I dont kno what to do...I tried everything but she only pretends to like and now i just about to give up on tryin to be nice to her...
She just doesnt like me..why is that?
2006-09-09 09:22:10 · 26 answers · asked by Keyshia12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had the same problem but my husband went ahead and married me anyways that ***** didn't like me since day one and I didn't like her who cares if she doesn't like you you don't marry the family you marry the person you love I wouldn't let anything or anyone stop me from marrying the one I love his mom pretended she liked me too you can't make someone like you but also don't give up on the one you love she would love that I know mine always wished we split but it's been 4 years now my husband's mom didn't like me just because I was in her son's life and that he wanted to be with me all the time and we had a great relationship my husband's real father and her never had a good marriage they always fought even the one she got married to after him they fought too she was just jealous people can get jealous of your relationship and try to split you up don't let it happen mysery loves company don't worry about her be happy with your love and start you life with him my husband got tired of his mom's ways and eventually told her how it was about how he loved me and I was going to be apart of him always and if she couldn't accept it that was too bad so she decided to stay away and we decided to stay away from her too not saying it's always good to stay away from in laws but if in laws are going to start trouble it's best to stay away from them nothing is worth wrecking your marriage when you get married you forsake all others
2006-09-09 17:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your b/f what is the reason why his mom does not like you and see if there is anyway you can resolve the issue. Don't change, be yourself. If I kept being nice to her and she was acting fake towards me, I would just make minimal conversation and try to avoid her at all costs. I would only come around her when absolutely necessary. You shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable around her just because she has some issues with you. Or sit her down and have a heart to heart talk to her. Tell her that it seems as though she has harvested some negative feelings toward you and you would like to know what caused these bad feelings. Maybe she is upset that you two plan on getting married. Most moms are. And if she is, that is a decision that you and your b/f have already chosen to make and there is nothing that she can do about it.
2006-09-09 09:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to be polite and just know in the end - her opinion means nothing - the only one that does is the boy you are getting married to. Needless to say, hopefully in time she will see how much you do mean to her son and her feelings may change. Just never give her a reason to have something over your head.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-09 09:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
properly its him that has to make you satisfied no longer her. i know its continuously not straightforward to be in a relationship the position the households dont get alongside yet possibly sometime before the marriage you may want to verify at the same time with her about it and enable her know how you experience. basically tell her that its significant to you that you're close with your husbands mom and that you both have a sturdy relationship. tell her that although you probably did incorrect you exhibit regret for yet possibly this wedding ceremony can be a sparkling initiate for each body. tell her that no be counted what you'll make her son satisfied and do each thing you may to shop a grin on his face and that you may want to favor to make her satisfied too =]
2016-11-25 22:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is telling you don't worry you are marrying the boy not the mother--not true!! She is part of the package!!!!!!! She can make your life miserable! Does your boyfriend always side with his mother, does he stand by you? You have your work cut out for you if she does not like you. Give her time, be nice to her, maybe she will change her attitude.
2006-09-09 09:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by lidstromnumber1fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OVER IT! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
My Mother never liked my Wife, ever since I started going with her and married her, and its been 27 years of marriage and she still doesnt like her, and my wonderful Wife did everything but kiss the ground that she walked on, but, there is nothing that matters to my Mother, she doesnt like her...
(And if I let it be known, she never really cared for me either, so, I let things go in one ear and out the other, when it comes to what my Mother says).
Dont sweat it, love the man you are with, and make him the BEST wife and Mother that you can be, and as long as "he" is happy, there is never going to be a problem in your marriage!
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-09-09 09:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everybody isn't going to like you including your mother-in-law , and if she is going to be your mother-in-law eventually she will come around. Cause me and my husband dated on and off for 10 years before we got married we have been married for 3 years now and his mother just started liking me a year ago. sometimes it takes years but eventually she will come around and besides all that really matters is that your fiance likes you.
2006-09-09 09:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to go slow and dont judge her too soon. She may be the type of person that is hard to warm up to. Some poeple are slow to feel free to open up and let their true feelings out.
You could really be wrong, she may like you more than what she is showing.dont judge too soon. take your time having a realtionship with her.
2006-09-09 09:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because she fears that you will not gain control in your life and responsibility.
She picks up on your ways and obviously you didn't win her over.
Patience is virtue, but do not try so hard to please her, but be nice, sweet and kind to her and always respectful, but when there comes a tiome to speak your peace...you speak. It is good for a Woman to stand ground and bark once in awhile...that Mother in Laws like. Thats a fact!
2006-09-09 09:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can relate. My ex-mother-in-law didn't like me at first but eventually she warmed up to me. It wasn't pleasant at first but things got better after the first 2 years. It may not be you at all, it may be that she just wants her son to be with someone she likes. Don't worry about it. She will come around eventually, and things will be better. You'll see!
2006-09-09 09:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by gidgetismyfriend 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋