I find breastfeeding ackward so does my husband but i want my baby to get all it's nutrition and don't want to

Question

be a bad mom I just find breast pumping feeding ackward is formula feeding a horrible thing to do and will my baby not be as healthy as others

Answer 1

Just want to say that your child's IQ will be 10-15 points higher if you breastfeed. I nursed one child using extended breastfeeding as I believed in child led weaning and nursing on demand. High IQ's and weight problems run in my family.

My now grown children (33-bottle feed and 26 year old breastfed)
show the results. Unfortunately, I did not know the benefits of breastfeeding as there was not much info in those days.

My oldest is very obese and my youngest is of normal weight. My breastfed child was tested at an extremely high 167 IQ, while my bottlefeed one is in the low 150's IQ. I also was not breastfed and am about 140. My kids both had the same stimulating environment and similar upbringing, so I attribute this to breastfeeding based on the large amount of reading I have done which confirm this.

Also, it is not just a matter of healthy though they are generally more healthy in a number of areas, it is also psychological. For example, anthropological studies show that tribes who practiced early weaning (6 months) were warlike and tribes that practiced child led weaning (average age of weaning 2-4) were peaceloving.

It is said that breastfed babies are also able to withstand stress more into adult life. So the benefits are lifelong and definitely there when a child.

If at all possible, discuss with your husband quitting your job for a while and reducing expenses and staying home so you will not have to pump.

Go to a LaLeche League group and keep going. There are wonderfully, nurturing mothers there who by modeling excellent parenting, one just absorbs it.

I never would have dreamed of nursing extendedly had I not gradually come to see how right it was and get the support necessary. I became a much better parent (not to say I or you are not good parents) but I improved by my association with LaLeche League.

I went to a couples series and if they still have this and have in your areas, I highly recommend this so your husband can support you as you grow. Likely this is because you haven't been around successful nursing moms much.

Answer 2

Do what makes you feel comfortable. You are the person feeding your baby. Breastfeeding is well and good but if you don't feel comfortable neither will your baby. I breastfeed all my children until they were over a year and I know how hard it can be. I once sat in the toilets of a restaurant to feed her (it was nasty). I honestly think you should weigh up the pro's and cons for your personal circumstances and then decide.

As for your partner he doesn't seem to be very supportive on this issue. You both have made this baby and to do this well...you had to...so he has seen your .... before. So what is the difference.?????????????????

You baby will be healthy no matter waht method you use to feed your baby. You are a good mother no matter what option you choose

I hope you resolve your inner conflict. All the best.

Answer 3

Breastfeeding is not a requirement of motherhood. The formulas that are out there are plenty sufficient to your baby's nutritional needs. If your not comfortable with it don't do it! Babies can sense those feelings making them uncomfortable too. Just remember to hold your baby close while bottle-feeding and look into their eyes, it is just as bonding as breast-feeding, but for both parents.

Answer 4

Breastmilk is best for babies, as it is natural human nutrition going from one human to the next. The phrase "you are what you eat" is perfectly coined here as what you as a mother eat will become transposed to the contents of your breast milk for your baby to also feed on. Eat too many tomatoes, and you'll be practically pumping tomato juice instead of breast milk. And your baby will get a terribly upset stomach.

However, there are alternatives. You're not the first mother to be wierded out by the sensation of breast feeding. Get a recommendation from your pediatrician on what formulas from your grocery store you should try in lieu of breastfeeding.

Answer 5

There are certainly benefits to breast feeding, and boy don't some people go out of their way to make you feel guilty if you don't. Healthy babies are raised on formula all the time. You shouldn't feel awkward about doing it, it's the most natural thing next to child birth itself. But it IS your decision. Your baby will grow up just fine if you switch to formula.

Answer 6

It might be a weird thing to do, but it's definitely the best.

Simple example: My sister did not want to breast fed her son, my nephew gets sick really often, no antibodies on him, because she did not gave him the breast. My son was breast fed for 3 months or so, (unfortunately my boobs dried out because of his acid reflex) yet, my son very rarely gets a little fever or anything like that, breast milk is extremely important, formula does not have antibodies to protect his system from infections and other illness. I know it's hard, but is the best thing you can do for your bundle of joy, so try not to give up, and eventually you will do it, so naturally that it won't bother you at all. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 7

So what if it's awkward do you want what is best for your child. Formula isn't bad they make the kind that is like breast milk. Talk with your doctor to see what his opinion is that is what they are there for. Also with breast feeding you make a special bond with the baby.

Answer 8

Why do you feel awkward about it? You are feeding your baby the best possible diet. If you can't come to terms with it, then go to formula. Your baby will still be healthy and you're not a bad mom!

Answer 9

Is it the Pump that you dont like? If it is then stop using it..You can suplement your nursing with formula and do both if you need a break or if your husband wants to have some close time. I wouldnt quit all of a sudden though. One great thing about it..There is no monthly visiter.

Answer 10

Honey, not breastfeeding doesn't make you a bad mother. I was unable to breastfeed my daughter, I went to 3 lactaid consultants and pumped for a month. I formula fed my daughter imfamil A+ formula till she was 1 year, and she is happy and perfectly healthy!