Please Help me ubserstand my husbands porn habits. He looks at it all the time! If he gets even only one minute by himself he immediately looks for porn. I am very sexually active with him and always make myself availabel. I have asked him repeatedly to give it a rest at least while I am at home and awake. I know he is a man and wont completley stop but come on. I have evn explained to him that if he is on porn and i find oud out, I am immediatley turned off and dont want him to touch me. Is exhibiting a little self control too much to ask?
2006-09-09 10:37:25 · 7 answers · asked by jlourdes1999 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well hun first, porn to much of it can be bad yes, but if i was you ide ask myself, would i rather have him (home) watching Porn,or out with the guys, doing whatever, dont get me wrong, i'm into porn to, i like watching it with or without her, but i have no problem not watching it as well,by the way how old are you?, do you think the women are tramps,cheep,loose? hun porn has been around since 1800's maybe not on video's but back then, the cave men and women watched each other having sex, it's really not a big deal. trust me loosen up youy might enjoy it
2006-09-09 10:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you know that porn can be as addicting as a drugs? Not kidding. It sounds as though your husband's extra cirricular activity may have become one. Don't ignore it, don't threaten him, try this instead. Tell him that you think he's addicted to porn. He'll deny it, of course. Then make a bet with him that he can't look at porn for a week. See if he follows through. If he doesn't, I'd say he has some issues that need working out. If he makes it, well then, maybe it's time to block those websites from the computer with a password he wont' be able to figure out.
2006-09-09 17:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear poor you,he is being very selfish to you,i know it would turn me off too and he should respect that,but he is like most men just plain selfish,i really don't no what to say about this,is your marriage hitting a bad patch,if so you could try relate or just tell him its the porn or you,and see how he reacts,good luck with this one,i wish you well,as porn is OK for some, but not all of are turned on by it
2006-09-09 17:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by amber_xx66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should look at these things..
How much does he actually look at it? Maybe because of your aversion to porn it might seem like more then what it is.
Why does he look at it so often? Most people look at porn for "something else". Looking at porn can be good for a relationship. If you are available to him... do you meet his needs?
The two main things are this:
Why do you have such an aversion to sex and why does he NOT stop when you have told him how you feel about it.
Sounds to me that the problem isn't really about porn but his respect for you and that shouldn't be compromised.
Good luck to you!!!
2006-09-09 18:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like a major problem, a little porn is ok- we all are curious and look from time to time, but your husband has a problem, not only with the porn but also with respect. if he knows it bothers you than he should respect your wishes and realize the bigger issue here is not the stupid pics but rather your self confidence and self esteem. trust me, you have to sit him down and have a candid talk without yelling, accusation or threats and explain the greater issue at hand is not a control issue but rather to preserve your marriage!
2006-09-09 18:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by semihemi08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are within your rights, a little porn is fine, but it gets pathetic and unhealthy when its too often. Beat him with a stick next time you catch him. He is obviously addicted to porn.
2006-09-09 17:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S AN ADDICTION ONLY GOD CAN BREAK THAT.AM SURE HE WANTS A WAY OUT BE HE FELL LIKE HE CAN'T.PRAY FOR HIM IT'S OK FOR YOU TO NOT WANT HIM TO TOUCH YOU IT'S DOESN'T FELL RIGHT.ASK THE LORD TO HELP YOU TO DEAL WITH HIM AND WATCH PRAYER CHANGE THAT.
2006-09-09 18:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by nicole o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋