We failed to have penetrative sex coz I didnt allow him to penetrate fully.each time he tried i was in great pain so he stopped.But his finger penetrated fully.whats the matter?he told me it will penetrate after few more attempts.im tensed.
2006-09-09 10:28:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
hmm
2006-09-09 10:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A finger would fit in just fine, same as a tampon. If it didn't, I would be worried.
As for the rest, it sounds like you are extremely tense and that tension is causing all the muscles down there to tighten up and not allow room for penetration. If your hymen is still intact, your first time will most likely hurt. But if it's hurting that badly, either your body just isn't ready or there is something wrong.
Have you seen an ob-gyn? If you are old enough to be sexually active, you are going to start needing to take care of that part of you.
2006-09-09 17:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to hurt the first time and the first time is not the dreamy pleasant ooh my goodness as people make it out to be. You have to take a deep breath and relax. Place a pillow under your hips and just let him do it. You are going to have some bleeding probably but don't be alarmed. Unless it doesn't stop for approximately 3/4 days?. Good luck!
2006-09-09 17:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just not getting into it with him, try some KY jelly or some other lubricant. If you're old enough have a glass of wine to relax. Why would you worry about having sex with your fiance if he says such bad things about "fat people" and you state that you are on the heavy side? Leave him and try your attempts at sex with a more experienced "Lover" not just a ****er. good luck to you
2006-09-09 17:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want to have sex with your bf just because he wants you too or do you want it too?
cause you may may think that you want to have sex with him because he has convinced you but subconciously you dont want to thats why you dont allow yourself to relax
in case you are positive that you want to have sex with your bf make sure that are really wet down there ( and that means lots of foreplay) before he tries to penetrate
and as someone else said dont expect your first time to be a pleasent one
some women hurt a lot and some a little but sex becomes a pleasure for them after quite a few times
2006-09-09 17:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by girl24gr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have the same probalemm. i have been with my bf 9 months and comfortable and i relax but still hurts. and he rips me a little each time. then we have to stop. i can only remember having good sex once with him that didnt hurt. i cant really advse much just to relax and try lots of foreplay! good luck! x
2006-09-09 17:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by ms_jaffa_cake 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would see a doc if it pain persists. Had same problem, found out I had cysts on my ovaries.
2006-09-09 17:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax, have a couple of glasses of wine and make a joke of it.
2006-09-09 17:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by dot&carryone. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try getting to know each other a bit better before you try again. One you know each other more then you should feel more relaxed
2006-09-09 17:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by alanstryke 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
huh?
2006-09-09 17:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by stupid 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋