I doing a paper on teen parenting and i think im pregnant and i dont know if i ready for a child right now? So i scaried to talk to my mother but i know she will be here for me but i just dont want to hurt her. So someone plz help me.
2006-09-09 10:37:00 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm in line with poetic princess here. Taking care of an infant is challenging enough for someone who's established and ready for it. They don't cry 24/7, but they do require a lot of attention and care. Feedings every 2-3 hours, diapers, etc.
Talk to your mom either way, she will still love you. If you ARE pregnant and don't feel that adoption or abortion are for you, then you have some major things to consider--things which your mom will be able to help you sort out. If you're NOT pg, start taking precautions as soon as you find out as such so you don't end up in a situation you don't want to be in. Until you find out you're NOT, treat yourself as if you were. Don't smoke, don't drink, don't go skydiving, eat right. If you are, you'll thank yourself later, if you're not, you'll still probably feel good.
2006-09-09 10:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop. Take a step back. Breathe. Clear your mind of all the What If? scenarios in your head. You're still alive and you're still okay.
Yes, it isn't easy taking care of an infant. Let's set that aside for a moment though. Your question has so much more behind it. Know first that your mother will always love you no matter what happens. Let the love you and your mother have for each other guide your actions rather than assumptions.
If you're pregnant there's not much you'll be able to do [about being pregnant]. That's another discussion. You will have limited resources in terms of initial experience and information but support groups can be very helpful (Yahoo Search "Teen Pregnancy Support Groups").
Your feeling that you're just not ready yet is the first step in your "research". Take it from there. And good luck.
p.s. As for taking care of an infant. Whether or not you're ready, it will definitely be one of the most unique experiences in your life. But it can also be one of the most rewarding experiences if you let it be. If you don't believe me go ask your mother...
2006-09-09 11:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sin™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't say it's "hard", as in taking the SAT hard...but it does require work and responsibility. The best thing you can do is take childbirth and parenting classes...they are designed for first-time moms...and we all have to learn from scratch, no matter what age we are. I'm a first-time mom; I just had my baby girl three months ago, and I'm learning every day. I took childbirth classes and my husband and I have friends who have children, and we learn from their families. Your mom may be somewhat hurt, but she'd be even more hurt if you DIDN'T tell her and tried to go it alone. She loves you and will want to be there for you. That's the thing about parents, especially moms--it may (or may not; I don't know your mom) make her angry or hurt that you are pregnant, but she will still love you no matter what.
As for being ready for a child, I don't think any of us are really ever "ready." God will prepare your heart for motherhood, though, and you will love your little one more than you ever thought it possible to love another human being. Just learn as much as you can NOW; get the basics of infant care down (it won't take long) and then just read, read, read. What to Expect When You're Expecting is a great book; so is Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn. Educate yourself. You can do this. I wish the best for you.
2006-09-09 10:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by peachy78 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 and have three kids. I had my first at age 19. For the girl who said it is like taking care of a fake baby, your crazy! Fake babies don't cry, cost money or need any attention. I wouldn't trade my kids for the world. I do wish that I had finished school, went to college, partied, owned my own home and so on BEFORE I had my kids. There are so many things that you can do with your life! Have fun and be a kid before a mom. You have your whole life to become a mother, you only live your teen years once! Good luck and think really hard before you make a choice.
2006-09-09 10:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by angel_12405 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a married 30 year old with two children 3 and 1 and even with my husbands help it is hard to take care of children. They are a constant responsibility that I am more than happy I have, but I couldn't begin to understand I would have handled things if I were a teen.
When you are a teen you have limited resources financially, emotionally, and sometimes lack the knowledge needed to care for another life. I would suggest that any teen considering having a child RECONSIDER and focus on taking care of themselves and getting their life in order before introducing a new one into the world.
Remember things always look easier when you are not actually in the situation.
Good luck and do the right thing for yourself!
2006-09-09 10:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I actually got pregnant when I was 18 and it was very scary...My boyfriend left the day after I told him and has never had any contact with me or his son...I was very scared to talk to my mom about it but she actually took it better than I thought...Your mom will be hurt and disappointed but she loves you unconditionally and will support you...If it hadn't been for my mom I wouldn't have been able to do it...If you feel your not ready for motherhood, give it up for adoption...please don't abort...there are so many good families wanting a child...think about it before you make a decision...who knows, you may surprise yourself and be a great mother...My son is now 8 and I couldn't imagine my life without him...He is what saved me from making a lot of bad decisions while I was growing up.
2006-09-09 10:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by xtech96 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of being a parent is knowing when your kids are afraid or needs help Im sure she felt exactly like you are now and has the expirience to guide you thru.Will she be hurt yes I wont take that away from her look at it this way its part of her motherly responsibility the thing that will hurt her the most is you keeping this to yourself and going else where for help and not going to her.As she is your mother and you her daughter you both have a bond that has been building from your birth till now thru expiriences you both go thru all your doing is denying yuorself that other step to being that much closer to your mom.Take the step go to her no one else will be able to help you better then her.Or heres another when you do have your child would'nt it be grate to know when your child needs advice or help that they can always count on mom I know for a fact thats exactly how you would want it so break the ice go to your mom and depend on what she knows best..............GOOD LUCK...............
2006-09-09 11:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by kauaiboi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better talk to your mother as soon as you know for sure - even if you are not pregnant, you should talk to your mother anyway, she can help you so that you don't get pregnant until you are ready. I can be very difficult to care for an infant - I remember the first two weeks at home with my daughter, that was the toughest part of her young childhood. Good Luck and talk to your mom.
2006-09-09 10:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's physically and emotionally draining, especially in the beginning because you rarely get enough sleep and you're constantly worried about the baby's well being. However, it does get easier when the baby starts to sleep through the night and gets on a regular feeding/napping schedule. Things got a lot easier for me when my daughter reached 12 months of age. By this time, she didn't use a bottle or a pacifier and was fully potty trained by 18 months of age. Now she's 8 and everything in the beginning feels like a dream...
2006-09-09 10:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom will most likely be hurt but she loves you and wants the best for you. I really think you need to talk to her as soon as possible so she can help you get what you need if you are in fact pregnant. I know it will be hard for you but she is your mom and if she is as awesome as you say she is it will be the best move.
Is it hard to take care of an infant? At times it gets really demanding and you are pushed to be as patient and giving as you ever dreamed of. It is a lot of self-sacrifice and responsibility. I was 23 and married when I had my first and it wasn't easy but I loved my daughter so much I just kept pushing myself to be the best mom I could be. It was completely worth it, but I remember it being a labor of love.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-09 11:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋