i am 16 how do i tell my parents i am pregnant. i now mom will blame my dad for letting me skip a grade and dont ant them to fight. also they told me not to date my bf and did it anyay.
2006-09-09 08:59:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i dont want to cause them too seperate or divorce!!
2006-09-09 09:00:57 · update #1
Sweety, your boyfriend is no longer your boyfriend. He is selfish and right now only thinks of what trouble this could cause him, thats why he tells you not to tell your parents. This shows how much he cares about YOUR well-being, and his kid's for that matter. Good that you did go see your doctor. Now you need to take the final step of taking care of yourself, which is, tell your parents. Dont worry about them divorcing.. if they did that, it would not be your fault. They will have been having a bad relationship already. I know that sounds harsh but it's true. Please take care of yourself sweetie. Will you let us know how you are doing?
2006-09-10 19:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by twinsisterwendy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are going to want to kill you at first, and they will give you every option out there, i suggest you do what they suggest. i had a baby at 16, and it is still the hardest thing in the universe to do-be a great mom.- my boys are now 9 and 6, they are my world and i would not trade them for anything, however, it is still the hardest job i have ever had or will have. you don't know how to take care of yourself yet, how do you expect to take care of a brand new baby, let alone a teenager, especially since you won't know what it's like to be a teenager yourself, it is not selfish to think of yourself first right now. your life will change dramatically if you decide to have a baby now, school-you'll probably never complete, that's all your baby needs, a dummy mom. school is so important now, you can't get a decent job without an education. you need to tell your parents asap otherwise, it might be too late to take care of yourself. you need time to grow as an adult, your still so young and have so much to experience before you have a family. tell your dad first and let him know your opinions on whatever decision you're going to make, then let mom know while she's doing something relaxing. good luck and i hope you make the right choice for you and your family.
2006-09-09 09:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by nadadizzyblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a meeting with your parents , get to the point and tell them NOW that you are pregnant. You can skip a grade and still graduate or go to night school, just finish school!!! You will need a good education to support your new baby and yourself, don't depend on the boyfriend even if he has good intentions. Be prepared to support yourself and child. Tell your parents the truth, they are your parents and I'm sure they love you and will help you. Good Luck
2006-09-09 09:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant when I was about your age, and I understand your fear of telling them (although my parents were already divorced at that time). I honestly just came out and told her (although it took me about a week to get the courage). She had some choice words for me, but after about twenty minutes of being yelled at and lectured, she realized that nothing she said or did was going to change what happened, and she sat down and we had a long discussion about what I wanted to do. As much as it scared me, having my mom there for me was what I needed. I think that your parents will be upset, but I also believe that you need them (for reasons other than getting whatever medical attention you need).
2006-09-09 09:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by ifernnick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 15 when I went through that it is very scary. Just go to the person who is more understanding and set them down and talk to them let them know how scared you are and how much you need their help, tell them you need their help talking to the other parent. In the end they will love your baby and they're your parents they will always love you. Warning There is going to be a really rough period of time, and awkward moments. GOOD LUCK sweetie. It will all work out.
2006-09-09 09:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get strong and tell your parents. You messed up, you didn't listen to them, but I have a feeling they will still love you and want the best for you. Sounds like they have wanted the best for you all along. Now get off the computer and get it over with. If they break up that is not your fault by the way. Your parents are people too with their own decisions to make.
2006-09-09 09:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way would be to sit dow with your parents, or if you are more comfortable with one than the other sit with them first, explain everything, and then the two of you go together to talk to the other. explain to them that it isn't their fault, and there was nothing they could do to stop it. It was your decision. In the end, the might be mad, but they are your parents. They will then realise that they will be grandparents and have something wonderful to look forward to.
2006-09-09 09:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by Genny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it looks like you did more then date him huh. Thats why they told you not to. But we all learn lessons the ahrd way. First you need to seriously evaluate your situation. Are you going to raise this child or giveit up for adoption? When you tell them you need to conduct youself like you know what you want and how yoru gonna do it. Be honest with them sit them down and be frank I mena there is no easy way around it. If you need to talk to someone feel free to email me. Good luck.
2006-09-09 09:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lyoness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur mom exactly what u are asking here. tell her you need her but dont want her to fight with your dad. apologize for not listening to her, let her know you are sorry, but that you are a teenager and needed to spread your wings. unfortunately too many teenage girls think that spreading their legs is the same as spreading their wings.
now you tried it your way, and you screwed up big time. now it's time to start listening to someone who cares. and that is your mom and dad, they care.
get professional help
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good luck. teen years are not easy, and all you need to remember is to focus on love and respect, and those things will get you through it all.
2006-09-09 09:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by dansza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's gonna find out so you should tell her. She may be mad at first, but after a few months are so she'll be there for you, cause your her daughter. I know ma mom always told me that no matter what i did she would never kill me. so have that in your head. no matter who scared you are, just say " atleast she won't kill me "..good luck! and congrats
2006-09-09 09:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋