me and my best frend have been frends for 3 years now, but ive known her for awhile. now for along time alot of her family have wondered if she was gay or bi. because she looks at girls, shes very touchy feely, she always asks questions like what i would do if she was gay..and she ALWAYS gets mad wen im wit another girl. ( friend wise ). at first i thought she was jealous, but ALOT of people said she acts like she has feelings for me as more than a friend. she always plays around and asks me if i would go wit her nd things, but i never take her seriously. Im straight and i dont like girls, but i cant help to feel attracted to her. shes the only girl i ever looked at in that way. and i have a strong feeling that she feels the same way. Only i dont want to make a move or tell her anything cause theres always the chance that shes not. its kinda like you start liking someone cuz u think they like you. thass how i feel. i cant tell if she likes me.or if shes over friendly??
2006-09-09 08:50:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she is in love with you as more then a friend and if you have strong feelins for her then you are probably bi sexual means you like both boys and girls nothin wrong with that you can't help it.
2006-09-09 08:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I dunno - you gals are who you are right? This may sound really strange, but if I was your father I guess I would rather you experiment with a girlfriend than with the guys you know? But that's on a purely superficial level - I know there are a lot of emotions involved. I don't know if this is good advice or not - I am practicing here maybe for future stuff when my kids get older - but I don't think you should worry about defining yourself as "bi" or "gay" or whatever. Rather I would try and examine inward and see what is stirring these emotions. Is it simply the intimacy you crave? A level of comfort that is missing elsewhere? Just pure lust? Life is pretty complicated. My hope is that whatever you girls decide to do or whatever you decide to define yourself you remember to try and have fun. You're both right at the start of your lives - all the important stuff is yet to come!!! Another concern I have - all this experimenting - is it possible that you're in this frame of reference where you have to decide if you're "gay" comes from external pressure? I mean - and I hope I don't insult anyone - isn't it kinda trendy to be gay these days amongst the younger crowd? That's another inner check point for you... I see kids and I just don't think they are really gay. It's hard to describe but I sorta just think I know when someone is really gay and there's a difference between someone who is, who is pretending to be and a person who is pretending not to be. The other factor - and this will offend some I guess - there's a social stigma between guys that is stronger than between girls in terms of affection and intimacy. Women can "get away" with a lot more without being called out by their peers. Women kissing, touching intimately, etc. seems to be glorified and put on display for the pleasure of men. Weird huh? Yet another inner check point - do you enjoy giving others a thrill by being "bad" with your friend? Does it shock people in a way that is pleasing to you? So what am I trying to say? Does this make any sense? I guess the take home is: If possible try not to worry too much about it and just live your life one day at a time.
2016-03-27 04:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two spend too much time together and probably are emotional sorts who play off each others' feelings a lot. The girl is probably either truly gay or bi or she is confused by what others tell her.
I'm not sure what you're asking, but it sounds more like you're worried you might do something sexual with her than you're worried about her feelings.
I think it is propinquity? is that the right word. You described it best at the end when you said you like her coz she likes you.
Spend a little less time together and spend more time with other people, but remain friends.
2006-09-09 08:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to put yourself out there, then do it. You may not be ready for the emotional part of doing something like that considering you are "straight". I don't know about you, but I can always tell when someone likes me back, but I have a hard time getting it out just because of the rejection part. Do you think that y'all could actually have a relationship, or are you just being curious to see what would happen? Follow your heart, but use your brain.
2006-09-09 08:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope you will not try to be with her (i mean as a gf) its really tough...me and my bestfriend are not together right now 8 yrs of friendship i cant find it now....=( We do have problems and we need space ..we dont talk even text each other....the thing is she became my gf and then when finally the love is over (there is so many reasons why i fall out of love) we decided to be as bestfriend again ..then when i fall inlove with another girl (which i never thought i will be again) she get so jealous and now look what i got ...actually look what i lost ...i lost her she hates me....idont know when we will be okay again..i hope we will be ok in time. she wants me to choose between her and the girl i love ..now im sad very sad....i miss her as my bestfriend =(
2006-09-09 09:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by cat&dog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just decide which you prefer, her or guys. It doesn't really matter how exactly how she feels, it's about how you feel. It's probably better not to get into it unless you are sure, because some people are like that and really unaware. But you know her, you'd probably be able to tell best.
2006-09-09 08:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until next time she acts interested in you and press the point however you want to.
2006-09-09 09:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by SL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just like the way she makes you feel. Could you really like make out with her and more?
2006-09-09 08:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, talk to your friend and express your feelings. Lay it all out. Good Luck!
(girls are fun!)
2006-09-09 08:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait a little while longer, and if it seems lke she likes you then go ahead. she might actually make the first move
2006-09-09 08:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by ♥LiL MiZ THANG ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋