I am 34 she is 33. My wife and I have have always looked out for other people, specifically family members. And more specificall my father and Grandmother. We have done our best to provide for them while our relationship suffered. Most of the relationship suffered because I never say anything to my family whom is been living with us for the better par of 8 years. I have finally said what I need to say to my father and he is moving out. How do I convince my wife that I have change and to give me that all important one more chance to prove to her that I am her man?
2006-09-09 08:22:59 · 8 answers · asked by smycoach2002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this is the husband of the wife who posted a while ago, then all I have to say is give her time to see that u are making good on your word. U can't just expect her to stop feeling angry all of a sudden as it took u 8 yrs to finally give your parents the boot.
2006-09-09 08:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know but i heard the same post by a woman talking about your situation(about in laws living with them for 8 years and she is sick of it) maybe she was your wife??? here is the post
In-laws have lived w/ us for 8 yrs & won't move! They can afford it. Husband won't speak up! What should I do?
In-laws won't offer to help around the house - they pay little to nothing for rent. They moved in to "pay off credit card debt" but now are taking advantage of us. Husband has to be told to speak up or else it won't get done. I feel it is my husband's place to stand up and take charge since it is his father that lives with us and because he is the man of the house. I'm pulling my hair out and want to leave. Am I wrong for wanting out? I feel that I always take care of everything and that my husband has to be told - like a little boy. I need advice on how to handle this! Should I get a divorce and start over? I'm 33, no children. We've talked about this issue until I am blue in the face and nothing ever gets resolved! We've been together (meaning us and his family) for almost 10 years! What should I do?
2006-09-09 15:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Binky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too late. You may have decided to talk to your father after the 50th ultimatium. Responsible for your father? What about your responsibility as a husband? You allowed him to lay around the house and dictate our lives for too long. Now that you see your money train (me) is leaving, panic starts to set in. I'm just sorry it's taken me this long to wake up. You're like a child that has to be constantly told what to do. Our dog Boomer listens better than you. You may want to have your daddy stick around to help you pay the bills-until the house sells. As for the other house we own, I'll be the one occupying it until we find a buyer. You may have a good heart, but apparently I wasn't good enough to have a place in it...
2006-09-09 15:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by LULU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the same guy who's wife posted here a while ago.
DUDE its about freaking time you got some backbone. Do you realize almost everyone told her to dump your butt and that you must be a Mommy's boy. She will NOT believe you until they are out. How she endured this for this long is beyond me. You really need to make this up to her but I cannot fathom how.
2006-09-09 15:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think time is the only answer. you will just have to prove yourself
and not put her under to much pressure
good luck i hope everything works out
2006-09-09 15:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
small nice gestures are the keys for a woman´s heart.Kiss her more often, buy flowers even if its nos valentine´s day or her birthday, tell her she looks good....and just wait for the results....
2006-09-09 15:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by kondicissima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her on a romantic getaway
2006-09-09 15:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by EVY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it real, and talk to her
2006-09-09 15:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋