I understand that new parents are excited and proud. Thats great, but they don't seem to realize the entire world does not necessarily feel the same way. Like the guy who wants to take his baby to the theatre so his kid can ruin everyone else's evening.
New parents: Please, please, please observe proper ettiquette! Don't change your child's diaper on the table in the middle of the restaurant, people are trying to eat! Don't take your baby to the theatre! Don't allow your toddler to throw food at other restaurant patrons! Use some bloody common sense!
2006-09-09 09:19:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
That's the problem. Most people under the age of 40 in this country have no common sense. They take their crumb crunchers out in public in restaurants and movies and ruin everyone else's evening...because they are so self centered they care about no one except themselves....welcome to the 21st century in America. Like the idiot mothers who insist on breastfeading in restaurants....absolutely no need for this bulls--t!!! Feed the damn rugrat BEFORE you get there fool!!! PROBLEM SOLVED!!!
2006-09-09 09:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 7⤋
Sounds like you have come across some parents who are oblivious to their childrens bad behavior. We're all not like that. I know how my toddler can be and I often opt out of going to certain places because I know how she can get.
Changing a diaper on the table is offense and if that happened you should have spoken to the manager of the restaurant. Same goes with a toddler throwing food. That is unacceptable behavior and if the parents were there and didn't do anything you should have spoken to the manager.
And as for the movie theater - my daughter is three and I have yet to take her to a movie. I know how she will behavior, and it wouldn't be fair to the other patrons so we will wait until she is old enough to sit quietly through the movie.
Next time your annoyed say something.
2006-09-09 17:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.
Well, I didn't think that everyone was interested in my kids.
I don't think there's anything wrong with taking a very young infant to the movies or the theater AS LONG AS you're willing to leave, immediately, if your baby doesn't nurse or sleep the whole time. You're right; babies shouldn't ruin the experience for other paying customers, but parents shouldn't be trapped at home all the time, either, and some newborns are pretty reliable about sleeping.
Don't change diapers on the table in the middle of the restaurant. OK, sure. That's a no brainer and I can't justify it. But you should understand that, if this actually happens (and I've never seen it), it may be because there are no facilities that can be used for changing a baby. I've had to change a baby in the street before because I had no other options.
Toddlers shouldn't be allowed to throw food at home or anywhere else. Duh.
But you know what? Sometimes making a big deal out of disciplining and all that in public just draws more attention to a nasty behavior and makes a giant mountain out of a molehill. A parent who freaks out, for example, because their infant cries a bit on an airplane makes the situation that much worse.
And as for nursing, I'll do that anywhere and anytime I need to. I'm discreet, and you're only likely to see a flash of boob while I'm changing sides or popping them on or off. It means you're watching, and what's up with that? Bathrooms are gross and dirty, first aid rooms are biohazards, and mealtimes are social occasions. Breasts are intended to feed babies, children's schedules can be unpredictable, and if my child needs to eat, I will use them. If it offends you, even though you're only seeing the back of my baby's head, too bad.
While I think most of your gripes are pretty legitimate, I also think you sound pretty intolerant. And I wonder if you'll change your tone, if not your tune, when and if you ever become a parent.
2006-09-09 16:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Yarro Pilz 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Now thats dumb! I guess you don't have any children. What are parents supposed to do lock up their children until they reached the age appropriate for those children haters. Come on I have 4 children and never changed their pampers on restaurant tables! And I've never witnessed that! I also have taken them to movies, and they never caused any problems and if they did cry I walked out of the Theatre. There are grown people who make much more noise than an infant!
2006-09-09 17:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by VEROMEX 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with one responder that children are people too and that they learn how to act in public by being in public. There is one flaw in that logic though. You are assuming that the parents are intelligent enough and inclined to teach their child in the first place.
So many young people today (this includes most new parents) have such a lack of discipline in the first place that they don't know themselves how to act in public. I've seen just as many rude young adults in movies or other public functions as I have seen little kids.
It takes one to teach one and the trouble with that is most now a days don't know how in the first place therefore they are unable to teach. It has gotten to the point that I don't enjoy going out any more. It's a shame, that I have to suffer because of someone else's ignorance.
Such are the times I guess where we have had our hands tied when it comes to disciplining and raising our children. Whatever happened to a good old fashioned spanking (I'm not talking about beating a child) for not doing something when told or for misbehaving?
Oh well, such is life, I guess. I don't like it but what can one person do?
Good luck and God bless.
2006-09-09 20:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Isn't it funny how many adults out there that only see poor behaviour in children? When is the last time you noticed a child sitting politely in a restaurant, eating nicely and using a napkin? Did you compliment the parents?
I make it a point to ignore bad behaviour (which can happen to the best parents/children) and point out good behaviour when I see it. It is amazing how your outlook can change and the world becomes a nicer place!
2006-09-09 19:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by PLDFK 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
LMAO, I know what you mean. A genuinely upset crying infant is one thing-if the parent makes efforts to quiet (or remove) and calm the child, but that obnoxious 2 year old in the next check out lane doing that whiny fake-cry is entirely another. Kids do need to be exposed to public situations to learn how to behave in them, but there are limits-like the baby in the theater--babysitters, people, who said you have to be confined to your house? And toddlers DO need to be taught how to behave in public, it doesn't come naturally from exposure.
I like the diaper comment-I've seen it, though on picnic tables, but still on the table. It's also fun on the floor in the middle of a community meeting.
2006-09-09 16:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by desiderio 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't clump all parents together into this one horrible category! not all parents are like that... i do how ever agree that CERTAIN parents need to watch and discipline better, for instance i went out to eat and my friends brought their 2 year old and LET her climb on the table knocking a drink over into MY lap!!!! yea i was upset and it did make me mad that they didn't tell her no and make her sit down! but i am not a parent and i can not say i won't have unruly toddlers... but i will whip their butts for climbing on the table.... and a lot of people are scared to do that because so many people have gone too far with the whole child abuse thing!
Whip your kid if they act up... Spare the rod, spoil the child... no one called the law on my dad when i got a butt whoopin....
But again you make it sound as if all parents are careless and arrogant about their children!
2006-09-09 16:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by doll face 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I never take my kids to the movies before the age of five. I learned that by expirience! And I would NEVER change my kids' daiper on the table! That is just disgusting! And I would NEVER let my kids throw food! Are you saying that new parents are idiots and don't know anything about parenting?
2006-09-09 16:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Agreed
2006-09-09 17:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by o0xmmx0o 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have three kids and i've never been stupid enough to take one to the movies before age 3. never changed a diaper on a table either.. however if i feel a kid needs to be breastfed, you wont find me hiding in a disgusting bathroom doing it.
2006-09-09 16:21:12 · answer #11 · answered by Mina222 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋