but he drives me MAD. i've got tenants in my own flat and i'm selling, but meanwhile, i have access to his 2nd home and all my things are there, but i'm over at our old place mostly for the internet and i HATE being alone. he complains from morning till night, i end up shouting at him, i HATE shouting. i want to run!!!
2006-09-09 09:17:30 · 8 answers · asked by Wisdom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh, so if i feel upset about his verbal abuse (apart from the complaining) then that makes me the problem, why thanks. nice person you are.
2006-09-09 09:22:19 · update #1
shomechilly - i'm moving abroad back home to be with my mum and dad and large family. when i'm around at the other place, i am fine, then he calls me up for this that and the next. i was over at the other place for the last few months, but because i've a fear of the dark thing since childhood, i watched a very scary movie 2 nights ago and for the life of me cant shake it, i never watched it by preference, he'd put it on and by the time i noticed i dint say anything really, because i like the peace. he doesnt use the computer at all, i help him to do quotes etc for our small business... so at times i have to be here to help...
2006-09-09 09:43:19 · update #2
Not a happy teddy are we.
Just wait.
Good things come to those who wait.
Do NOT kill him.
2006-09-09 09:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered this might be uncomfortable for him as well? Maybe you hanging around all the time hogging the computer makes him uncomfortable so he's not on his best behavior? After all, you are the gate crasher here. "I hate to be alone." boo frickin hoo! Divorce means you get to be alone. If you can't change his attitude or behavior, you must change your own. And if that means using the internet at the library and sleeping alone in the 2nd home, well then that's what you need to do. Sounds like he's trying to get along without you (which is probably what's really setting you off), YOU need to learn to get along without him.
2006-09-09 16:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are divorcing, you need a CLEAN split. being friendly DOES NOT work in the beginning cause you are not getting over your emotional attachment to him. Get your own place, get your own life, get your own computer and internet (i'm NOT being smart, just serious), and get on with it...no sense leaving jagged edges when all they do is cause you pain!
2006-09-09 16:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by zoe and skylar's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of the camera man/moman eating a cheese sandwich while this film was being made!!
2006-09-10 08:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by zd_sr1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your getting divorced soon....why fight with him now he's almost an ex...dontcha think there was enough of that when you were married, i dont know you but he may be important to you in the future....keep him as a friend....
2006-09-09 17:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound like he is the problem here...
2006-09-09 16:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need friends, i m me if you need to talk help to get perspective
2006-09-09 16:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by simon b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill
2006-09-09 16:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋