Please, someone talk me out of it and tell me what to do. I have tried almost everythig and I am catching myself looking at other women and fantasizing
2006-09-09 09:38:36 · 19 answers · asked by want_explore41 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have a conversation with your wife regarding this .. in addition there are so many ways to spice up your marriage .. you can introduce toys, role playing, sexy outfits for your wife, check out books, dvds, Kama Sutra, the Liberator Line ..
In addition find away to reconnect your wife emotionally .. Do something romantic for her and make her feel special.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-09 09:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay or go, tell her what you said here but have options that will make things better .Dont just complain about it fix it .The only wayt o fix it is tohave some hard hard conversations talk to a therapist if you must now if they tell you you are not entitled to a satifying sex life dont use that one best is to talk to therapists first and find the one that suits your situation best .
the truth is it sounds trit and trivial but honesty is he only thing that works in a relationship and if ythe 2 of you cannot be 100%honest and find something that works for both of you then its oly going to get worse now no compermise is 100% happy on both sides as long as it balences out in a way the 2 of you can live withsome couples thats 50/50 other 60/40 heck i am sure some are 99/1 but if you canot find something that works for the 2 of you as a couple then move on
btw yes i am married and yes have had very close to that conversation some 10 yrs ago with my wife
if it matters we have been together close to 30 yrs
2006-09-09 09:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Den P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its a dull sex life bring home a book or tell wife you want to try new things in bed. If she just wont put out write her a letter of talk face to face with her and explain how you feel. The two of you may wish to seek counseling otherwise the relationship may be damaged as you obviously are not getting all that you need.
2006-09-09 09:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it dull , or non existent? mines dull. I try to talk to him.he thinks I'm being to aggressive. so what to do? Tell her you need more and see if she's up to the challenge.But whatever you do , don't go doing anything crazy like that.Disease ... Divorce.Fantasizing is OK, I do it all the time. Once I told my husband as we where driving on the interstate. Hunny, quick put your seat back so I can check out this really hot guy in that car. That was fun, and it doesn't hurt anyone. So fantasize all you want and look all you want . just keep it in your pants where it belongs. And talk to your wife about your needs.
2006-09-09 10:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to cheat, an escort is the best way. You'll be done in an hour, you'll never have to see her or talk to her again, there's no drama, you don't have to worry about her calling your home. She'll probably even let you shower at her place afterwards if you need to. Sex is always more exciting the first time with someone new. It may be just the cure you need.
2006-09-10 06:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by say wat? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself this question. Is a one night stand worth losing your television, car, boat, house, children, half your IRA and possibly your health? Picture yourself telling your wife you've been diagnosed with herpes. Imagine being arrested during a police prostitution sting and having your photo on the news. Imagine being strapped to a bed in a cheap hotel and having the "escort" run off with your clothes and wallet and then having to explain to your wife why you are arriving home from work in a cab with a curtain wrapped around you like a toga (and why you have rope burns on your arm and hot candle wax burns on your thighs).
Is any of that worth it?
PS - your sex life isn't dull solely because of your wife, hotshot.
2006-09-09 09:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds sill from the outside. When I was prego with my second child I was competely turned off by the thought of sex. With my first pregnancy I could not get enough. Children, husbands, work, house stuff, laundry, bills all distract women and take away from us wanting to even think about it. If she is completely against sex then you have issues but I doubt that since she is pregnant. Plan a night for the two of you, after the baby is about 2 months old. Get a hotel room. Send her to a spa for the day with clothes there for her to change in to for a nice dinner out. Once she is relaxed and knows that you did all this just to help her relax she will be more willing to open up. But we women have to do this for the guys too. It is not just a one way street. Good luck!
2016-03-17 11:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than run to a bunch of selfless women, get the guts to sit down with her and spill as it is, and how you feel. With compasion of course. Maybe there are things your not doing to woo her, caress her, or make her feel that she means more than just that " sex ". Maybe she needs to feel extra special, maybe you both need to find what attracted you to each other in the begining and start back there all over--meaning the excitement as there always is to when anybody " first starts dating", they say marriage is hard work, and it takes two to ignite the flame and keep things going. So maybe you are, and she's not putting her part in, could it be that some where along the lines she was turned off, could it be she is on meds, and that is stumping her urges, could it be she has hormonal imbalances, any of those things could be the cause to. " dont forget your VOWS for better or worse, sickness, and health.....running to some paid hoes will make matters worse, then she will find out, then she will leave you and then you can do them freely if they are worth your losing your wife over. Just sit her down, ask her have I done things to turn you off, do you need more excitement, romance, you may have to put it out on the table for her first........just ask her dont yell dont scream just talk and listen, listen hard to. Good luck at least you came here first before taking on a paid douche bag.
2006-09-09 10:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by krm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be. Escorts? Dull sex life? No wonder so many marriages are going down the toilet today.
2006-09-09 09:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Frugalmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine some random dude pounding away at your wife. I mean really giving it to her, and her just loving it, going crazy like she never does with you anymore.
Now imagine making your wife feel the way that thought makes you feel, but multiply it by 100. Do you want to ruin your marriage that way? Dont be stupid.
2006-09-09 09:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋