Im kind of confused, 30 and now going to be a single parent. Other than the initial attention for being attractive which is flattering and a few nights out what does a man bring to a relationship?
I have dated loads of idiots and now Im going to be a single parent at 30, financially Im sucessful and now Im looking forward to enjoying my life not looking for some horrible man to promise marriage and children and not deliver. I just feel really happy. I want to know what Im missing out on or I should be enjoying with a man on the scene?
2006-09-09 08:22:28 · 28 answers · asked by oceanwaves 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In answer I don't think Im bitter.
Sex is not that much an incentive I would just get a **** buddy NOT a boyfriend husband!
As for being Daddy to my child or helping look after no thanks. I want my child to feel secure thanks, having men who are not commitmentted or proposed into your child's life is dangerous and I will be living with those consquences not some random men who will move onto his next conquest!
2006-09-09 08:39:30 · update #1
and Im not depressed live has never been better !! Honestly !!!
2006-09-09 08:41:25 · update #2
to add I don't date guys long (longest relationship say 6 months) so it's not that I have no been single long, I would say I have always been single in my mind.
2006-09-09 08:44:35 · update #3
I thought exactly like you about 3 years ago - till one fine August morning ... I met the man of my dreams.
He is my best friend, my soulmate, he makes me laugh when I'm down, he looks after me when I'm ill, he cooks for me when I come home late (from work), he knows me like nobody else does and he is now my husband. So even if I thought I'd be happy forever on my own - we are twice as happy now.
2006-09-09 08:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by soulsurfer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you are missing out on anything at the minute, you don't seem to want to have a man in your life and their are women who are just like that, they really get on better with everything when it is just them an their own.
I don't think you are bitter but you have an opinion on men that would suggest that you have being hurt in the past really bad and you have come to the conclusion that you are better off without them, maybe I am wrong and if I am i apologise.
If you are with the wrong person then you are missing out on nothing but fights and misery but if you have met the right person then you are missing out on one of the most special and long lasting relationships that anyone can have. it has being said that if it is the one for you it can be almost as close as a mother and child.
I don't know if this has helped you, hope it has.
god luck on being a single parent. hope you find the answers you are looking for.
2006-09-09 10:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by vexon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What i can say is this. Do what is in your best interest and don't let your decision be swayed by people or Religion. For there is Religion and there is Reality. It is not easy to meet some one decent and you your self wrote about dating lots of idiots and not one of them making the grade.
Lots of men and women promise things and never deliver. Some times it is best to be a single parent than to be in a relationship with a man and you are miserable and have to face divorce court.
Like i said do what is in your best interest as it is not easy to meet some one decent.
2006-09-09 08:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all about partnership and friendship. There's no hard and fast rule that you must be paired to someone just for the sake of saying you have someone. Everyone always says: If I could only meet the right person who can make me feel confident, happy, and secure, then my life would be perfect. Thats a load of bull excrement. The key is to already be confident, happy, and secure independent of someone else. Then if you should meet someone you can concentrate on the building a partnership based on friendship. Its not worth settling for anything less. Its better to be happy alone than miserable together.
2006-09-09 08:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Carole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says, "money answereth all things" but also says again somewhere, "money does not answer all things" both of which are practically correct and true to life. Money can take you places but a time comes when it does not give fullfilment. At that point you will realize that relationship is better.
What a true man does is to provide an enabling environment for a fullfilled life for his spouse.
2006-09-09 08:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by Philippus ogborielemoso 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i was under the impression you were supposed to share the burden of life and help each other reach your goals and dreams. Alack not every one can get that. Please take a break from men. You sound bitter, and a bitter woman is a bad date. It's not all our faults you've been seeing butt heads. So Hitler gassed the Jews, now you are going to gas the men. Oh Great
2006-09-09 08:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by thecharleslloyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk about idiots,,,,well I think it sounds like you married one too. A good b/f or husband is hard to find but they are definitely out there. Plz beware and don't get caught up again in what you were just in. Life is too short for B.S. ....Take care and good luck on you being single and enjoying life once again!
2006-09-09 08:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you look like? I am a single guy of 36, not at all horrible, and happy though not very rich. If I was your boyfriend I'd cook a bit, help you bring up your child, and shag you whenever you fancied it.
2006-09-09 08:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kango Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious to me that the men in your life brought exactly what you expected them to bring.... nothing....
In a relationship people must talk about what is expected from all involved, not just wonder if their partner is ever gonna step up to the plate.
What did you provide in your relationships? A little sex for favors?
Some I'll give your some if you will do what ever..........
2006-09-09 08:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Chief 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so happy why are you questioning if you are not. Just enjoy yourself. It doesnt sound like you have been single for long. You deserve to be happy with or without a man. Enjoy your freedom.
2006-09-09 08:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋