marriage question?

Question

So we've been married almost 2 yrs we have a kid and he never takes me out anywhere, he says we cant go to the movies cus my son wont watch them, he says we cant do anything that isnt for kids, yet he figures out a way to go out to concerts with his buddy, and that makes me sad that he can figure out a way for his friend but for me there is no way ... what should i do ?

baby sitting isnt an issue, we can get his mom or my mom to watch him. I think he doesnt really wanna take me out. We only go to the mall or to eat, but id like going like on a date like both of us by ourselves, and he says we are not dating anymore, but we really have no life as a couple. he isnt affectionate at all and we rarely have intimacy.

Answer 1

tell him that you want to go out with him on a date night tell him you have a babysitter if this won't work get a babysitter or someone you trust to watch the baby for the next concert buy your ticket and go with a friend if he can go out without you then you need to go out with your friends
If he can find ways to go out so can you bottom line what is good for him is good for you

Answer 2

Just go ahead and plan an evening without OKing all the details with him. If he's normally home the same time everynight you don't even need to tell him it's happening because you know he's gonna be available and you just spring it on him the day of so he can't get out of it. Then see what happens. It should be fun but if he constantly complains or seems unhappy to be on a date with you then there is another issue there. He may have lost interest in the relationship. He may be stressed out. A lot of things. He might just be taking you for granted and needs to realize he should be more appreciative and that marriage takes work.

Answer 3

Damn wish i could give you a big hug right now.Definetly feel that you need to talk and from a bloke's point of view i think that you are right to feel the way you do.
I think that all couples go through this when or just after a child arrives but there still should be time for the two of you and intimacy.

Answer 4

You married a selfish boy. Tell him either you two get your act together or you are going to get a divorce. He probably won't understand it but he is married and has to behave like a family man now. You two need time alone. Get a grandma to babysit while you two go out.
His buddy may be the problem and the only way out of that is too move your family as far away as possible.

G.G.

Answer 5

I am sorry for what you are going through, I think you need to sit down with your husband and make him to look at your eyes, open your mind and tell him honestly how you are feeling about your relationship. tell him the things that aren't working out, be specific in what you would like to change about you both. 2 years of marriage is still a short period of time to get used to a new life together, But is also good timing to start making some arrangements before it's too late.
I think your husband still feels like he is a young guy and wants to hang out with his bodies and forgets he has a wife who needs more attention. Try not to argue with him, better talk.
I have been married for over 2 years as well.. MY husband and I try to communicate as much as we can , I do it more often than he does, I've realized guys have trouble or tend to hide some of their emotions and deep feelings.
Be patient and try to work out all the differences. psychologists says that the first tool to keep love in a marriage is to communicate with your spouse,
I hope your relationship gets better over the years. Don't worry too much, but don't forget to talk to him about all that bothers you OK?
GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU!

Answer 6

sounds like you two need some serious counciling . everyone mom deserves to go out and before that hire a baby sitter to watch them for a few hours. can't stat at home all the time is in not healthy ... tell him to take you out and hire a aby sitter for the night or whatever. my parents still have me watching my 2 and 3 and 7 year old
sisters from tie to time and they are all adopted and i am 23 its ok to h ire a babysitter anf go out while someone takes care of them . in other words"tell him everyone needs out even coupes need out sometimes. " you need to refresh your relationship and sex isn't the only way"

Answer 7

Hire a babysitter and go out with YOUR friends, or when he comes home one day tell him MY turn and let him watch the child. He will take a hint and relieze that you can hire a baby sitter so the two of you can go out together after a time or two

Answer 8

It is sad to read of your predicament. You are not the only person in such a relationship and finding it hard for your partner, to continue to date and take you out.

What you have to do is to lay your cards on the table and tell him how you feel and go from there. You alone will know what is right for you and no one else.

Answer 9

what' good for the goose is good for the gander, call your friends get a babysitter and go out with your friends. Have a good time ,he'll get the picture. Don't stay home waiting for him just go, when he decides to ask you out tell him no you keep the baby
we can't have fun with the kids.

Answer 10

if it goes like that, he will find someone else. so dont let the things go worse. probably he fears of being father -even if he is a father. it is a typicall fear though. marriage consultation can work. dont be late for anything. if you dont let your romantic and passionate life to finish, then it wont finish under normal conditions. dont let love to finish, save your man, save your family. you will be good. best wishes.