One of my best friends..lied me..yesterday!Now I don't know what to do..hate her..or forgive her.I just want...to kill her because I said to her..everything..and now she is jealous because..I have a new friend!I thought..and I think I'm gonna...hate her...what do u say?
2006-09-09 11:23:15 · 25 answers · asked by alexxya_r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dont hate her...please. You can forgive but i understand that your trust level you had for her is not there anymore. Also you can tell her how you feel after you calm down. Please wait until you calm down because you dont want it to end up really bad. That was suppose to be you best friend so you dont want to make her to mad because I know you have told her things that you didnt want anybody to know and she might get mad and tell all your business. Trust it happened to me so be careful how you handle the situation.
2006-09-09 11:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by love_30034 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a strong word and i'm sure when you calm down, from being upset, you'll realize that hate, is not how you want to feel, towards her. Having a best friend betray you, is an awful feeling because you've told each other thing's, you vowed not to share with anyone else. My mother always told me, never ever tell your best friend everything, some thing's are best left unsaid because the moment a friend turns on you, they will use some of the thing's you told them, against you. I would stay away from her, if she wants to ask for your forgiveness, I think that you should, only because, in the Bible, Jesus says you must forgive others, if you want to be forgiven, by our heavenly Father. I'm not telling you to hang out with her or anything like that, but don't go out of your way, to make her look bad, it'll only backfire, 7 times worse. Be careful of your new best friend as well, because it takes time and trust, to call a person, a "best friend", good luck.
2006-09-09 18:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is a funny thing... Before hating think back. Have you ever lied???? I am a firm believer that what goes around comes around...
Was the lie to protect your feelings from being hurt??? I find those are almost a good lie.. A friend trying not to hurt another. I am not saying that it is right but maybe she had good intentions...
Don't hate. It takes way to much energy. And if you can't find away to get over it. Your friendship if forever changed you are now just friends not best friends...At least you are still friends.
2006-09-09 18:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mellisa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true friends don't do that to each other. Maybe this will help...
FAKE Friends: Never ask for food.
Real Friends: are the reason you have no food.
FAKE Friends: Call your parents Mr/Mrs
Real Friends: Call your parents DAD/MOM
FAKE Friends: bail you out of jail and tell you what you did wrong.
Real Friends: Would sit next to you sayin "Damn ... we ****** up ...but that **** was fun!"
FAKE Friends: never seen you cry.
Real Friends: cry with you
FAKE Friends: Borrow your stuff for a few days then give it back.
Real Friends: keep your **** so long they forget its yours.
FAKE Friends: know a few things about you.
Real Friends: Could write a book about you with direct quotes from you.
FAKE Friends: Will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing.
Real Friends: Will kick the whole crowds *** that left you.
FAKE Friends: Would knock on your front door.
Real Friends: Walk right in and say "I'M HOME!"
FAKE Friends: Are for awhile.
Real Friends: Are for life.
FAKE Friends: Will take your drink away when they think you've enough.
Real Friends: Will look at you stumbling all over the place and say ***** drink the rest of that you know we don't waste ****."
FAKE Friends: will talk **** to the person who talks **** about you.
Real Friends: Will knock them the **** out
2006-09-09 18:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by atripplem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what she lied to you about. My best friend lied to me about something too, and she still doesn't know that I found out. And its funny, because she also gets jealous when I get new friends. She makes new friends all the time, and most of them are nice. We get along fine. Then suddenly I make a new friend, and she acts mean around them and tells me she doesn't like them. I know. It gets annoying.
Try to forgive her. Hopefully it'll work out.
2006-09-09 18:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by Hearts to You 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a very strong word. If she made a mistake and still wants to be friends, you may want to forgive. But not forget.
But, if she is being rude and isn't being the friend she once was, then you may have to cut ties with her. But my advice is to not hate and make fun of her. Don't stoop to that ugly level. Just disassociate yourself from her.
Good Luck
2006-09-09 18:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by Katie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
people make mistakes. what do you mean when you say i'm gonna hate her? if you hate her you hate her and if you don't you don't so if you have this question in mind probabely you don't hate her. so my suggestion is that you forgive her, people make mistakes, you forgive her and she'll realize it for sure. she'll know that you are a great person to forgive her.
2006-09-09 19:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by bolt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do you really like her? i mean do you have many many memories with her and everything? think of all the good things you have done with her.. if that makes your mind to forgive her, forgive her... but if that doesnt make up your mind, it means you really hate her.... so then, hate her! lol
2006-09-09 18:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by eugina l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont hate her yet talk 2 her about her feelings but if she doesnt want u 2 hve any other friends then she is an ok friend.
2006-09-09 18:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by jman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how it made you feel without getting too dramatic about it,if she's sorry she will tell you,if she's not sorry,then she wasnt really a friend to begin with. Then move on.
2006-09-09 18:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by bobbi_ashley2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋