why dont men ever care when your upset?

Answer 1

Actually they do care. They don't ask what wrong, because it probably is because of them. They don't want to know what they did wrong, because men usually think they are right!

Answer 2

Think of your man like Mr. Fix - it. In his mind if he can't fix your problem he feels hopeless and may even feel like he is less of a man (worse case senerio).

I am a woman like you - so we have problems or things that we get upset about that men can not help or fix - and it frustrates them. They are wired so different than us. It's not that they don't care - they just don't know what to do when they can't fix something. Your man probably can do things like fix a car or fix things around the house when they break - well, men like to fix things. When you have a problem that he can't fix - he feels bad and the way he acts may be percieved as he doesn't care.

This is why if you are having a problem you know he can't fix - sometimes it is better not to even bother him with it so you don't come into this situation. Talk to your girlfriends or talk to someone else who you think might help you.

I don't know how deep the problem is or what it is that you are upset about - But, I'm sure if he cares about you other times he cares now, he is probably too frustrated with the fact that he can't help the situation he can't show that he cares.

Answer 3

Men do care to an extent but because we women like to keep it all bottled and dont want to tell men cause we think they wouldnt understand which alot of men dont at times.

When we get upset we tend to turn to a friend because they understand more and they always sympathise more, hey maybe in time to come men mite be able to read our minds lol.

Answer 4

The decent ones do !It should be a human trait to show kindness,compassion and empathy and not be restricted to gender,race ,religion or creed.
The problem is there are hard hearted uncompassionate people in all walks of life,others are simply bad at showing their emotions.
However the bottom line is that a decent man should care when you are upset and do whatever he can to help,sometimes there is nothing that he will be able to do to help other than be there to listen or be there for you when you are ready to talk to him.
Good luck.

Answer 5

They do care, but if they ask you and they can't fix the problem they feel worse than having not asked in the first place, so they try to lessen it a little by seeming as though they don't care.
It isn't just men who are like this some women are as well.

I could tell you that they are insensitive pigs, but I would be lying.

Answer 6

This depends on the kind on men you move with and how you treat them. Men generally do not express feeling by talking, but do care when things go wrong. Communicate well with your man (or Men) and they will get back to you. Let professional psychoanalysts help you.

Answer 7

I take it that your not so....."Peachy"...today. We care when women get upset, its just our reaction to it. We dont react to it the way you'd want us to the some of the time.

Ok, if you let us have sex everytime we wanted to, we'd be "Spoiled" right? So if we attended to EVERY emotional need that you have, you'd be "Spoiled" too.

Also too, women's emotions are so strong, by the end of the week, we'd be mentally EXHAUSTED by catering to you that much. We try to deal with the big situations first. As far as the small stuff, we may let a few things go.

Plus, thats why you guys have girl friends anyway......we would'nt want to take away from that friendship :-) JK

Answer 8

emotionally we have been wired differently. some do care, but don't allways show it, until they have tried to solve the problem.(which incidentally is not allways what women want.they just want to be listened to as they bounce their fears and thought s out loud)
some feel that women can go on a bit and are too melodramatic.
perhaps they think that sometimes they are being taken on an emotional rollercoaster of guilt inducing behaviour,and they will not stand for it.
lastly they don't understand why we are upset, and feel we are in charge with sorting our emotions out, as they have to do.

Answer 9

When your upset every two minutes about three different things, caring gets kind of hard after awhile.

Answer 10

Instead of using generalizations that are projected onto other people, I would suggest you first examine what your expectations are of other people with whom you are discussing your feelings. Granted, some people don't have the capacity to be sympathetic, but I've learned that if I don't have any expectations of the other person's response, I can still manage to take care of myself.