We got into an arguement because i wanted to go. I bought my ticket and im planning to go with my girl friends. He doesn't think that i should go without him, that homecoming is somewhere you go with your boyfriend. So if thats true shouldn't he go with me? Should i be "allowed" to go without my boyfriend (especially since the only reason he isn't going is cause he doesn't want to)? Monday is the last day to buy tickets, what can i do to change his mind and take me?
2006-09-09 08:53:27 · 14 answers · asked by Chrissyt91 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him it would be great if he went, and you would like the first and last dance with him, both slow if that is all he can handle, and you would not bug him for any other dance the entire evening but would be out on the dance floor with your friends half of the evening and spending time with him half of the time as well. Then stick to that agreement. That is what my husband and I have always done when dating and now when attending functions like weddings. (He does not care for dancing either).
In other words, compromise with each other.
Also, if he chooses not to go after you talk with him calmly about it, then go ahead with your friends and have a great time, as it will be his choice whether or not to go with you.
Have a great time either way!
2006-09-09 08:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"allowed"? Are you a slave? Are you married? No you are single and obviously someone who is interested in going to her homecoming dance. Your boyfriend shows many symptoms of a controlling person. This is a sign of abuse. You need to make him understand that while you understand his need to not want to dance, he needs to understand your need to want to partake in this activity. If he care anything about you, then he would either tell you to have fun, or be there if nothing else to support you as a partner should. Either way you go. If you don't, you have set the tone of this relationship and it will only get more oppressive. Been there, done that, missed the dance and regretted it.
2006-09-09 16:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, homecoming dances aren't all about dancing. Sure the music is nice, but he should go with you simply because it is a social affair and all your friends will be there.
If he doesn't want to go, okay, you go with friends. But ask him again and give him the chance to know exactly where you stand.
2006-09-09 15:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i know how u feel. but if he's telling u that homecoming is a place that u should go with ur boyfriend. then should man up and take u it makes no sence that he would say that if he knew u really wanted to go so buy an extra ticket and tell him to go with u or u'll go with someone else
2006-09-09 16:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mina 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's selfish and WAY overprotective and controlling. And even if it wasn't, if he's going to stop you from going without him, he should take you. But it is.
He doesn't have that right. Don't try to make him take you, don't let your friends down, just go and have fun.
Either talk to him about the lack of business he has controlling you in any way, or.. well, dump him.
Good luck.
2006-09-09 16:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go, wether he likes it or not! he does NOT control ur life. and he should trust that u wont do anything bad. tell him that it would mean a lot to u if he came and that u would have a WAY better time if he came. also add that he doesnt HAVE to dance! but make sure he knows that ur going and that if he doesnt trust u enough to go to homecoming, maybe this relationship isnt worthwhile
2006-09-09 15:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he hasn't bought the ticket he isn't going to .I say you go girl and have a blast. you already bought yours.so don't worry about him.he is the one losing out here not you.don't let him or anyone Else hold you back from doing anything that you like to do.why should you miss out on school stuff.
2006-09-09 15:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to go and says you can't then that is just silly... but maybe you could consider doing something else or you could offer him an ultimatum. IF he goes then you could do what he wants another time. And if you really want to go and he still won't budge it's totally fine to go without him.
2006-09-09 15:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by dang girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be allowed to go. Ask him to come and not dance.
2006-09-09 15:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by travelguruette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i cant dance but the girls i had know this so know not to care....just tell him to come because you want him there...but not to dance...
2006-09-09 15:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by boythunder99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋