I had been taking care of my nephew who is now 8 since he was 1 because my sister was on the wrong side of the law. I also took care of his siblings which are now 7 and 5.My sister was in and out of drug rehabs and jail since they were very young. I am a newlywed and bless my husband he was there with me helping me with the children.My sister did complete 2 years of drug rehab and has been clean and sober for 2 1/2 years. I felt like she had proven herself and allowed her to have the kids back.She is doing great and his continuing with her counseling every week. My husband and I moved out of state for a well deserved life of our own. My 8 year old nephew is having a hard time coping with us being gone.He can't sleep at night and is misbehaving in school. The other two are doing fine. I feel so guilty. My sister suggested that he move with us because he is depressed. I would love to have him.My hubby is ok with it too. Is this a good idea or will he cope soon? It's been 1 month.
2006-09-09 10:11:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has been going to weekly counseling and it was the therapist that suggested he was upset about us being gone.
2006-09-09 10:17:37 · update #1
This sounds like a very difficult situation. Is he going to counseling? It sounds like it may help him quite a bit. He is lucky to have such a supportive and loving family, and I am so impressed that your sister, you, and your husband, are putting his needs first. One thing is for certain, he is well loved. It is hard to say if he will be able to cope soon, that is why I think a counselor will help him and the rest of the family quite a bit. Good luck!!
2006-09-09 10:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Josie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe since you are the only mom he has really been raised by he feels abandoned and like you don't love him the acting out is to get your attention.I'd let him move with you.It is better that he is happy than continues on this path take it from someone who knows well.
2006-09-09 17:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by movin12006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always a tricky desition to make. but, depending on the distance metween you & your sister, the childs & her wishes, it is always an option for a TRIAL, while you can keep options open if thing do not work out. Good luck.
2006-09-09 17:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sparky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is old enough to know what his mom is going through maybe counseling is in his future to if this doesn't help and everyone is fine with it bring him home
2006-09-09 17:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by what 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say but if you really want him there i dont see why not , but on the other hand you guys need some alone time too tough question just follow your heart
2006-09-09 17:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Duane G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say its a good idea. but his mom is better now, and she can take care of them. but its kinda wrong to take a kid from a mother. maybe he can visit on weekends.
2006-09-09 17:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is up to you he is like you own child i would think. is this something you really want to do? he can be offer counseling first?!
2006-09-09 17:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should live close to visit, but he'll never get use to you being gone if he lives with you, but what od i know i'm 13
2006-09-09 17:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by Liza Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been like a mother to him his whole life, take him in if you really love him or he might never forgive you...think about it ... your like his mom and thats like abandonment
2006-09-09 17:13:47 · answer #9 · answered by Heat seeking missile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try visiting every other day then stretch it to once every week and then once every other week and maybe once or twice a month
2006-09-09 17:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by Taylor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋