Please help me out?

Question

I'm sad. I'm lonely. My house is super quiet. My mom is working and I my dad is sitting at his computer and that's pretty much where he lives. My sister always goes into her room and locks the door all day and never comes out unless its time for dinner or we have to go to school. Whenever I try to talk to her she tells me to go away. Whenever I ask her for a hug she says I'm being annoying. Whenever I go into her room she yells for my mom to come in and drag me out. My best friend moved away last year. I don't know anybody at my new school to be friends with. I'm bored. I have nothing to do. I have nobody to talk to. I really need a hug, and I'm depressed. Somebody please tell me how to get out of this situation. I need help. I'm just a kid and I need somebody to care about me. I'm so tired of being ignored.

For those who have asked I'm 12. My sister is 14. We used to be really good friends but now she ignores me.

Answer 1

Wow, what a adult thing to have to face. Okay, first of all, your dad. Be honest with him, tell him you would like to spend some time with him. Not talking to him while on the computer, or over dinner, or watching tv. Invite him on a date, just the 2 of you. Maybe to the park, to the movies or just to walk around the block and talk. Find something you both enjoy. And then talk to him. Tell him how you feel, how you are lonely, and depressed.
Then your sister, it depend what the age difference is. I have 2 younger sisters and I treated them badly, yelled at them when they wanted to tag along, locked them out of my room, ect. I really regrete it now. Again you need to find something you both enjoy. Maybe a fashion magazine, a certain actor or singer. Be nice, I know it can be hard. Try not to "bug" her, but be persistant. Show her that you are someone of importance in her life. That she is important to you. And listen to her....try to keep the conversation open. If she shares something with you in confidence, then don't break that confidence. Ask her about her friends, her studies and her hobbies. Act intrested, even though you may be bored silly. The best thing is, maybe she has friends that have sister your age. Maybe she can help you find a new best friend.
And as far as school, be brave. If you see someone you think might be someone you would like to know better, walk up and ask them questions about a class or teacher. Or ask them directions. Sometimes this is the best way to break the ice and meet someone. Trust me they are just as frightened as you are meeting people. Smile show confidence even when you don't have it. And as far as the hug OOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!
Your seem to be a very special young lady and I am sure you will find someone very soon....Good Luck

Answer 2

Well, you need to be brave at school. If you are bold and talk to people then they will want to be your friend. And if you are bored, try to get a hobby. Take pictures, collect something, or be artistic. If you get into one of those things,, you might be able to make friends with someone with the same interests. About your sister, sometimes big sisters can get moody especially if their little sister is bothering them. Just be nice to her and and don't over step the bondries between you and her. She has limits that you need to acknoweldge. I'm sorry about your friend moving. But that is life. Stuff like that happens and most of the time we can't change these kind of things. Hope this helps.
*Hugs* I hope a computer hug helps.

Answer 3

Is there anything you can join- scouts, church youth group, an activity at school, community sports league, a local martial arts school? Talk to a teacher or guidance counselor at school. Try to get involved in something. I guess if you're too young to drive and your parents don't care you will have to find something at school because they will arrange for the transportation. If you can get a ride to the first couple meetings of scouts, church group, whatever, maybe you can meet a friend whose parent can drive you.

If you're old enough, get a job. Most jobs that young people have involve interacting with the public, so you'll have some socialization and maybe get to know some friends.

I'm sorry to hear your family hasn't got time for you. That's their shortcoming, not yours.

How about aunts, uncles, cousins or grandparents? Do you have any in your area?

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear that you are hurting. I kind of feel like you do too! I was sending an email to a friend and said the same things. and I decided that I was going to make some popcorn and watch a funny movie. If other people don't have time for me I make time for me. Sometimes you are your own best friend and I have learned that what ever is going on it only lasts for a time and things change. So keep thinking positive and you can always try to make new friends ritght???

Answer 5

I'm sorry to here that.You just need to find yourself some friends and something to do with your time.Ask your Parents if it's ok if you can join some clubs in school or the neighborhood for kids of your age so you can make some friends of your own.It's not fair for you to feel that way already your young you should be out having a little fun with friends anyway.Sit and talk to your Parents.And well your Sister is just in her own world right now.Leave her in it.She'll miss you soon enough.Now you have to build a world for you.Have fun!!

Answer 6

sounds rough, maybe you should try a hobby such as drawing/ sketching or read a book. The real problem sounds like your impression of your relationship with your dad. Go up to him right now and tell him how you feel. I bet he will give you a big hug and spend some time with you. It is tough to initiate a conversation when you feel depressed but I think it will make things a lot better.

Answer 7

Are there clubs at your school you could join? Take up an instrument, get a hobby, join a team, or a club? Is there a church in your area you would feel comfortable joining for youth activities occasionally? Volunteer at an animal shelter or old folks home?

There are lots of things you could do, sitting at the computer will only leave you more lonely.

Answer 8

hey. I'm 15, my sis is 11..we have the same issues. I understnad how your feeling tho, cuz my sis and I have started talking more and more. There really isn't anything you can do about ur sister. You can try talking to her about how much u miss her and want her back. but don't tell her that you want the old her back, just tell her that you miss her and want her back, whoever "her" is. some ideas to help you boredom and lonliness, read some books, talk to people at school...call your best friend....go outside....People are more willing to be your friend than you think..you just have to let them know that you wanna b friends

Answer 9

Could you go to your mom and dad and calmly tell them how you feel, that you want to spend time with them and your sister. Don't be dramatic, just calmly tell them how lonely you feel. The whole family could go to counseling but if they won't at least try to talk to them. Most parents would be thrilled if their child said they wanted to spend more time with them. I know I would.

Answer 10

you never said how old u were and how old ur sister is have u ever told ur mom and ur sis how u feel maybe they think u want to be left alone most kids do...
u will find new friends, dont think for a seconde that they dont love u , they do maybe they just dont know how to show it!.