-09-09 11:43:56 · answer #11 · answered by Lisa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋