I really really hate the fact that I'm 27 and have to go through seeing pregnant women waddling in the streets. I can't help but get angry at them. And I think its all because I live alone - I have no man, I have no life, all I do is go to work, school and salsa class. But it really angers me to see these pregnant women. They make me feel like I am not woman enough in this world. Is this a normal reaction? because I don't like this ugly feeling but they make me so mad....
2006-09-09 07:50:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You do have a life. Work, school, salsa class...those are all things that I used to take for granted before I became a mom. Don't get me wrong, I love my family, but it's a huge change from my single days. Relish these times. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want. As for having a man, you have yourself and you have a great life. LOVE THIS!!!!
2006-09-10 10:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi you are so not alone, i sometimes feel this way, , i am getting married next year but would love to have a baby. It makes me angry when i see pregnant women and women younger than me walking around pregnant with babys and everything is all fine and dandy. its even worse when your cousin who had her first baby who is only a year older than you and everyone is happy for them, when i feel if i was to get pregnant and have a baby no one would be happy for me and say it was wrong. It gets me angry when i have to chose some baby clothes as well for the new born as i so much want a baby. Its not you so please dont put yourself down, every women is woman enough to have a baby. If you think about it though with your busy lifestyle would you have time for a baby, as you do seem very busy, and obviously you need to meet a man you sound very socialble as you go to salsa class so why dont you try dating one day a week. Its not an ugly feeling its just an natural feeling.
All i do is try to keep myself positive and think that mast women have babys for the wrong reasons and really your looky, you have a job and get time to go to salsa class, when women with babys and have to pay for carers if both parents love to work, nurserys are not cheap. Also it sound like you are a teacher and you are around children everyday so my be this is why you seriously like a child of your own. You are not jelous just
2006-09-09 08:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have half your answer already. Ignore the obnoxious comments on your answers and read those that show empathy for they are excellent comments. You understand your feelings are ugly and maybe a bit stronger than is normal..but they are your feelings and thus are not insane or wrong. Next time a preggy lady passes your way..just try smiling at her. She is feeling like a whale and probably admires your trim body with a wishful heart..she will have so much work to do to get her body back and a little one to tend to...she may just envy you a little bit!
2006-09-09 08:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kay 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I feel your anger/pain. I am 23, in school, and am at work when I am not in school. I dont have much of a life either. But I am married. It makes me angry and depressed seeing all the pregnant women around me when I am unable to have one at the moment.
2006-09-09 07:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everything that they have will come to you as well, don't worry and don't be upset. Then you will be a pregnant woman and looking at a slim beautiful girl like you are now and saying Ithat you hate all these slim girls because you feel so huge!
2006-09-09 07:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie.. It's totally normal. I used to feel the same way. (I down want to be a bummer, but I found out I'm pregnant a few days ago.) One day.. It'll happen. You'll be a great mama
2006-09-09 07:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal....and if you want it, you'll get it, don't worry. If it makes you feel any better, as a mother of 2, I look at women who don't have kids and feel some tinge of jealousy towards them, just because they are so free to do whatever they want. I love my kids, don't get me wrong, but I think we all want what we don't have sometimes. I'll get my freedom back when my kids get a little older, and you'll get your kids someday, I promise.
2006-09-09 07:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by qamberq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you a want a baby find a husband and have one it is not all the other pregnant womens fault dont take your jealousy and ignorance out on them grow up.
2006-09-09 08:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by Angela M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
come on now it is not there fault that you have nobody and are not pregnant why dont you just hook up with a guy just to have a baby but dont be jealous if you like that then maybe you do not need a kid
2006-09-09 07:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in the real life people really didn't like to do what they do, if you willing to help don't get angery, try to control you temper in fact. some time these people might need some help......
So see what you can do. !
2006-09-09 07:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by hlam909 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋