Would you consider your life incomplete if you never got married?

Question

I would not. I'm 21 and I would see getting married as a bonus in life. Would be nice if I found that one special lady, but its not essential. Maybe my thinking will change with age.

Answer 1

I do think your life would be incomplete if you never got married. I feel when the time comes to get married you will know, and you will get married. I think a lot of people get married off of "very strong like" but not love. There is the quote from this author named James Thurber that says "Love is what you've been through with somebody", and I think the reason why over 50% of married people get divorced because they give up, they quit, they realize that they did get married for the wrong reason and no time did not change that wrong reason to a right reason. I see some couples who just glow just by thinking about their spouse. If 50% of marriages fail then that means that there is another 50% that last.

Don't get married just because you feel that's the next step in a long term relationship. This may seem like bad advice, but don't marry someone just because they got pregnant it's nothing worse then marrying a women you don't really love just because she got pregnant with a child you both knew was a mistake I mean that's definitely a marriage that is going to end up on the divorce side of the 50%. Don't marry someone to fill your empty voids. Don't marry someone because being with someone is better then being without. Don't marry someone if you are not completely ready to give up the single life. Last don't marry someone if the thought of questioning yourself as to is this really what you want to do comes up. If you are not ready to give up a part of yourself, if you are not willing to sacrifice for their needs at your own expense don't get married

I think all the bitter people who are in loveless marriages now or have been divorced had signs that maybe getting married was not the best way to go, but they did it anyway. A lot of people get married without fully knowing who they are, and there is nothing worse then growing up in a relationship verses growing together. I have never been married, but I am engaged now. I went five years without dating anyone after a break up. I was in a relationship for 5 years, and I have a little girl, but I had a lot of growing up to do, and I feel it took the 5 years, and the young man I am with now to help me grow up. So I feel like now when I do get married with all the soul searching I did from the extra baggage from my past, feeling like I was the victim to everything that went wrong while blaming everyone else, and finding out who I really am I know I can do it now. It may not take them 5 years, but if everyone found themselves first their marriage would work because who don't want the house, the white picket fence, the kids and grand kids to carry on their name, and someone to grow old with. No one should volunteer to go through this thing called life alone.

Sorry for the long answer. You are still young so you have a long time before you even have to think about this, but just read some of what I wrote, and let that sink in for when the time do come.

Answer 2

If I never got married I would consider my life to be incomplete. I would feel like something was missing. Even though I'm separated and about to be divorced. I still would not have changed my mind when he asked me. I would have changed alot of the decisions i made while I was married. But I would have never have known a love like that had i not gotten married.

Answer 3

I like your way of thinking. Too many people think they HAVE to get married and will marry the first person that looks at them. If that special someone comes along, you will know because you are mature enough to know that marrying a person just to have a companion is not going to make for a happy life. You are better off single, than with someone you don't love.

Answer 4

I guess I would. Being married is a whole new thing. A totally different and amazing experience, having kids, and u know....it's kinda hard to explain. I'd be devastated if I didn't get married!
And ur thinking wud definitely change wid time. Especially if u'd be 70 wid no wife and kids. Believe me, marriage can be a lot of fun.

Answer 5

I'm married, but I don't think that marriiage is as important as companionship. I think that it is more important to find good friends, and maybe one really good companion. Marriage is just some BS religious ceremony that has some legal overtones. If marriage is such a great thing, why do over 50% of them fail. You do not need to marry someone to love them, and be committed to them...

Answer 6

Marriage is what you make of it. It's not for everyone. I've been married 20 years, and sometimes I think I'd be better off being single. It's not everything it's cracked up to be. If I knew then what I know now, I'd remain single.
Peace.

Answer 7

I'm 41, and have NEVER EVER been married. Maybe I'm better off because of it. You'll just have to wait and see when you get to my age.

Answer 8

No I would not. It is refreshing to see someone that is sure enough of themselves to spend life on their own and doing what they want to do. I have nothing against marriage, but there is certainly nothing wrong with staying single.

Answer 9

I happen to agree with u. Marriage is just a bonus and you don't need anyone to feel complete about yourself.

Answer 10

I'm not a sexcist, but usually men like freedom first, and then they come to find love and comitment slowly. Women usually do it the tother way around.