She might have Breast Cancer..To scared to see Doctor!?

Question

My Bestfriend my love, my World...The person with a Heart of gold
that everyone Loves..enjoys spending time with,,,Confided in me
after self breast exam she felt different sized lumps in various areas on her Breast! she did self exam 6 months ago and there
were maybe 3-4 pea to almost grape sized lumps, but now there's more bigger ones! and sometimes feels pain shocks that come and go briefly on some days in her Breast! here's the deal...She is so afraid of knowing that after Doctor visit/mammograhm results show positive would emotionally be to hard to handle and she feels she would'nt be strong enough to go through treatments that could possibly save her life! she's 40 and scared to death! what can I say or do to get her to have the courage to go get checked? to lose her would be unbearable for so many that know her. and if her fear is confirmed, just the thought that it could of been prevented really has me beside myself. thank and God bless you all.

Answer 1

SHE NEEDS TO GO TO THE DOCTOR BECAUSE IF THEY REALLY ARE CANCEROUS LUMPS, NOT GOING TO THE DOCTOR ISN'T GOING TO MAKE THEM GO AWAY!!!!!!

Tell her how much it hurts YOU to see her wondering about them, and that it's driving YOU crazy because you love her so much! Ask her this: If I put a gun to my head, began spinning the barrel and pulling the trigger knowing there's a bullet in one of the chambers, wouldn't it make YOU crazy to watch me? Wouldn't you want me to stop for YOU, because you love me?

Answer 2

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This is my opinion, and that's all. This is not medical or legal knowledge or advice. It's only an opinion.

EVERYONE , no matter what their age, size , religion or nationality..who has been thinking that they have breast cancer, has a right to choose what their options are and what their decisions are.

Of course, sometimes people make stupid choices and or uninformed choices..but the bottom line is that these are their choices for their life.

We do not live in other people's bodies with other people's lives and other peope's backgrounds, therefore, we are not in any position to decide for other people, but we are free to give our opinion about things like this to our friends and reltatives.

So, first note, that this woman , your friend , should make her own decision when it comes to having surgery or tests or not.

You can talk with her and you can inform her of anything you know about those surgeries and tests..but you cannot make her decision for her and you can't live her life for her.

IF this woman has surgery and then has a bad reaction from having the surgery and the cancer tests, then you'll feel bad if you URGE her to have the tests and surgery. Let her make her own decisions.

On the other hand, if you have some FIRST HAND knowledge of the test s or surgery she might need or want..then by all means give her your ideas, and opinions and the facts in the matter.

If she is afraid of being tested...think of the things you can say to her to make her unafraid or less afraid.

Then say these things to her . BUT BE HAPPY..if she listens and then makes her own decision to NOT have the tests or surgery.

Remember you are trying to help, correct?

Don't pressure her to have the tests. Don't pressure her to not have the tests. Just give her the plain facts and information needed.

Then the decision is hers to make.

ALL people do not benefit from breast cancer tests and surgeries.

There have been many cases of the tests being wrong and even some cases where healthy women have had mastectomies...

There have been many cases where tests were completely wrong.

So,k these are reasons for you to STAY OUT of the decision-mkaing process. Let her make her own decisions.


IF she decides to be tested..KNOW that this doesn't mean that she will have an operation...as lots of women who are diagnosed with cancer choose no treatment or choose alternative treatments or wholistic treatment.

So, your friend might decide on any of these or none of these.

TO BE A GREAT friend..you'll simply inform her of the facts ..and then back off of the decision making process.

Peaceful dreams to you.

Answer 3

If you or she felt a lump in your breast there is several things it could !. a cyst or a benighn fibroid tumor or cancer, you need to have it checked with a maogram through the doctor not all lumps are cancerous and caught early enough breast cancer can be beaten, the doctor may have good news for her. and methods of treatment have greatly improved and changed and she may not even need surgergy.

Answer 4

TELL.. her..to imagine....her life in a few years...and a Doctor telling her...that she could have saved her own life..if she had gone to see him...sooner! What will she feel...what can she tell her loved ones....when she has to explain that she found the lumps and ignore them. Cancer can be preventable..and cured if detected early... The more she waits the bigger the chances... SHE does not know if it is cancer... Tell her not to think about it... she is worrying ..before finding out..and ....she is being SELFISH.. Tell her how loved she is..and how....much you and other people around her NEED HER... Tell her....to tell you...what she would do it that was YOU...in her position.. She would drag you....to the doctor.... YOU..need to do something about it....HELP..her...or you both might regret it!..Don't wait any longer .....Good Luck!

Answer 5

Tell her she is going to die, maybe soon.

If she does not go to the doctor, is because she is in denial. Trust me we know our bodies, and we know when something is wrong. The sooner she gets treatments the best chances she has of survival, and even then, there is no guaranties she will not get it again.

I think she is frozen with fear. Tell her is not that bad, she may loose her hair, but if she gets the best attention she can get, Cancer Treatment Center, MD Anderson's, Mayo Clinics, etc, there is plenty...she will survive . Does she have children, because for me, that was my goal when I was diagnosed seven years ago, my son was 6 yrs old, and I couldn't nor bear to leave him behind. I was in denial until I thought about my son. I am glad I did everything to stay alive for him. God Bless.

Answer 6

former nurse here-of course,i cant diagnose(disclaimer to avoid lawsuit !!!) however,sounds to me like a common ,benign problem called fibrocystic breast disease.cancer lumps in general do not hurt,nor arre there so many of them-usually just one,in fact.tell ur wife there is treatment for the cysts,and she should get it.never be afraid of a test for any cancer,those who catch the problem quickly,have a good chance of survival,those who are afraid,may wait till its too late.that being said,it does not sound like cancer.look up fibrocystic breasts on the web and have ur wife read it.good luck !!!ps- i may have spelled it wrong,it could be "fibrocytic",not "fibrocystic"-as i said,FORMER nurse.its been awhile.

Answer 7

Sit down and have a talk with her about your concerns for her healt and offer to go with her to her visit to the doctor and for whatever exams the doctor wishes to perform and to be there when the results are revieled to her. With you present it may give her enough courage and not only comfort from your support.

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Answer 9

I can't blame her, I did 4 treatments of chemotherapy and quit - 6 year ago, changed my life style and I am still here. And feeling great. check out these sites.

Answer 10

it may not be cancer but if it is it will not go away on its own - there are many suport groups were she will meet woman who can help her get through it and you as her wonderful friend will help her too - keep encouraging her to see a doc or contact a support group in your area , maybe a survivor will offer to help her