Sex for the first time?

Question

Does sex for the first time hurt? I'm really worried that i wont know what to do? I've read questions on here about what to wear also does this matter? If so what do girls like guys to wear for the first time?
Any advice please?

I know that we are both young (16), but i have bought condoms & we really want to do it, so please dont just answer by saying no dont do it, or anything nasty.

Answer 1

u really love each other.
use a condom or 2 if u wanna last longer.
yes it may hurt her.
it's over pretty quickly, just hold her.
:)
yep i do think u're a lil young, but would u listened 2 me if i told u 2 wait a year?
thought not.

Answer 2

Well, I see that you got lots of advice from the girls saying that she may hurt but you won't. I wonder how all those ladies know so much about us but think we don't understand them.

Actually, it can hurt you the first time because for some guys the foreskin can be a bit tight until they have some sexual experience. It should'nt be too tight because you should have stretched it when cleaning but some parents and kids are too embarassed to get enough personal hygiene education as well as enough sex education.

Apart from all the other good advice you received about morals and babys and condoms and technique, do make sure you are clean and that your skin pulls back easily and painlessly.

And pull your skin back BEFORE you put it in or you may not get it in at all.

Apologies if I am preaching to the converted, that is if your foreskin has already been removed.

Answer 3

Please, please, wear a condom. If you're determined to do it, heck, wear two condoms. You can't be too careful. Yes, it will hurt her. She may even bleed a little bit, so when you pull it out don't be surprised to see a little blood. Yes, I completely recommend you wait until marriage. But.....if there's no turning back.....let her be on top. She needs to be the one in control.

Don't get in a hurry.

And both of you should talk about it before hand. Talk about it a lot!! Prepare each other for what is fixing to happen. The most important thing for both of you to be aware of is that it could be a complete mess. Discuss the fact that you may pop off before you even get it in.

If you haven't already, it may be a good idea to try hand and oral for a while. Then graduate to penetration.

If you don't have any idea what I'm talking about, then you're too young to be doing anything.

Answer 4

now that you are sexusally educated about condoms as well as the risks involved, i would say that you are more prepared then a lot of youngsters. if you were my child i would hope that you don't do it yet, but many parents need to be thankful when their children(young adults)do in fact ask these questions. to me it is a sign of maturity and that you are not just rushing into it.

you have not mentioned if your or her parents have a view on your sexuality. hopefully her parents are open enough to make sure she is on the pill or taking some precaution, as condoms don't allways do the trick.

only she may feel some pain, but not necessarily so. don't be scared, because it is a natural thing between 2 people who care about each other, and all us pros(and that is professionals- not Prostitutes) had our first time where we were also unsure or nervous.

Answer 5

Tell ya right up front what girls like is foreplay, minimum of 20 minutes. Hand cuddling of privates, licking and a little teaseing. It hurts the girl the first time not the guy. Often not so fun for the girl the first time but if you take your time and wait till she gets so wet she is about to drip it will be better for her. Want a little extra thrill make sure you are looking her in the eye when you first penitrate. That is something you can take with you where ever you go the rest of your life. Learn about getting her pregnant b4 you go for it cuz that is something you can pay for the rest of your life. Lotsa sites for that eduction Men hardly ever regret taking the opportunity when they get it and do when they don't but that is not a rule for women so remember that.

Answer 6

like others have said nature will guide you through, ul be fine. but make sure you use protection and make sure u both want this and that u will not regret it in years to come.. and as for pain yes it hurts the girl... i suggest u let her do whatever she feels comfortable with... i preferred the bottom when i lost my V but some ppl prfer bein on top it depends how much control the girl wants. the pain is not unbearable and gets a lot easier after the first few times of goin up... just be slow and gentle n both of u relax....

please make sure u use protection and ur both very sure its what u both want 4 all the right reasons and not 4 the sake of jus wantin 2 lose it!! as for what to wear no i wouldnt say it mattas just be comfy... just wear th condom id suggest getting ya girlfriend on the pill to but take it for a few weeks b4 so u no its fully working!! good luck in whatever u both decide hun!x

Answer 7

Really dont worry about what to wear for the first time. Just be comfortable mostly. I am sure you will both be nervous so just take it slowly and dont rush. Dont have any expectations. Everyone has different experiences and if you love each other it will be great.
For a woman, they may feel a burning sensation to start with but take it slow and she will be fine.
Be clean above all. Smell nice and be gentle. Plenty of time ater for wildness!!! ;O)

Answer 8

It won't be painful for you, but it will be for your girlfriend & she is likely to bleed a little as you will break her hymen. Just remember to be very gentle, especially during the initial penetration. also make sure your girlfriend is lubricated, if she isn't naturally then try using k-y jelly. It will be quite painful for her without lubrication. It is very important to wear a condom, it's got nothing to do with what a girl likes a guy to wear, but you must wear a condom to avoid pregnancy & sexually transmitted diseases (STD), better to be safe than sorry.
If you're unsure about anything, go to your doctor or family planning clinic, anything you discuss with them will be confidential.
I hope this has been of help, good luck & don't worry, just be relaxed, both of you.

Answer 9

First of all, if you (and I suspect it IS you, not her) are going to "do it" and nothing we say can stop you you need all the protection you can get because there is NO SAFE SEX period. Condums have an effectiveness of 75-85% at max. Birth control pills 80-90%, together about 95%. Spermicides and condums together about 90%. The bottom line is SHE CAN GET PREGNANT.
If she does you are financially responsible for 21 years+.

You two are not old enough for the responsibilities of children. Your parents do not want to raise another set of children. You REALLY need to think about ALL the possible consequences before you have sex including the fact that you will probably get caught and you probably will not really enjoy the experience because of the guilt it will create for both of you. You two will probably break up after your sexual experimentation as well.

Do you want all these things? Do you respect her enough to wait? Can you be man enough to respect yourself as well to wait for marriage.

Remember this: the ONLY thing you can give to your future wife and her to her future husband that no one else can give is your virginity.

Respect yourself. Respect her. Wait. You WILL be glad you did.

Answer 10

deffo go for it. just make sure your both relaxed and mother nature will do the rest. it will all come naturally and if it does go a bit wrong dont worry as it takes practice to get it so you both feel good pleasure. dont rush things and if its your gf 1st time be gentle as it will hurt her this is because the walls of her vagina are not used to opening up and so they are being stretched and also remember to use those condoms.good luck